Would you consider this the most honest and genuine way to break up or take a break with/from someone?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

It’s a bit contradictory, but I think it is genuine. I understand the feeling of wanting to still be with someone, but knowing that you two are both struggling and realistically it isn’t going to work out right now.
I think it’s okay, but I think you two need to work things out and actually communicate. That means your partner needs to be on it too. If that doesn’t work out, then I would say it is best for you two to break up and give it some time until you two are both ready.

[kyleelyn199723]

I would say genuine? Yes. Honest? Probably not. I see you saying two different things in this post. 1. I want to be with you still 2. I want to break up. Personally , if you still love this person you should really consider pushing through the issues with them

[Asker]

See the issues are bigger than what this message shows. On top of personal problems outside of each other that we both have been dealing with, the problems in the relationship were/are just as bad. I’ll never be the one to talk down on a guy I do love and on top of that I know I’m not perfect. So I won’t bash him but the guy I sent this to had abused me in many ways and I won’t go into detail and yes I do love him but the events I was put through by him were very traumatic and I never took the time to fix myself because of it because I always forgive him and go back to him which caused him I believe Irwin was okay, it was apart of ups and downs in a relationship. I sort of enabled him. So it never stopped. I said what I did in the text because I want us to work, but after we both get the help we need because other wise the relationship will keep going downward and nothing will ever change. The trust his broken and so is the foundation. He doesn’t quite want me to stay away from him to heal because naturally so we miss being around one another, laughing, talking etc because the relationship is not always abusive and bad but it’s something we have to do (stay away from one another) if we truly want to make us be better as a couple.

[kyleelyn199723]

I think even then, I’m not sure why you are sending the message that you still want to be with him, even though he has abused you. Abuse is abuse. In every abusive relationship, they’re good times. I think you need to be stern that the abuse has pushed you away. You know you want to do it. You are just afraid of living life without him. Just imagine you can meet a man that gives you good times and doesn’t abuse you. That’s a total package right there

[Asker]

I guess you’re right. I mean I’m trying to make him happy without being happy myself.

[kyleelyn199723]

@asker he deserves the honest truth about how he has treated you. People need to know the truth about who they are so you leave room for possible change and maybe possibly therapy for not only you, but him too.

[diamonddreams]

Honest? I'm not so sure. This letter gives me mixed feelings
"The love I have for you is forever together or apart"
Seems a bit hypocritical. If she really loves him/her, why don't they have a talk and try to work it out?

[Asker]

Well I responded to someone else who had a similar response and if you feel up to it you can go back and read it because I Don’t want to feel like I’m talking in circles lol but after reading it you’ll know communicating this way is best and safest way for us. If the circumstances were different, I would have told him this in person and not in text but I do mean every word I said.

[TikiTook]

I think it’s very sweet. I was just ghosted and blocked so I definitely think this is the better way.

[Iron_Man]

That’s disgusting and nobody should ever break up over email