I kissed my ex, now I’m confused?

[Anonymous]

Just over 2 weeks ago I saw my ex for the first time in 8 months (since the break-up) at a mutual friends birthday. She broke up with me after a few weeks of intensity, jealousy (on both sides) and she felt a bit suffocated I think. It was nice to see her, we got on well, but as the evening went on I felt tension building, and I complimented her on a couple occasions. At the end of the evening (we had both drank but weren’t blackout drunk), we sat just us and we started to reminisce about old times. I told her how much I loved her when we were in the relationship, and she began to cry and told me she had missed me. She asked if i was dating, to which I said we shouldn’t speak about that. I ended up going back to hers, we kissed and I slept over at hers and we cuddled. We didn’t sleep together but things did happen. She told me she’d wanted to kiss me all night. The day after I left, then texted her not to feel pressured and it was fine if it was a one-off. She replied that it was clear how much love and care was still there, but she is worried about the intensity of the relationship and doesn’t know if she can handle it again. I told her she should take a few days and contact me when her head is clearer and she has thought about things, to which she agreed. It has now been over 2 weeks and I haven’t heard anything from her. I know I extended the offer to take her time, but I feel the need to text her. Should I just leave her to it? Truly, I’m worried that I’ll never hear from her and we won’t ever discuss what happened, which I think is quite disrespectful when you take into account what was said/done. Thoughts?

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Is giving her space and being patient the attractive and most trustworthy thing to do?

[Anonymous]

Everyone wants to know whether the potential partner wants it or not before making bold moves. Everyone, including her, wouldn't want to look stupid begging you to rekindle something when she believes that you're not interested. ﾠ

[The_Confusion]

@Grim_Adjudicator look, the rude influencer will not receive MHO now.

[Purpleronnie]

I think I understand where your at and I think you have a right to be confused as her actions and words then coupled with the. I contact don’t make a whole lot of sense, but it could be them at she did think about and considered that she doesn’t want to slide back to where you started. honestly think going back to her to check in is a bit needy but if you’re ok with that then go ahead. Personally I’d leave it , you have expressed your feelings and she should know what’s on offer.
Move on …

[AviatorTom]

You gave her space and time, which is good. But two weeks is too long. If you really think there might be a way to get back together, it won't hurt to text her with a non-committal "How are you?" and see how she responds. Don't be surprised, though, if she doesn't respond or responds in the negative. When that happens, move on... find someone else.

[DishLady]

You wrote in one huge paragraph and now everyone’s confused….


Ok, so you kissed her, so what? It was clearly a mistake. Being patient isn’t going to solve your issues. An ex is an ex for a reason. Move on.

[moneymagnet24]

You destroy him in your first line 🤣

[The_Confusion]

@moneymagnet24 such nonsense. Even I don't find this confusing!

They went to a friend's party, got tipsy, kissed, slept mostly together for a night, she wanted to restore the relationship and he gave her a couple days to think about it with a clear head, she interpreted it as an excuse to not bluntly reject her.

[Finchie40]

Just move on man , taking an ex back is a waste of time , , she probably realized the same thing

[luvstoned4him]

Her not contacting you back IS the sign.

Accept that's it's over and move on

Clearly the both of you have some issues that lead to the end of the relationship and unless there is gonna be total change , I don't see this working well for the both of you

You both are probably good people just not with each other

[sawno]

She has shown some reluctance so its ok to check in with her what she wants, but expect a rejection.

[TonyV]

She dumbed you, cause neither of you trusted the other before so why deal with that bs again

[TommyMountainFigure]

Nah nah nah. I'm certain that's not how the Katy Perry song goes!

[Juxtapose]

If you want to talk to her then just talk to her. If she really doesn't want to talk to you she should say so.

[DrPepper12]

Keep waiting it out. It's a vulnerable and confusing time for both of you.

[Crazzyyworld]

Well if thing didn’t work before it will not this time. You have to move on