Why did I get ghosted?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy at a rave/festival and we were kissing - not much talking tbh. He gave me his number and told me to message him- I was playing hard to get and said I’ll see but he was pleading. This guy he was cute , really tall, a bit awkward ( I thought he was just shy) and so I thought I’d message- no harm in doing that. He straight away asked for a date and I suggested a day. I’m the type of person to go on dates and vibe it out in person- I feel like I can’t flirt over text because I cringe at what I say and also I’m busy with work. This guy for the past few days was messaging me in the morning saying morning beautiful, asking me load of questions, was being flirty and was messaging voice noting fast. He was saying things like how we really vibe and we have a lot of chemistry. I was a bit overwhelmed because I don’t really know him and I’m not his girlfriend and I don’t like putting that much energy in straight away without going on a date. However I was still very responsive and nice and initiate convo as well and vibing back. This guy was older than me so I assumed he wanted something serious because he’s 30 but sometimes he’d make comments which would make me suggest maybe not but it was flirty banter.
however I had a gut feeling about this guy because he was a bit too much and eager. The day before he ghosted me he said he was ill and I assumed he was lying so I gave him an out and told him if he’s not well for Sunday let me know and I said if you’re still interested to go on another date we can. He said that he’s very much still interested and should be fine for Sunday but will let me know and doesn’t want to flake last minute. The next day he’s texting me saying how he’s ill and said let’s take a rain check on the date and i messaged back saying that’s cool and he didn’t say anything after or asked rearrange. He didn’t speak to me for hours that day so I messaged asking if he was feeling ok and Yh he ghosted me. Why are men like this if they seem so eager?

[Finchie40]

He ghosted you because he probably has a girlfriend already , so he changed his mind about pursuing you , why he was so eager to move so fast with you, it sounds to Me he was just trying to get you in bed as soon as possible to cheat on his girlfriend , So the truth is , he isn’t sick from illness , he is sick in the fucking head. He ghosted you because he eventually realized he more than likely would be caught red handed by his girlfriend , so he pretty Much changed his mind by pursuing you further , he will probably try to contact you again once he feels the timing is right when his girlfriend is at work or away sadly
To say . Most people that ghost others are ghosting mainly for this reason. Because the truth is , if someone really Likes you and wants to get To know you and wants to be with you , they don’t hesitate and make excuses not to see you. Remember these words, and hopefully it will help you if you eventually meet someone else in the future. . Most Girls do this shit as well, Most girls are not innocent especially these days , So my advice is to not fall for this shit , there are so many lying , cheating , selfish pieces of shit on this planet that only think of 2 things , Sex and themselves. most of these type of people , will say what they think you want to hear to get You into bed , and the second they do get you in bed their true colors will eventually shine that they were playing you all along , and they will more than likely ghost you , so they can go back to their partners like nothing ever happened. I have experienced this plenty of times from girls’ that I met at bars and clubs , Most people that go to bars and clubs and raves are there to party and get laid and not really look for a relationship because they more than likely already have one already. I use To work as a bouncer at a night club and the shit I witnessed from people , blew my mind on how selfish people truly are , people cheating on each other left and right , so your chances of meeting someone that’s in it for the long haul are very slim if you meet them at any of these environments. Trust me I can’t say everyone because not everyone is a piece of shit , but sadly a majority of people are in today’s world. So if you are just looking to get laid , Go to those places but if you are seeking a long Term relationship look elsewhere , Fucked up world we live in

[HollyK21]

Since she’s not replying to anyone I’ll just second this and move on lol

[Finchie40]

LOL awesome

[Anonymous]

Still waiting for the part where he ghosted you, because I am not going to just take your word for it because ghosting is mostly bullshit, its a word young people use to explain away having just blocked someone when they werent instantly validated on demand or even and actually far more commonly, without a 'demand', aka ghosting, apparently.

[DarkWinterNights]

Is it possible he just got really sick? If he seemed that interested in you it’s doubtful he would give up before even meeting for a date…

[teamvic]

Just give it time you're probably jumping to conclusion here.

[you_asked]

Sounds like you FFF’d up

[spartan55]

His wife found out.