I 24f have known this guy 30m for 8 months now. We met online. We started dating around April 2023. We met up and have spent a lot of time together.
We've told our parents at the beginning of this month and his parents are coming to see me with him on 4th November. My mum was saying that's a long time, usually guys marry straight away.. something along those lines. I, of course, have fears too like what If he backs out last minute or decides he doesn't want to marry me anymore. I do love him a lot and to lose him would hurt. I feel like I may have rushed him, I said I could perhaps go ring shopping on the 5th with his mum (thinking back now, I think this sounds crazy or weird I don't know). I do, however, agree though that our families should meet first, and then possibly we could do the ring shopping on the 5th. He will be really busy in December until like 10th January, he can not book time off from work. We ideally have thought about getting the nikkah done by the end of November. I did tell him if this nikkah is delayed for too long then my mum might not accept, he relayed that message on to his mother. We are both from different cultures and he told me people from his culture do take way to long as they plan a big wedding and etc. We both don't want a big wedding, we just want to get the nikkah done. Have I been saying things to make him feel that I'm rushing it?
I just love him so much and I do fear incase he backs out. This is why I don't want this to take too long and my mum also wants this to happen fast.
We've told our parents at the beginning of this month and his parents are coming to see me with him on 4th November. My mum was saying that's a long time, usually guys marry straight away.. something along those lines. I, of course, have fears too like what If he backs out last minute or decides he doesn't want to marry me anymore. I do love him a lot and to lose him would hurt. I feel like I may have rushed him, I said I could perhaps go ring shopping on the 5th with his mum (thinking back now, I think this sounds crazy or weird I don't know). I do, however, agree though that our families should meet first, and then possibly we could do the ring shopping on the 5th. He will be really busy in December until like 10th January, he can not book time off from work. We ideally have thought about getting the nikkah done by the end of November. I did tell him if this nikkah is delayed for too long then my mum might not accept, he relayed that message on to his mother. We are both from different cultures and he told me people from his culture do take way to long as they plan a big wedding and etc. We both don't want a big wedding, we just want to get the nikkah done. Have I been saying things to make him feel that I'm rushing it?
I just love him so much and I do fear incase he backs out. This is why I don't want this to take too long and my mum also wants this to happen fast.
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Prolong it a little I'll always suggest that a longer engagement is good.
You both want this and if he really loves you he won't back out
Also if it's prolonged you get to see more real him.
How long have you two been dating?
Also learn more about his culture cause you won't be nearly as free and seriously he can morally beat you when you don't want to do something he wants!
A Muslim girl just asked if she has to do everything her man wants in bed. Just married and she really does not want to.
Yes once married your a servant to your man. Your not a free women your a servant!
Other men will beat you for thugs and your husband will thank them.
Seriously look at what Muslim he is and how he treats other girls not his family! Is he devour or just hey Muslim no mass or what ever!
Look at the atrocities that go on in the middle east and that happened during the Iraq war this is how they view women.
The honest Muslims faith! Not the watered down one!
Thank you sister for the comment. I have known him for 8 months and we've been dating for that long. I also have been to his house and spent a lot of time with him. We both don't really follow culture, we are going by the religion
Hm would rather you follow culture then religion probably want to read his all the way through!
Congrats on 8 months yeah give it more time!
So can't wait for sex that long it's so hard we did
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