My father died while we weren’t talking how do I cope with that?

[Anonymous]

My father and I fell out and wasn’t talking. I was able to talk to him about all of my issues with him from a child to adult and I no longer was mad at him but I still didn’t want to talk to him. Over his last year alive we spoke more on the phone and everything was fine I no longer held a grudge. My father suddenly dying doesn’t feel real and part of me feels like maybe god detached me from our relationship so that I could move forward with my life faster. But I just can’t help but regret not being able to talk to him about my problems instead of holding it in. How do I forgive myself forgive my father and move forward

[petitedollbabee]

It’s a hard one. Everyone feels regret when a loved one passes away. “Maybe I should’ve reached out more, maybe I should’ve done this or that, etc etc”. It’s a natural way of thinking and over time it will stop once you’ve reached the final step of grief: acceptance. Therapy might be helpful for you during this hard time. Sorry to hear about your dad passing, sending my best wishes.

[Nikki1989]

Forgiveness doesn't mean condoning his actions or pretending the conflict didn't happen. It's about releasing the burden of anger and resentment that can weigh you down.

[ABC1x1x]

Your dad probably thinks you are a bitch. Because I do. Get over it pussy

[Asker]

Yup that’s why he still left me 9 rental properties and over a million in other assets while we weren’t even talking. He knows what kind of man I am

[ABC1x1x]

A bitch. None of that happened. I don't believe it and neither donyou

[Asker]

I wish I was lying.

[ABC1x1x]

Send me 1 bitcoin and I'll be your daddy. Give you that peace your craving.

[ABC1x1x]

Ill give you that hard advice. Clearly.

[ABC1x1x]

Because i don't care about you... just like your dad

[Asker]

Don’t be mad at me. your dad the one who took one look at you and said “nah I’m good.” I’ve trolled on the internet before and I’ve said some shitty things in person to people. but I thank god I’ve never been so miserable inside that I talk shit to a total stranger about their parent dying. I thank god for the time I had with my father. I thank god that my dad was an entrepreneur who never punched a clocked once in my entire life. You hate yourself and that’s sad.

[EmmaMary]

Sincerest condolences for your loss.