I don't want to be a Muslim anymore?

[Idontknow_1]

If you're not Muslim, please do not answer.

Lately i have been feeling very conflicted inside my head. I still believe in Allah and the last day but I just can't agree with some of the things Islam allows. For example:

- Men get the Hoor Al Ayn in paradise.
What do women get? Nothing? It was not mentioned and I feel like I am not going to be happy in Jannah so why should I even Strive for it?

- Men are allowed to have up to four wives in Islam. Even though I am not married I can not help but feel like one day when I am married and have kids, my husband will want to take a second wife. This really makes me angry and it makes me want to be single forever.

I keep crying. I want to still be a Muslim because I beleive in Islam but I just can't accept these things. May Allah forgive me for saying this.

[midnight_shadow]

Hour al ayn: Men needs are more complecated then women (sexual things)
Men are allowed to have four women:
Doesn't mean they HAVE to, there are rules on when can he do that, like is he in need for an other wife because his wife doesn't take care of him or doesn't satisfy his desires? Remember marriage has also a goal for controlling our desires so if a wife can't do that, that goal is broken so he must marry an other one to protect his religion, there really a lot of rulling in this matter.
And no, it is not because that men got all that that we are hated! Heaven is under our feet, not having a lot of mates got only one goal: protect our dignity and purity, have you ever wondered why do we have that delay of time when we are divorced or widowed before getting married again? It is to protect us and protect our purity, sperms stay in our genitals for a certain period of time, so if we marry again before the end of that time we will have a mix of genes, also, our genitals needs time to be prepared for a new mate, like we are used to only one and then suddenly we get a new one so we need preparation, think about it, what if we were allowed to have four men? Will we be different than the other women sleeping around with whoever? Don't think that this is protecting us? There a lot and a lot of other reasons behind this and believe me, you will be thankful for it when you learn them :D you just meed to learn more about your religion ;) so I suggest you to look for Fatawa about this matter and you will never regret it! We all have the right to question things in our religion and Allah never and ever said something in vain until now science has proved a lot of this so just inform yourself about it you will find a lot in google or islamic sites or you can just get in touch with an imam :D in sha Allah you will get free of rhis feeling

[Idontknow_1]

I am reading and listening to fatwas on the things that I have stated. They only make me angrier and angrier and they make me only hate the religion more. Astagfrallah

So I don't want to listen to anymore. I am trying to hold onto the Iman I have left

[midnight_shadow]

At your age you just need to do more research, or study it somewhere it is nit because you found it wrong that it is wrong, the one who decided that is not a mere human but Allah, he knows everything and knows why he said that or that, so maybe you can forget that you hate islam or that you find it weird and not logic while doing your researching because that will affect your judgement, Allah relieved us from praying when we have our periods, Allah removed all those Jahilia rules over women like did you know that when a woman gets married, a flag will be put on the door so foreign men will come in and have sex with her before her husband! It is like rape can you imagine that? Allah gave us the right to choose if we want to marry that man or not (as long as we are sain) Allah blessed us and mentioned women and mothers in a lot of places in Quran, Allah promised us beauty in heaven, Allah promised us to be next to his Prophet.

[midnight_shadow]

His Prophet married a lot of women, did you ever heard anyone of them complain about it and say it is bad? Allah forbid having sex with all once's wives at the same time to protect theur place and dignity, they ain't a pleasure machine! Allah ordered men to take care of us, Allah did a lot of things for us!

[Idontknow_1]

I've never heard of the flag thing. I want proof. Allah also Gave men the right to marry who they want. Along with the right to marry more.

And where did he say we will be next to our prophet?

[midnight_shadow]

So what are you worried about? Your husband leaving you? Or your husband having a lot of females around him? That's not what we are created for, we are created to take care of them, we are created to be mothers and to do what Allah Loves, in Heaven we won't think the way we think in this life, in heaven we won't feel the way we feel in this life and we won't have to worry or to be sad in heaven, do you think that Allah will say that they can have that and that while he knows that we will be sad about it? Has Allah ever misjudged in anything? Astaghfiru Allah and the best example in men having a lot of women is his prophet and only him! Not any other man that came after him, and as I said it have rules and if you read them you will know that most of them -if not all- are protecting US before anything else, and the best way to know about our state in heaven is to read Hadith they described us Heaven in the most beautiful way you can ever imagine!

[midnight_shadow]

In your researching don't go for that kind of imam that are more strict than it should be, islam is a religion of easiness firstly :) May Allah guide you to the righteous answers <3

[Idontknow_1]

I do not want that to be the reason I was created. To be a mother to a child and a wife to a husband that is has 4 other wives?

If you like this so much why don't you get married to a man and have him take 4 wives. WOAH! MASHALLAH sister! ALLAH WILL GRANT YOU THE REWARD FOR IT SO BE PATIENT! And keep giving him all that he wants when he can't even make you happy. Hint: sarcasm

We will not think/ feel this way because all of the things that we want that just can't happen, Allah will remove it from our hearts and minds. So then we will be happy after being brainwashed

[Idontknow_1]

And thank you. Inshallah I will Be guided

[midnight_shadow]

For the flags you can find them if you read about Jahilia and islam, and there are stages in heaven and the prophet is on the top of it, more you are a good muslim and more you will get high in heaven and even if you are not in the highest level in the end, the Prophet always come visit everyone in heaven without exceptions, the inly difference is that in the highest heaven you will see him all the time and be with him all the time, alsi Allah gave us the right to ask for our beloved ones to be out of hell if we feel pity fir them, I would have Loved to write you the Hadith and Verse that proves it but I am not a Hafidh of them :( but you can trust me on these because I as much as you have questioned these matters and now I am fully understanding of it especially since I am in a scientific domain I had the chance to know the scientific explanations as well

[midnight_shadow]

I am sure you will because Allah never gives up on his people :D <3

[Omar5881]

Are u muslim?

[Anonymous]

I live in muslim country but I'm not Muslim.
Cuz I feel there's so many unfair point and ridiculous point.
U can't do anything while living which is banned by Allah
But u can do those in heaven if u were good person in world.
Having sex with angels, drinking wine waters.. ridiculous
Also Muhammad got 6 years old wife. if he would be good person enough, he can take that girl as a daughter but he had sex with that girl.
It's absolutely being pervert in my opinion.
U don't have to be Muslim if it's not a thing for you, you are free enough to make a choice
God is precious in Quran but if u are bad person, he gives you new skin and burn you over and over again. it doesn't make sense..
I'm not Muslim and happy with that.
I believe I'm good person cuz I'm not robber or murdered. if I'm gonna go to hell just cuz I don't believe in Islam, it's not fair.
I didn't do anything bad.. people who is muslim but still doing bad things.. and are they gonna go to heaven? Bullshit
There's no one who knows heaven or he'll are exist.
I'm not giving a shit..

[Idontknow_1]

Uh... Okay

[complicated_soul]

I don't think she was 6 years old. 😐

[Opinion Owner]

Yes she was. she was 6 years old when she engaged
Then muhammad waited for her to having first period.
She had her first period when she was 9.
And she had sex with her

[Omar5881]

When did ur great great grandmother marry I am sure at a very young age in the past women usually married at that age even the story romeo and juliet they loved each other and had sex at the age of 14 and that reflects the culture they come from aisha radya Allah anha the girl that married the prophet NEVER complained about anything in fact she said that she was blesses my that married why the hell are mad about it and she is not

[Opinion Owner]

Mohammad was chosen by God.
To me, if u are chosen one, u could do better things that this.
That romeo and Juliet explain, also great great grandma explain were ridiculous.
They weren't chosen by God.
I understand you why you are telling like this, but I need reasons that make sense.

[puncakegirl]

Its ok to have doubts and ask questions so be aftraid to ask.
Firstly you would be so much much more prettier than those hoor al ayn.. And you would be free of all the negative feelings you are having right now for example jealousy, haterd or anger etc. Other than that its female nature that they feel satisfied with one male partner however males feel differently. You would get the man of your dreams and he will value you much more than the hoors. Besides you would be so happy jannah otherwise this issue won't even bother you.
Secondly its only optional for men to marry more.. It says in the Quran that its better if you marry one. Since women are biologically different it wouldn't make sense for them to marry more than one man since they won't be able to tell who the other of the child is.

