What do you think he will do next after getting no closure?

[Anonymous]

I was dating a guy (31m) for 2 years and it turns out he has an ex fiance who he has a child with who came back into his life and he never told me about her. He tried to leave without telling me and then I found out accidentally without him ever telling me. So at that point instead of confronting him, I backed off and left. I know the situation was messy, and i didn’t want to get hurt. He kept saying he had to tell me something but never did. I went no contact for 3 weeks- and then he reached out and claimed we were tg and that we had to move forward, i just listened to him, but said nothing. I just want some opinions on what y'all think may happen…. When I'm prepared for what may come I do a lot better… when i'm not prepared I don’t know how to navigate. I don’t block people, i let them be. I want to observe. Do y'all think he will reach out or he got the hint to leave?

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, that's rough what happened with that guy. Finding out he had some secret ex fiance and kid on the side like that, I'd be pissed too if I was you. Can't believe he tried to just dip without even telling you the truth. And then not telling you even when you gave him chances to come clean - super sketchy behavior on his part.

If I was in your shoes, I probably wouldn't respond to him if he contacted me again either. Seems like this dude has some issues with being honest and open about important stuff. I feel like if you do respond, he'll just keep trying to lie or manipulate the situation some more.

My guess is he might try reaching out a couple more times, maybe leaving you some kinda message to see if you'll bite. But after not getting a response, he'll probably get the hint that you're done dealing with his shady ways. Guys like that who can't be real with their girls - once they sense the girl has lost trust and interest, they'll move on pretty quick.

I'd say just let him be at this point if I was advising you as a friend. You don't really owe him any explanations since he's the one who messed up. Keep taking your space and time to heal from it all. His actions showed you who he really is deep down - believe that over any empty words. You've got this and you'll bounce back even stronger without that dude in the picture!

[CuriousHubby]

Probably reach out cause you did not close the door. People go back to their exes for sex attention and when bored.

So you never closed it and he will come right back in after a fight with his ex girlfriend.

Honestly closure never helps emotionally. We always wonder what if.

[VIVANT]

I understand why you did things the way you did them up to this point, but I think now it’s the time to tie things up and shut the door.

[Anonymous]

Talk to him don’t block

[In_Trance]

He'll move on