Why do guys always ghost me and then try to come back?

[Anonymous]

I always get ghosted and they always come back. And if I ignore them they get mad. It’s happened twice where a man has gotten mad because he no longer had access to me after ghosting me. What sucks though is that I always get ghosted. I can’t remember a single thing that ended by the other person that they explained themselves. When I end things I would always give the man closure, but if a man was no longer interested in me they would just ghost. And what sucks the most is that in this pattern, they always come back. Making me wonder if they wanted to come back why leave in the first place? And why leave in such a disrespectful way?

[Bruce24]

Men and women that gost people are shitty people. A decent person at least ses bye or sorry this isn't going to work out its no you its me or something like that. Also is there something you are doing like ignoring text or some other signs that your not interested? And I have to mention that the dating world is kind of hartless so don't get your feeling involved or attached to someone too soon. Also there are times in life where someone does something with out reason and there will never be a reason given. People are full of diferent emotions, anxiety, stress, things go on in there lives. You never know. But at the same time that's no excuse to treat someone a certain way. People exept the love they think that they deserve. Know your self worth and don't settle for less. Everyone deserves to be loved and respected and if anyone should give that to you in this world it's your partner.

[Asker]

I do sometimes come across as uninterested but I’m that’s because of my standards or my living situation. So I’m celibate for example and I haven’t been intimate with anybody in a few years but I try to find a partner who I think is a good fit for me and still be respectful to people. If someone isn’t interested in waiting I would tell them “I understand and it’s no hard feelings.” I never chastised anybody for not having the same mindset as me. I also turned down money from one of the guys because I proudly earn my living and elevate in my own life from my own hard work. I don't know if he saw that as me being disinterested but he started to act less and less interested after that. I match energy so if he pulled away I would too. The other day he tried to talk to me but I didn’t respond. I wasn’t even mad just had lost interest due to the fact that he ghosted me instead of being direct. Another guy eventually confessed that he ghosted me because I told him he could spend the night at my house to play video games but that he would have to sleep on the couch because I am celibate. And another guy simply said “I just didn’t think you were interested.” But I didn’t know what he meant by that because I don’t feel I have him any reasons to feel that way so I just said “ok” and left the conversation at that. I didn’t treat anybody as if I wasn’t interested I just have standards which I felt were understandable and should be respected

[Bruce24]

What your is the best thing for your value as a women. A women like you is a very high value women and you are rare. Keep your standards very high, because waiting till marrage is extremely hard for some people. You are doing the right thing. But sadly you have to compete with women thar are hoes and admire Kim kardashian and sleep with men on the first date.

[DavidRaul]

Well they are assholes looking for something more which you clearly can't give. You might not be interested in hookups and they just ghost you and look for someone interested in having casual sex. This sucks. I have experienced this from many women too. People are just shitty

[ZenJen444]

Who have you ended things with? Sounds to me like they've all left you.

They ghost you because they've found someone they like. They comeback because they're bored, lonely, and their dream girl didn't work out. They know you're weak , insecure and that they can kill time talking with you until their dream girl comes along.

[Asker]

I broke up with three guys and was ghosted by a total of 4 guys. But one of the guys who ghosted me was a guy I had broken up with and taken back when he cried and asked for another chance and promised to change. The point is making is that whenever I did breakup with a guy I was respectful and honest. Every man I ever broke up with I can still call as friends or they still respect me or at least treat me as a person that hasn’t done them wrong. The guys that ghosted me I wasn’t in a serious committed relationship with but I felt that ghosting was unnecessary because I see myself as a really understanding person and 3 of the 4 guys that ghosted me I had given an “out” because I felt that they were losing interest but they would say that they were still interested and then suddenly disappear which I felt was the most disrespectful because I tried to end things out of concern that they SHOULD be with somebody that makes them happy. What I dislike the most is the lying about it accompanied with the fact that they all returned. But since I was ghosted by the guy who I gave another chance to I had learned my lesson about taking people back and so I no longer give second chances for offenses like that. The point that I’m making is that the ghosting just seems really unnecessary. Especially since I have never slept with anybody other than the man I mentioned who I had given a second chance to. He is the only one I ever was intimate with in my whole life

[ZenJen444]

Like I said they've ghosted you because they found someone they like and they come back to kill time because the girl they like didn't work out.

[In_Trance]

because you're lonely and desperate. they see you as an easy target

[Asker]

I’m not desperate at all. Never been desperate

[In_Trance]

tell the guys coming to get a piece of you that

[Asker]

I literally told each man that ghosted me that I didn’t feel the vibe was all the way there and asked if we should end things on good terms and remain either friends or go our separate ways but that we should end on good terms at least. If I was desperate I would be clinging on to trying to keep somebody around but that’s never been me. The point is even though I communicated in a respectful way Its THEM that pretends they want to continue with a more romantic kind of relationship and then ghost instead of just saying “this isn’t working for me”. Plus I never slept with anybody except one ex and that was 5 years ago so I wasn’t even invested in these people that I wanted to keep them around. I don’t accept money that these men offer me, i prioritize my life outside of a relationship and I have standards so the fact you just tried to call me desperate is just weird to me. I just wonder where the need to ghost is coming from and if I was the problem why do they come back? There was no need for you to try to get disrespectful

[Asker]

Your logic makes no sense how is somebody desperate because other people want them? These people come back to me and I don’t allow it. These people leave on their own free will and I don’t chase. You’re just looking for somebody to bother at this point.