[puncakegirl]

Sorry I mean don't* be afraid to ask lmao :P

[Idontknow_1]

The hadiths that state that the Hoor Al Ayn are less pretty are very weak and I can provide proof for that if you want to see it. The proof is from very legitimate Islamic websites.

Men feel differently because if they can't have four wives then they will cheat. All they want is sex and their lives revolve around getting it from as many women as possible. The man doesn't even have to consult his first wife before marrying another one. Did you know that? He doesn't have to say anything to her and she has no right to object his decision. Also, in Islam... It is not reasonable to ask for a divorce just because the husband took a second wife. The wife just has to deal with it and be patient like the oppressed woman she is.

[puncakegirl]

For your first objection you would not feel bothered by the presence of the hoor al ayn in jannah there would be so many things to keep you entertained. And your man would prefer you over the hoor al ayn that you would sometimes wish for him to get distracted elsewhere.
About marrying more than one woman.. Islam gives women the right to marry the man of their choice. if his marrying someone else bothers you so much then you should make sure that you marry a guy who wouldn't do so.
Women have the right to ask for divorce when ever and for what ever reason she wants. This I can prove.

[Idontknow_1]

How do you know that my man would prefer me to the others? When all men who enter Jannah are guaranteed that they will get at least 72 Hoor al Ayns and 2 woman from the dunya. So the other woman from the dunya Will also be getting so much attention from one man? How will he give attention to two woman at the same time?

Most women do not know that their man wants another wife only to find about it 10 years into the marraige that he would like another. This is usually not discussed before marraige.(Polygamy)

And women cannot ask for divorce for no reason. That's a fact. There is also a statement in the Quran or Hadith that no woman can get a divorce for no reason Exocept that the fragrance of paradise is forbidden for her.

[Idontknow_1]

Except*

[YazanAA]

Opinion owner: you my friend are just awesome :) ... wallahi I like your way of answering.

@asker you don't have to worry about your future husband marring a 2nd wife, that's just a exaggeration of something that will happen in the future, I mean you are not gonna get married next month lol.

The same way, a man might think "I don't wanna get married because I'm afraid that my wife would cheat on me, or I'm afraid that she have done things in the past" and that's also an unnecessary exaggeration, you don't have to let this idea control your mind, if we are gonna be afraid from commitment then honestly we will never get any further in our life. Just don't be afraid from the future. As I told you before, according to Wikipedia, only 1-2% of Muslim marriages are polygamous, it's very rare. it's only that make it looks something big.

[YazanAA]

And it's not true that men only want sex, especially Muslim men, you know this is not what our Islamic ideology is based on, if we only want sex as you said they why would we even bother getting married in the first, why would we even follow this religion if we wanted sex? If that's true then wouldn't we just leave Islam (God forbid) and go and commit adultery with one girl to the other? Astghfirullah. No we are not going that because we fear Allah and we are not gonna leave Islam and do those menial acts just because of our temporary transient sexual desires. If we only care about sex then we would do that, but Alhamdulliah we don't.

[YazanAA]

And about you worrying about being jealous of Hoor al ayn, that will never gonna happen because they way we think in feel in Donya is not the same as the way think and feel in al-Akhra. We will not be the same as we are here. We will be perfect.

Allah says in the Quran about the people in Jannah.

" وُجُوهٌ يَوْمَئِذٍ نَّاعِمَةٌ، لِسَعْيِهَا رَاضِيَةٌ، فِي جَنَّةٍ عَالِيَةٍ ، لّا تَسْمَعُ فِيهَا لاغِيَةً"

Translated " [Other] faces, that Day, will show pleasure. With their effort [they are] satisfied. In an elevated garden, Wherein they will hear no unsuitable speech." ( Surat al-ghashiya ayat 8-11)

And he also said "لا يسمعون فيها لغواََ ولا تأثيما، الا قليلا سلاما سلاما"

Translated "They will not hear therein ill speech or commission of sin - Only a saying: "Peace, peace." ( Surat al waqiah ayat 25-26)

[YazanAA]

So as you can see Allah tells us that there will be no "لغو" in al Jannah and there will only be peace and love so you don't have to worry, your mentality and your emotions will not be the same in Jannah. You will just be perfect.

