Do you think there's a right and wrong way to go about breaking up with someone?

[Anonymous]

Ex girlfriend left me the day before my birthday told me if I marry her she would come back. I set up

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6 mo

Update my girlfriend told me if I didn't plan a wedding in 5 days she would leave me. I got her a ring and had the wedding date set. I showed up she didn't and left me for a guy she barly known on my birthday. Aka likely cheating on me the whloe time. 8 year relationship down the drown. I did ask her if we could talk for closure but I was blocked. We share two kids together who adopted by family friends but we both still have contract with our kids

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6 mo

People stick to the top of the covo is their a right or wrong way to break up with someone thats it.

[midnightmoon05]

There is no right or wrong when it comes to these…there is nice or not ok so nice. In this case…it wasn’t nice. But who are we to judge.

updates… she is obviously not the one you want to be married to… so she had to make a decision…. Perhaps you already knew she wanted to be married. 8 years later and 2 kids… no ring, no marriage is an insult to a woman.

i would have left without giving birth to any kids. To me… love and commitment and respect has to be there within 2-3 yrs… then ring, marriage, kids… etc.

women nowadays give too much without commitments so she moved on.

[avery58]

Sorry to hear that, yeah there's definitely a right and wrong way to break up. Manipulation and lying shouldn't be used. The best way is to talk in person for closure, but if the other party doesn't want to then they at least shouldn't add fuel to the fire. What goes around comes around, it's easier said than done but just remember she gave you the chance to meet someone better than her.

[Purpleronnie]

Not sure about “right” and “wrong’ ways to break up by definition but definitely agree that people should break up with their partners showing them the respect that they would want if the situation reversed. I appreciate that sometimes it may seem like they don’t deserve it by their actions or what led up to the break-up but it’s just decency and good closure

[molonski2]

All you can do is chalk that up to experience , and be very thankful that she is gone forever , marrying her would have been an horrendous mistake for all the wrong reasons , emotional blackmail.

[AI Opinion]

Breaking up is like doing a tango; it takes grace, timing, and a whole lot of respect to do it right! 😏💔 The scenario you described sounds more like a dramatic episode in a soap opera than a caring breakup. Using emotional ultimatums, especially around significant dates like birthdays, is not just a red flag; it's a whole parade of them!

The right way to break up? Be honest, be clear, and most importantly, be kind. It should be done in person (whenever possible), giving the other person the respect and space to process the information. The goal is to part ways without inflicting unnecessary pain or confusion, leaving both parties with their dignity intact.

So, in your case, being pushed into marriage as a condition for staying together? That's not just wrong; it's a lovebombing landmine. Always trust in communication that lifts you up, not ultimatums that leave you scrambling. 😉💥

[mistiQ]

Yes, i think it would be more mature if both of you had a sit down and have a talk about what is going on and what your thoughts are on the matter and if it is going to lead to a break up let the person know right there and then if the relationship is not going to work out instead of leaving the other person to wonder what went wrong.

[Radiate143]

Yes, of course. It should be very demure. It needn't be sweetsy or cutsey but absolutely mindful and considerate.

[Radiate143]

Oh I just read your question details. Please let her go. You aren't serious about her.

[Asker]

She left me at that wedding site after I did what she asked me to do

[Asker]

And she me on my birthday without warning

[Radiate143]

Oh she sucks. My bad

[Asker]

It's okay. Yea I got her a ring and everything did it all in under 5 days like she requested.

[Radiate143]

You can do better than someone who is sadistic like that. It's gonna hurt for a looooooonnnnngggg time. But, ypu have to get through this

[Asker]

Yea been 14 months still in pay April 7 makes it 2 years. Got two kids together

[Radiate143]

Oh man. This is horrible.

[Asker]

Thank you for listening

[Radiate143]

💔🫂

[luvstoned4him]

Just sounds like she was being manipulative..

And yes it's better to do it in person but if you think the person might attack you then over phone.

If it's done amicably, even better

[jojouzumaki]

Indeed there is. The tone of our voice and how we deliver the break up.

[Ariesman81]

Ahhh women. Do what I say or else. Oh my God... I can't believe you did what I told you to do... ick

[Ariesman81]

The correct answer was... shut the fuck up and go make me a sandwich

[LiamJHayden]

Gently and kindly is the best way. Ideally, it is mutual where both realize it is not a good fit romantically.

[noohair]

Closure is impossible. Her brain does not work like yours does. Contact with her will just harm her. Just remember that Karma bites hard and leave it at that.

[Asker]

I am karma

[SugarSugarplum]

If there's one thing humanity has amply proven: it's that there is a wrong way to do EVERYTHING.

[paledreams]

That's what divorce lawyers and counsellors are for - experts :)

[ManInChains]

There is no wrong way. Just get it over with and move the fuck on.

[Anonymous]

She had fo force u to marry her u are a wuss

[katiesmuff]

Sounds like you been dragging your feet!

[WhitneySnow]

Sounds like she had already moved on

[WhitneySnow]

No. Every breakup is different. And she probably figured if you hadn’t asked her to marry her after seven years and two kids she was done. She shouldn’t have cheated on you but she definitely had reason to break up with you.

[the29thhuman]

Nope. I’ll break up with someone how I see fit.

[daddyslittlemonster]

I couldn't take the Hint
So he had to be Harsh

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes.