Did I get ghosted?

[Jenny265]

I think I may have been ghosted by my boyfriend. I met him last summer and we became boyfriend and girlfriend in November 2023. It was unfortunate that he had a work related injury which caused him to get numerous surgeries and I've stuck by his side ever since. He's been out of work which frustrated him.. he always told me he was never able to do things with me because of his injury and that other people would just leave him because they wanted to have fun. I tried to make things work and his financial situation was also not so great because of workers comp screwing him over. I haven't seen him in over a month because long story short his grandmother passed away back in May and he's had to help sell her home since he was renting it out and agreed with her he would live there because she wanted that. I know he's been dealing with a lot with surgeries and such but I haven't heard anything from him for 2 weeks. The last time we texted his responses were short saying he was on his way to see this doctor or ill ttyl and blah blah. But I didn't hear anything. I tried reaching out last Tuesday and nothing. He won't respond to me saying I missed seeing him and talking to him. My one guy friend said he's not ghosting on purpose but that he's stressed. I feel like he would have reached out by now to at least communicate. I'm tired of waiting around and feel like I should just walk away. Other people tell me he's a narcissist. He has gone silent before this when I made him upset during an argument.

[Avicenna]

You need to talk to him. That could reassure you. Make sure he understands how important it is.

[Jenny265]

I can't because he won't answer me.

[Gent207-2]

Possible red flag

Bad coping mechanism with stress and conflict i. e. running away and ignoring you.

If you close this door you must be absolutely certain and NEVER under any circumstances return.

Or you'll be stuck in a perpetual loop of anxiety like you are experiencing right now

[Jenny265]

Thank you for your response! I also noticed he goes on social media and was on when I was trying to reach out. It's very disheartening. He's also on whats app sometimes

[Gent207-2]

Alright and based on the other comments I can only recommend Plan B No Initiative
Now unlike "going ghost" you don't leave him on readyou just don't send tge first message.

[Jenny265]

I honestly haven't tried to reach out since last Tuesday. But we really haven't talked for 2 weeks maybe almost 3 weeks on the phone. When he did talk to me 2 weeks ago his responses were short... I just dont know if he's avoiding me because of something. If he doesn't want to tell me something? Maybe hiding something. Everyone else tells me to just walk away.

[Gent207-2]

Plan C
Make him jealous
Lol

[Jenny265]

How do I do that? Lol

[Gent207-2]

@Jenny265
May I message you?

[Jenny265]

Sure

[Anonymous]

2 weeks? and he is your boyfriend. yeah something is up for sure. no contact for a couple days is a red flag but 2 weeks and nothing.

you can wait it out and see if he has anything to say in the coming days or just move on

[Jenny265]

Yeah I almost feel like moving on... seems like he's avoiding me for some reason he doesn't want me to know about. No communication for this long is kinda sad. So im not sure if he's ghosting or just avoiding.

[Opinion Owner]

ghosting / avoiding kind of the same thing , ghosting just seems to be a more common term to use these days as it seems to be happening to a lot of people for no apparent reason sometimes. i've been ghosted before for literally no reason or when things easily could of been resolved in person instead , people would rather disappear than have a simple conversation

[Jenny265]

Yeah and there were times when he would ignore me for a week because he was upset and he always came back. I guess I should have walked away a long time ago. But because he was injured from his job and having surgeries I felt like he was just overwhelmed and stressed like my guy friend was saying.

[Billlewis]

Have you tried to get in touch with him?

[Jenny265]

Yes. I tried last Tuesday and before that I tried to call. He won't answer won't respond but goes on social media

[Billlewis]

How about on social media, does he respond to you there?

[Jenny265]

I really haven't tried. He doesn't even acknowledge me on there. I've posted pictures and he ignored it. Its been 2 weeks since I last talked to him and haven't seen him in over a month

[Billlewis]

I just started following you and I'd like to invite you to follow or message me if you'd like. Thank you very much.

[Anonymous]

You guys talk it out