[Idontknow_1]

They won't be the same because they will be changed. My desires will not be fulfilled, they will just be taken out of my heart and I will be treated like the second class citizen I am; a Muslim girl.

[YazanAA]

@asker lol and how did you get to this conclusion?

[Idontknow_1]

I will tell you. You don't know how it feels to be a girl.

My desire is that I want my man to monogamous with me in this life and (if there's no divorce) in the hereafter. Will that ever happen, will that ever be the case? NO. It is stated that all men Who enter paradise will have at least (that means there will be more women for more deserving men) 72 Hoor Al Ayns and 2 wives from this world. Instead of having my desires fulfilled, they will be taken out of my heart. So I will have everything that I want? No, everything that I want will just be made forgotten for me.

I will be treated as a second class citizen because firstly, my opinion as a woman doesn't matter. I am not allowed to be disobedient in any way to my man and I have to do everything he says. If I do not he is allowed to hit me; abuse me. I am not going to be allowed to go outside except with the permission of the man who is in charge of me. I am not going to be allowed to let anyone into the house

[Idontknow_1]

That he does not like. And I will not be able to refuse intercourse without a legitimate reason. If I do, I am winning and the Angels will curse me until morning. But if he, as a man refuses to have sex with me then that has no sin mentioned. So technically he is not sinning while I am.

All he has to do is feed and clothe me. And Provide me with a house. Which by the way, most women can do themselves as they have jobs and careers too.

[Idontknow_1]

The husband does not even have to consult the wife before marrying another woman. He can do as he wishes because it is permissible. He does not have to take in the feelings of his wife and he does not have to care about them. As they are not his feelings so why should he care? Asking the husband for a divorce if he takes a second wife is not permissible at all. Since the husband is the only one in the marraige that can grant divorce, he does not have to divorce her. He can keep forcing her to stay in a marraige she doesn't want and keep telling her to be patient.

The only way a Muslim woman can divorce a man who takes a second wife is if she states on the marraige contract that there will be no woman but her in the marraige and if there is she will divorce him.

Our only role as women in Islam is to raise our children to become good Muslim men/women. Our only role in Islam is that women should bring up their sons to do the things they can't do without the permission of their

[Idontknow_1]

Husbands. For example: going outside.

@yazanaa

[puncakegirl]

Thank u @YazanAA im doing my best. :)

My God girl.. You are taking such itty bitty little details and exaggerating them with such negatively and bitterness. You're blocking out everything we're saying and repeating your own points over and over again.
Your desires of this world won't be forgotten by you they aren't even your true desires they are mainly driven by the devil. And after it is over you will realize how foolish you were to be thinking this.
The women of jannah are going to be like queens and the the hoor al ayn like servant girls they are nothing compared to them. About getting two worldly wives.. It's not even really true. I researched about it and there is only one very vague hadith that sort of states it.. ONLY ONE.
And all the other things you stated about women being oppressed aren't even half true. Women are equal to men in this has been stated so many times everywhere.. Men have no right to treat them unfarely and they are free to leave any man who abuses them.

[puncakegirl]

No where does it say that women are second class citizens. You came to that conclusion on your on based on no valed reasons.

"... And they (women) have rights similar to those (of men) over them in a just manner..."
Holy Qur'an (2: 228)

[YazanAA]

"Men will get Hoor Al-ayn in paradise but what do women get?"

You are talking like if you have 100% guaranteed the paradise and everything is ok for you in the day of judgement and just all you have to worry about is Hoor al ayn.

-first of all, if you go to Jannah inshallah then you might be one of those Hoor al ayn.
- the way you think/feel in this life, is not the same way you think/feel in the second life, so to say that I'm not gonna be happy in Jannah is soooo wrong, who is not gonna be happy in Jannah? Astaghfirullah

"Men can have 4 wives"

-First of all, you don't have to worry about that considering that only 1% of Muslim marriages are polygamous, and seriously, who wants more than one wife in these circumstances that we have nowadays? And you know very well that the Quran says "if you can't do justice then marry only one"

-and there's a reason why Allah allowed men to have up to 4 wives (it's optional not a must, so don't worry, men won't get rewarded for that) ... Watch these videos, they explain it better than me

https://youtu.be/AlWEvQ4fvY4https://youtu.be/cMBHEMco5js

[Idontknow_1]

That's why I said that I don't want to Strive for it anymore. I don't even want Jannah anymore. But I still pray for it because I have to

and to be honest, instead of being given what I desire the desire will just be taken out of my heart. That way I won't desire it anymore. So I really will not have what I want because all that I want (which I can't want) will be taken out of me.

Lots of men want 4 wives. They want sex after all. That's called cheating

[YazanAA]

Also you are focusing on these things and forgetting who Islam came to give rights for women that they have never had before Islam.

Did you know that little girls in al-jahiliiah before Islam were being killed just because they were born as females, it's called "waa'dul banat"? But Islam came to fight against this ignorant mentally.

Did you know that women before Islam weren't getting their money after their father's or their husband's death, but Islam came and gave very detailed information about how women must take their moeny?

Did you know that prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him) said to us men "the best of you is those who are best to women"?

Did you know that the Quran honored mothers by saying "الجنة تحت اقدام الأمهات" which means "the Jannah is under the feet of mothers"?

Did you know that the first human being who accepted the message of the Quran was a woman? It's Khadijah (Radya Allahu anha"

[Idontknow_1]

Yes, I all of that except for the inheritance part. I still feel as though Islam is oppressive to women and that women have no rights. The rights that are stated, I feel like they don't count/matter because they're not equal to the rights that men have. (They have more in my opinion)

I think I should talk to a Muslim counsellor

[Idontknow_1]

Yes, I knew all of that* I mean

[YazanAA]

Haha you don't want to strive for Jannah? Lol are you gonna be happier in Jahannam then?

And polygamy is not cheating, and agian it's allowed for a reason, plus, if you are THAT worried about your future husband marrying a 2nd wife then out can divorce him if you don't like tha no? Lol

[YazanAA]

You* can...

And I wanted to tell you something very important, Islam didn't came up with polygamy, in fact it was practiced by non-Muslims befriend the Quran and it continued to be practicals even after the Quran by non-Muslim until 1950-1960ish, shocking right? The Quran just came to give a limitation for polygamy and to warn us that if you are planning to marry more than one wife then we have to do justice with them, otherwise, polygamy will be prohibited, do you know that even monogamous marriage itself can be prohibited in some cases in Islam?

[YazanAA]

Before* the Quran

[Idontknow_1]

Yes, I actually feel like I will. Astagfrallah

I just want to be single forever. And by the way, in Islam divorcing a man just because he took another wife is not reasonable grounds for divorce. Unless she puts it on the marraige contract.

[YazanAA]

You know what? I'm not gonna blame you here because doubts are normal and in fact, Allah tells us in the Quran that the Iman increases and decreases. Especially in your age, honestly, I had doubts too when I was younger, I even started questioning whether God do exist or not Astghfirullah. But you know what? It's all about questioning, you only find the truth by questioning, even though, questioning might take you away from the truth at some parts but if it were logical questioning with understanding of reality then it will lead you for nothing but the absolute truth. Just remember that Allah always asks us "تفكروا يا الولى الالباب" ... you find "تفكروا" which means "think deeply" in many many places in the Quran.

[Arkan]

How the hell wants 4 wives, that's crazy. Nor I nor my family nor any relatives have ever met a man with more than 1 wife. It only happen in Saudia arabia I think

[YazanAA]

Typo "تفكروا يا اولى الالباب" not "الولى"

[Idontknow_1]

Thanks. Thankfully I'm still Muslim

[YazanAA]

Thank you for MHO... Alhamdulliah I knew you won't leave this great religion, these are just normal doubts that everyone may have.

