I am an ex-Muslim?

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I will be 19 years old soon, I am an ex-Muslim but everyone around me is Muslim, I cannot live the way I want, I cannot tell anyone my ideas, this makes me sad, I am losing hope for life, what can I do?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

One of the best in the coolest things about life is when you get to a certain age you understand when you were born you were given a gift and that gift is choice that gift is your choice and nobody else's choice.

And you also have to understand and respect other people that have made their choices

No I have found in life when doing this they're always seems to be those ones that don't respect my choices

Then I have to make another choice and keep them out of my life I don't care who you are in this world I don't care what you believe in in this world as long as it's not hurting anybody but I will respect anybody and everybody's choice because that's my choice to be that person

I'm not going to judge anybody I'm not going to be little anybody I'm not going to try to convince anybody to make different choices not unless it's going to be hurting somebody I would but in your case

The first choice you need to do is believe in yourself you you're not going to make everybody in this world Happy and the reason why it doesn't matter if you do or not because they're not going to be in your life all your life only you Are so the only thing that matters is if you find yourself and you become that person you want to become because that's what life is all about it's not about you and everybody else it's only about you nobody in this world can make you happy nobody else in this world lives inside of you only you do you are the only one that can make you happy or sad

I have friends that are Muslim I have friends that are gay I have friends that are black I have friends that are white I have friends that are crazy I have friends that are stupid I have friends that are smart. I have friends that are doctors lawyers firemen nurses. A long time ago they all made choices on who they wanted to be they know that they can't please everybody and they know that it's not about everybody it's about them and if somebody doesn't like you because of your choices will so be it there's other people in this world that will like you because they will look at you and say I want to be just like her she's put up against this wall she's going to disappoint her family or she's going to disappoint her boyfriend or whatever but she was strong enough and determined enough to prove to herself she wanted to be who she wanted to be because she believes in the things that she believes in and that's powerful take a stand when life is done and said and all over you can't look back and say I wish I would have done it my way because you're so unhappy trying it other people's way and never becoming who you truly are meant to be . No matter what denomination you are no matter what you believe in no matter what other people believe in believe in this God is still inside of you we are God and we are told that from God and we need to become the best we can possibly be because of this he lives inside of each and every single one of us what would he be doing what would his thoughts be he would say it's a choice make the right one if it's not the right one you will find out somewhere down the road and you can change it again but quit wasting time life is short you have a destiny to fulfill and that is to become the best you could possibly become and be happy more happier than you can become and help other people do the same thing

Levin · Accepted Answer

I think you have to do what you can reasonably do in your situation, and choose your battles.

You have the best idea of what you can practically get away with and how hardline and potentially dangerous those around you are. Unfortunately it will be very isolating and difficult as an outsider. Is there anyone you can bound together with, even if it's online? Or any supportive friends? Community and not feeling alone is going to be very important.

This is why I dislike this religion. It is compulsion through social order. In fact, that's the purpose of Islam, social order.

itsannalee · Accepted Answer

Your life your rules if you have money. But if u still ask money to your parent, better listen them for now. And do whatever u want when u already independent.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Well that's just the main problem of religion when it's tight netted so no one can be free of it then they act all moral and fair.
Not much you can do really if living with such people. You have to find a way to live apart from them and create a new life.

Berethor · Answer

Good that you left islam, you can marry a non-muslim and move to live in other place.

Anonymous · Answer

I dont believe that u r struggling i am an ex muslim too and no one around me knows or care to ask or bother me. I am not struggling to live the way i want. And really u can live without telling Anyone ur ideas. What is exactly the way u want to live? Screaming i am an ex muslim on the street? I dont pray or fast ramdan. I always tell people i am ill and i cannot fast and people understand.

sawno · Answer

Will take time especially if your in an islamic country, but you basically have a journey ahead of you to build up your life with new people who fit you. You just have to go look for them.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I truly sympathize with your endeavour, going against the current of your surroundings is hard as hell

genericname85 · Answer

congratulations for beating the delusion. you got the internet. i bet there are communities for people who think like you even in your country.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Change country :)  You may find a job somewhere else that opens more spiritual tolerance around for yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

Find some better people to hang out with. You need a new tribe. Get out on your own and then find people more suited to you. If you're attractive and reasonably smart, there are a LOT of possibilities for your life.

onedarkcloud · Answer

You do not say whether you live in a Muslim country or America. If you live in a Muslim country you are screwed if you live in America MOVE out

LiamJHayden · Answer

Tell them you want to go to a Western nation to spread Islam and when you arrive seek asylum.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

I feel you. You should probably move.

noohair · Answer

Move

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