Should I not have spoken to my ex?

Question

My boyfriend dumped me over a misunderstanding few mornings ago. He thought that I was lying about where I was because something wasn't adding up right. I tried calling him back after dumping me but he wouldn't answer. About a few hours later, an ex I haven't been with in a year calls me. I haven't spoken to my ex since I got together with this guy until this moment. We stayed on the phone for only an hour and we didn't really speak about anything. Later that night, my boyfriend calls and pretended like nothing happened. I brought up him dumping me but he said it was just kidding and he overreacted. I let him know that I had spoken to my ex earlier that day and he was pretty furious about it. Still is.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Your ex is your ex for a reason. I personally don't speak to my exes at all. There's a passing nod if we happen to see one another and that's about it. I don't go out of my way to contact them.

In your situation, if Ex1 called you... and you thought your current boyfriend had genuinely dumped you and was Ex2... then there wasn't really anything wrong with your talking to Ex1 at all. HOWEVER if you told Ex2 for the sole purpose of making him jealous, then yeah, that was a shitty thing to do.

Personally, I wouldn't deal with Ex2 for the simple reason that he goes hot and cold regardless of the conversation you had with Ex1... But that's something you have to choose on your own.