[Idontknow_1]

You're welcome :)

[Idontknow_1]

I hope I never doubt like this ever again lol

[Omar5881]

Ok I am a Muslim my friend and I studied in azhar the answers are :
1 - yes men get hoor el ein but in heaven u become more prettier than ever like u got a light that lighten earth and heaven literally and he sees u the prettiest thing ever and he stays with u most of the time hoor el ein are like entertainment not like he is gonna prefer them more than they just are there to amuse him and of course there are no sex in heaven it's more like another greater thing we don't know

2- men can't marry more than one exept the first wife agrees besides that it's haram and Really really really big sin any other thing 😊

[Omar5881]

And don't worry u won't get punished for ur words just always have someone u trust to answer ur questions and I am always here to hel0

[Omar5881]

Help *

[Idontknow_1]

No. The hadiths that state that the Hoor Al Ayn will be less pretty than the women of the world are very weak. That means that the Hoor al Ayn will be way prettier.

Only in Egypt, men have to ask for permission from their first wife in order to have the second. In fact though, the truth is that men don't have to ask their first wife for permission. This can also be proven by the Quran or maybe some hadiths. (I'm not sure, but it's proven)

[complicated_soul]

Wow, I am almost in tears. You are really good Omar!

[Omar5881]

First off people actions don't represent Islam in Islam u can't marry more than one except with the agree of the first wife
AND WEAK HADITH? Look I studied like hell so I know what u am saying the women of heaven are prettier than hoor el ein

[Omar5881]

@complicated_soul lol thanks 😃

[Idontknow_1]

https:// www. islamawareness. net/ Marriage /fatwa_05. html (Remove the spaces)

Read the second last paragraph

[Idontknow_1]

https:// islamqa. info/ en/ 60188

(Remove the spaces)

Read the part after it says "secondly:"

[Omar5881]

Ok and?

[Idontknow_1]

And, that is proof for what I stated. So your facts are wrong

[Omar5881]

That's prove that I am right

[Idontknow_1]

What the heck? No

[Omar5881]

First off u don't get me تواتر هذه الأحاديث , and yes hoor el ein are WAYYYY beatiful but when a woman enter paradise is is WAYYYY PRETTIER THAN THEM

[Aquariusmystery]

I know you said you didn't want non-Muslim answers but I have been through a similar situation recently with my religion (Christianity).
I'd say do some more research into your religion before you make any huge decisions, as you said you still believe in Islam. Or perhaps you could still believe in some aspects but not others (that's what I did). If you're really in doubt, is there anyone you can talk to about it?
Wishing you the best of luck :)

[Idontknow_1]

Thanks. Maybe it's just something most Teenagers experience

[Aquariusmystery]

Perhaps, I hope you find the path you'd like to take, though

[Idontknow_1]

I want to take this path and I want to love it. I'm just having a really hard time though. And thanks, I hope that for you too

[complicated_soul]

I think you can write down no second wife in the marriage contract.

As for the first one, it took me a while to understand that.

Message me so I can try to explain better.

Meanwhile @Omar5881 share your wisdom.

[Idontknow_1]

Are you a Muslim too?

[complicated_soul]

Yes I am

[Idontknow_1]

I can't message anyone since I'm only level 1. But I'll go off anon

[Omar5881]

Thank you for mentioning me 😃

[complicated_soul]

You are welcome :) @Omar5881

And @asker okay :)

[vekin]

I believe it is not a bad thing to have doubts sometimes or that you question somethings

[Idontknow_1]

But doesn't this count as a serious doubt?

[vekin]

Go search for God and you'll find him

[Idontknow_1]

I'm trying

[vekin]

Many people who do believe will have a period of time like you have now, it is normal. Don't feel to bad about it!! God loves you anyway and understands you!

[FakeName123]

I am not a muslim, but my fiancee is. Lot's of drama and issues with family involved of course.

If you want to talk about the topic, feel free to write me a private message since some fo the things I would and will say aren't meant for the public.

[Idontknow_1]

Okay. Message me

[shamsafatm]

i have a smillar point with you " what woman get in jannah if the men get angels" i didn't get the answer yet but i still musilm,, for the second one if a man reallly really loves u dont get married another time.. and if a woman have more than one husband when hi got a child no one know who is related to !!

[Idontknow_1]

I know but I think it is not air astagfrallah

[shamsafatm]

its fair just ALLAH knows what he got for females and i think the ANGELS are the man;s wife ALSO did u know !!!

[Omar5881]

Men don't get angels? 😕 angels are limited they r all males well it's most likely no gender and they don't die or reproduce and they have certain duties

[Ibokan18]

trust me women have the same rights as men and even more if you read and understand the quran right. you can message me later im not available now but i will tell you everythinh

[Idontknow_1]

I even watched a video about women's rights in Islam not even 30 minutes ago. And I cried because I feel like they're aren't any!

[Idontknow_1]

I feel like women are oppressed in this religion astagfrallah

[Ibokan18]

nooo!! i swear its not like that! people nowdays have wrong impressions about the islam

[Idontknow_1]

But I was born a Muslim so how can I have the wrong impression of it? The man doesn't even need to consult his first wife before marrying another. Do you know how hurtful that is? Just because he can't keep it in his pants and wants for women just for sex.

[Ibokan18]

Thirdly, when it comes to financial security, Islamic law is more tilted in many respects towards women. These are seven examples:

During the period of engagement, a woman is to be on the receiving side of gifts.

At the time of marriage, it is the duty of the husband, not the bride's family. He is supposed to pay for a marital gift. The Quran called it a gift, and it is exclusively the right of the woman. She doesn't have to spend it on the household, she doesn't have to give it to her father or anyone else.

If the woman happened to own any property prior to marriage, she retains that property after marriage. It remains under her control. Also, in most Muslim countries, the woman keeps her own last name, and her own identity.

If the woman has any earnings during her marital life, by way of investments of her property or as a result of work, she doesn't have to spend one penny of that income on the household, it is entirely hers.

The full maintenance and support of a married woman

[Ibokan18]

if you read the quran right you will live so peacefull believe me. lots of muslims nowdays dont do it the right way, thats the reason you feel bad

[Idontknow_1]

Yeah, all that just so that he can take another wife and then she stays home and takes care of the kids while he's fucking his other wife. Then he comes back to her as if he still loves her and pretends that he still thinks she's beautiful.

[Ibokan18]

marrying to two or three women happened in the past but nowdays they only marry to one women

[Idontknow_1]

Really? So when you're married you won't think of having another wife because it's a thing of the past? Yeah right.

[Ibokan18]

wow you dont even understand me😒

[Ibokan18]

i would never marry to two or three women. and lots of muslims only would marry to one women. marrying to two or three women happens only in saudi arabia or something and not where i live

[Idontknow_1]

I'm not listening to you because you didn't even read what I wrote.

[HollywoodGlam]

Talk to an imam or your parents about it before you make your final decision, so you could have a better understanding about Islam. I don't have a perfect understanding about Islam even though I'm Muslim, but does things could be just misconceptions.

[Idontknow_1]

These are not just misconceptions, I have been reasaerchibg this for the past month

[Idontknow_1]

Just pray for me to have a better Iman

[HollywoodGlam]

I will :)
Good luck to you and do what makes you happy.

[Anonymous]

Islam, like Christianity, is a cult, and it certainly does not benefit women, it's just a way to exploit and take advantage of them, that's all it's ever been.

[Idontknow_1]

It's not a cult

[Opinion Owner]

It is most definitely a cult, all religions are. There is no proof of the existence of any sort of deity, Mohammed was a warlord who converted people by the sword. It's all about power and control.

[youssefalei]

dear asker i think u need to watch this too

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_vvuAhBaQ-Q

[Idontknow_1]

Alright, I will watch it. I just feel like women have no rights and are oppressed. Even though I've read of their rights in Islam but I feel like they are nothing.

[youssefalei]

u r wrong just watch more for this man

[Idontknow_1]

But how am I supposed to deal with it if my Husband takes a second wife? Surprisingly, most Muslim men just want more women. Because more women =more sex

They don't want to practice polygamy for joe pourable reasons. But they just want to do it for more sex

[youssefalei]

fyi its not like that , i can't tell u what it really is in English , if u want i can tell u in arabic.

