Why am I not sad after my breakup from a long term relationship?

[piano]

We've been together just for 2 months but I don't feel sad for our break up. Have you ever felt like that after a break up?

[jennifer_bloom]

I believe I can be happy with or without my boyfriend.

[Purpleronnie]

I have a hard time reconciling 2 months as a long term relationship. Unless you were living in the same room as a person for 2 months straight I don’t know that you could know a person well enough to have feelings for them.. but that’s just my view

[Finchie40]

Because 2 month is is a short period of time , so it’s easier for you to move on

[Account]

Because you have already broken up in your mind, prior to technically breaking up. Also you might be one of those people that it hits them later on so there is that possibility too.

[Account]

had already broken up* not have

[hannah]

You might have already processed your emotions during the relationship, if it wasn't fulfilling for you. Two months, may not have been long enough to form deep emotional bonds. You could also be in shock or denial, with emotions surfacing later. Maybe you might feel relieved if the relationship was stressful or not right for you. Everyone processes breakups differently, so your reaction is valid.

[DishLady]

Yeah. The smell of freedom was phenomenal.

[abby1980]

There’s no right or wrong way to feel post-breakup. Feeling relief or a lack of sadness after a breakup, can be completely normal. Especially, if you had been unhappy or feeling disconnected for a while in your relationship, the breakup might feel more like a release than a loss. You may also have had time to mentally and emotionally prepare for the end of the relationship, leading to acceptance rather than sadness. And maybe you’re focusing on personal growth and the opportunities ahead, allowing you to embrace a sense of freedom.

[Alli112]

a) 2 months isn't that long in the grand scheme of things (there's this rule of thumb that it tends to take half as long to get over someone fully as you spent in the relationship) and b) you might have just not been that deep into it or already been emotionally disconnected before the break-up happened.

[Delle123]

2 Months isn’t very long. You didn’t REALLY know her that well

[TommyMountainFigure]

You see? :)))))) This is what a troll question is SUPPOSED to be all about.. A lot of thought went in to this.. Kudos to you for that!

[Juxtapose]

Oh you mean you think he is being a subtle troll? I can see it after you mentioned that because he has a lot of plausible deniability. Even I am not sure if this is a genuine troll or if the guy is just sincerely confused about how relationships work.

[TommyMountainFigure]

@Juxtapose He would have to be SEVERELY confused to call it a long term relationship, then in the same breath say it was JUST two months! That has to be deliberate. I'm taking it as such anyway.

[Juxtapose]

If this was a deliberate trolling attempt why would he intentionally be contradictory?

[TommyMountainFigure]

@Juxtapose I'm taking it as a 'clue..'

[delsworld]

It usually means you were never truly committed or the relationship kind of died before the actual break-up.

[Jbear27]

Was this in dog years? 2 months isn’t even enough time to know a person. You’re still getting through the bullshit facade at that point in most cases.

[Sonorous]

Maybe you're weren't bonded with them much? Or maybe you've spoken too soon & will feel sad later on? Don't know.

[LiamJHayden]

I have never been sad after a breakup. If we both wanted to remain together, we would have; therefore at least one of us was unhappy. Why would I want to saty in a situation where I, or she, was unhappy?

[rienna888]

It means you don’t really care for that relationship. Possibly due to it being a short relationship. For me, I usually don’t care after two years into a relationship lol.

[Jessikaah91]

2 months? Lol no wonder, you haven't had that much time with each other really...

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

Maybe you're glad to be rid of your ex.

Maybe being in a relationship with your ex was more stressful than it was worth.

[provokeesmokee]

You consider 2mths long term?

No wonder you don't feel shit.

[false_prophet]

Two months? LMAO that’s what people are calling long term these days? I hope your a kid because if not that’s depressing for our society.

[avery58]

Because 2 months isn't a long term relationship

[NotSlowestSloth]

Did you had small fights all over the relationship?

Or did it end suddenly?

In case of former, love or whatever it was will erode slowly.

[HH1488]

Maybe you are a sociopath or a psychopath. It's not that bad. It really doesn't change that much. It helps you if you figure it out though. Gives you time to learn how to fake it and live a normal life.

[CallmeTheKnight]

2 months isn’t long term at all. You just didn’t wanna be with that person

[AlfApAşA]

Apparently, the woman you broke up with is a Value candidate for dating 🤠

[In_Trance]

This makes no sense.
Was it long-term or was it 2 months?

[KelsoAlexander]

anything a year plus is long term anything shorter is a test drive

[NathanDavis]

well, that's good... keep it up

[blueonblack22]

2 months? 😆😆😆

[PeachyPie93]

Is that a long term relationship? lol

[RavVid]

I wouldn't call 2 months long term.

[SweetJoyGirl]

Because 2 months is nothing really. lol

[ProbablyClueless]

2 months isn't a long time, for one thing.

[Nikki1989]

Well 2 months is nothing.

[Twalli]

Because you know breaking up was for the best.