My boyfriend and I are on a break, why can't I stop missing him?

[diamond]

We are on a break due to the negativities we have experienced in our relationship. I know we both need to rest and calm down, but on the other hand, I miss him so much. How can I deal with this situation?

[_Maya_]

Ever hear the saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder"? That is what is happening. You are realizing that you do need him in your life and that he is important to you. This is a good thing. That said... don't rush this break. You obviously both decided it was necessary to take a break and that means you need to do it. While you might be ready to get back together he might need more time. It is two sided. You have to realize that he might need more time that you do. As far as dealing with it you just need to keep yourself busy. Do things that you like to do, hang out with friends or family and so on. Basically keep yourself busy as best as you can. When you sit around and have time to think then that is when your mind wonders to him and you start feeling down. A break is only temporary...

[chiquita]

Breaks are hard because your heart doesn't just shut down. You're used to him being around, talking, laughing, sharing things, it's like a habit, but with feelings. Missing him means he's important, and that's normal. Give yourself time to feel, but don't lose yourself while you're waiting. Focus on yourself for now, and he'll have to figure out his part too.

[diamond]

Definitely, it takes time to get used to someone and feelings can be complicated. Thank you for your advice, I will try to recover in time without losing myself. It is important to find the right balance, both emotionally and for myself.

[SolitarySolace]

You’re not on a break, you’ve broken up. He’s going to find someone else. No one takes breaks from a relationship.

[Unit1]

Duh...

[Summeroflove]

A break can mean different things are you still exclusively together or are you separated for the time being to maybe try again later? Also what are the negatives that depends as well on what those are.

I would say communicate your feelings but do what you know is best. If you know it’s better to wait for a while then wait.

[fabio]

I honestly don't get it. We're on a break and I shouldn't feel this way. I try to put it out of my mind, telling myself it's over for now, but the more I try to ignore it, the more I miss him. It's frustrating. It makes everything even more confusing. I should be relieved, but instead it's like I'm stuck in this weird limbo, unsure whether I should miss him or whether I should move on completely.

[diamond]

Thank you for your advice, I will try to understand my feelings without losing myself in this uncertainty. It should become clearer with time.

[GoodEnoughThen]

Rather than taking a break, why don't you commit to working together on your relationship?
It's make it or break it time. Find out what your triggers are. Look at how your attachment types might be causing you some problems, efg- are you in an anxios-avoidant trap?

[daniel]

It’s normal to miss someone who was a big part of your life. Breakups don’t erase bonds or memories overnight. Missing them means they were important, and those feelings don’t go away instantly. Use this time to really think about whether you want to move forward together or stay apart.

[diamond]

Thank you for your advice, I will use this time to understand my own feelings. I need to think a little more before making a decision going forward.

[exitseven]

I never heard of people who were "on a break" that actually got back together. If he initiated the break he has probably found somebody else.

[dudeinohio]

Breaks are proof you can't handle a committed relationship. If you were married, you can't temporarily become unmarried.

Relationships take work. If you can't handle it, don't be in one.

[DtMe89]

"breaks" are death sentences to relationships.

Just end it now

[RedInnocent69]

Because you shouldn’t be on break. Your coochie is missing it

[Pterodon]

A break is a breakup. You obviously have more feelings for him than he you

[WhitneySnow]

Just be patient. A break isn’t forever.

[HusamRocks]

Fill ur free time with something else 👍🏻

[Anonymous]

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