I met this guy at a rave/festival and we were kissing - not much talking tbh. He gave me his number and told me to message him- I was playing hard to get and said I’ll see but he was pleading. This guy he was cute , really tall, a bit awkward ( I thought he was just shy) and so I thought I’d message- no harm in doing that. He straight away asked for a date and I suggested a day. I’m the type of person to go on dates and vibe it out in person- I feel like I can’t flirt over text because I cringe at what I say and also I’m busy with work. This guy for the past few days was messaging me in the morning saying morning beautiful, asking me load of questions, was being flirty and was messaging voice noting fast. He was saying things like how we really vibe and we have a lot of chemistry. I was a bit overwhelmed because I don’t really know him and I’m not his girlfriend and I don’t like putting that much energy in straight away without going on a date. However I was still very responsive and nice and initiate convo as well and vibing back. This guy was older than me so I assumed he wanted something serious because he’s 30 but sometimes he’d make comments which would make me suggest maybe not but it was flirty banter.
however I had a gut feeling about this guy because he was a bit too much and eager. The day before he ghosted me he said he was ill and I assumed he was lying so I gave him an out and told him if he’s not well for Sunday let me know and I said if you’re still interested to go on another date we can. He said that he’s very much still interested and should be fine for Sunday but will let me know and doesn’t want to flake last minute. The next day he’s texting me saying how he’s ill and said let’s take a rain check on the date and i messaged back saying that’s cool and he didn’t say anything after or asked rearrange. He didn’t speak to me for hours that day so I messaged asking if he was feeling ok and Yh he ghosted me. Why are men like this if they seem so eager?
Why did I get ghosted?