[youssefalei]

its so funny that people dont know anything about quran and they judge xD
dont believe it doesn't matter. do what u want. do whatever u want guys
dear asker , fgo ahead and be whatever u want
if u dont want to be muslim coz u dont want ur husband marry more than one
or u scared coz he will marry after u
i think u better choose wise
but how can u choose good man a man who won't give up on u or marry u for sex
I don't know how to say what i wanna say in English. so ill just move on thats my last comment
if u wanna talk in arabic ill be happy to help u

[Idontknow_1]

Honorable* I mean

And FYI it is exactly like that

[Idontknow_1]

Yeah, okay bye

[John_Doesnt]

So stop being a Muslim. If you live in a free country, just stop. Be happy!

[Editor]

I thought everybody was born muslim

[takumii]

Atheism is love, Atheism is life.

[Idontknow_1]

But that's not what I want, I'm scared that I'm becoming one though

[takumii]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gPOfurmrjxo

watch this.

[Idontknow_1]

I don't want to be persuaded

[takumii]

Then don't get persuaded,

See the problem with religion is you become bigots !! You literally become BIGOTS.
You don't think you can appreciate the fact that multiple theories are possible.
But doesn't mean you should close the doors of your minds to knowledge,
watch the video..
If you like something, accept it, if you don't like something, discard it.
The choice is yours, no one is persuading you.
In FACT, if you think you will be persuaded you do not trust your religion itself in full faith,

[Idontknow_1]

Shut up.

[takumii]

House M. D. :: If you could reason with religious people, there would be no religious people.

Ok ok, I'll shup up. *Zipp*

[Anonymous]

The quran can't be true, but the Bible can be, and in my opinion is, want proves?

[Idontknow_1]

No I don't. Goodbye

[Opinion Owner]

A closed mind is a wonderful thing to lose... maybe you will lose yours some day when you grow up and see the quran for what it is.

[Sujin95]

Please teach me. i really wonder about bibles and so serious about this

[Idontknow_1]

Yeah, I don't know. this is why I said only Muslims should answer

[youssefalei]

dude is quran not true then nth is , the end.
the bible is full of Differences
at least quran is the same since ever. nth changed it
and thats enough to prove that its not fake.
u can watch this
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X2pK-X1s5Rc
if u want proves

[youssefalei]

watch this
if u want it in English
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_vvuAhBaQ-Q

[Opinion Owner]

@Asker

Oh yes, so you did, but please bear in mind I had to try to help, just in case you wanted it.

@Sujin95

ok, just to make my self clear, I only care about the Bible not the Christian churches since they are mostly not following the Bible at all.

Bible is actually closer to the quran they you should think.

The bible actually does this like the quran:
*Denies the Trinity
*Say Jesus is God nor as great as God

The bible actually say does this, despite the quran saying otherwise:
*Jesus was crucified, although on a crux simplex (you can google it)
*Jesus did arose from the dead on the 3 day
*Jesus is the son of God, in the sense he is the first creation, obviously not the son in the normal sense
*The devil and all the daemons are fallen angel, in open rebellion against the sovereignty of God
*There is no day of worship, in fact worshipping is a daily event
*Miracles recorded in the bible is true, but no miracles since then
*Makes numerous prophecies about our time and the future

[Opinion Owner]

It should read:

*Say Jesus is NOT God, nor as great as God

[Opinion Owner]

@youssefalei

See some of those:

www.youtube.com/results

[takumii]

Wow , the first reply made me think of the exact George carlin Quote " My God has a bigger dick than your God."

[Opinion Owner]

@takumii
Bigger dicks doesn't matter, only the truth matters.

If I am right, it can be proved, if it can't be proved I am not right, it's that simple really.

I can disprove the Quran, it's quite easy actually, and I can refute the accusations against the Bible, I can prove there is no definitive evidence proving evolution from a scientific standpoint either. The end result is the Bibles is at least as likely as evolution and unlike the Quran, it can actually be true.

You can all believe in whatever you want of course, I am only here to point out a (better) alternative.