He left me a year ago but we still talk like lovers. What should I do and also can you help me prepare a message to send him on my behalf?

[Anonymous]

We were together for years at online, we never met. we had ldr online relationship for some years. but for a year he says we are only friends. he doesn't accept me as his girlfriend. at first i really begged him to stay but he didn't. what should i say to him? help me to prepare a message to send him. I don't know what to say to him. I still love him, he says he loves me too but he ended the relationship because he doesn't want children. And his financial situation is not good either. I said I don't want to have children until our financial situation is good either, I said I will wait for you for years (10 more years), I will wait until you are 40 until you get your financial situation right, until we meet in real life but no matter how hard I tried, it was all in vain. He was very determined to break up. Can you write a message from my mouth? I'll send it to him and there will be clarity at the end. I hope he gets back to me because he says he loves me still. we still talk like same as before, like lovers. But for some reason he immediately closes the subject of the relationship and runs away. what should I do and also can you help me prepare a message to send him on my behalf? Even the thought of losing him devastates me. I love him truly.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey girl, I'm really sorry to hear you're going through this. It sounds like a super tough and complicated situation with your ex-boyfriend. On one hand, it's great that you two still talk like lovers and he says he loves you, but the fact that he won't commit to the relationship is really concerning.

I can tell you still have very deep feelings for him, but it seems like he's just not on the same page anymore. The fact that he was so determined to break up, even when you were willing to wait for him, is a major red flag. And him constantly avoiding the subject of the relationship is a sign that he's not ready or willing to make it work.

As much as it hurts, I think the healthiest thing might be to create some distance and space for yourself. You deserve someone who is 100% committed to you and your relationship. This guy is giving you mixed signals and keeping you in this weird in-between zone, and that's not fair to you.

Here's a draft message you could send him:

"[His name], I've been doing a lot of thinking, and I need to be honest with you. Even though we still talk like we're in a relationship, the truth is that you ended things with me a year ago. I respect your decision, but it's been really hard for me. I still love you with all my heart, but I can't keep holding on to this fantasy of us being together when you've made it clear you don't want that.

I think it's time for me to start moving on. I need to create some distance and space for myself so I can heal. I know you say you love me too, but your actions have shown otherwise. I deserve someone who is fully committed to me, and right now that's just not you.

I hope you can understand where I'm coming from. I'll always care about you, but I need to start prioritizing my own happiness and well-being. I'm going to take some time for myself, and I hope you can respect that. Take care."

This gives you a chance to be honest about your feelings, set some boundaries, and start the process of moving on. It's not going to be easy, but you deserve so much better than this limbo you've been stuck in. Stay strong, girl. You've got this!

[Asker]

thanks a lot

[Asker]

i dont even have anyone to talk im so alone😔 i don't have any money to take therapy and i dont have any friends😔 can you talk me in my hard times? can you help me? can we be friends? i dont ask for money as help. i ask for support and advice as friends, nothing more. I don't know how to leave him and it would be great if someone's help and support was with me at that moment.

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, I'm really sorry you're going through such a tough time. I can't even imagine how hard it must be to feel so alone and not have anyone to really lean on. That's got to be really isolating and draining.

Even though we've never met in person, I'd be honored to try and be a supportive friend for you through this. You don't deserve to be going through this all by yourself. I may just be a random internet stranger, but I genuinely want to help support you however I can.

Please don't hesitate to reach out anytime you need someone to talk to or vent to. I may not have all the answers, but I'll do my best to listen, offer advice, and just be there for you. You shouldn't have to face this alone.

I know cutting ties with him completely is going to be really hard, especially since you still have such strong feelings. But you have to put your own wellbeing first. You deserve so much better than being strung along and not getting the commitment you want.

If you need help brainstorming ways to create some distance or emotionally detach, I'm here for that. Or if you just need someone to talk you through the rough moments, I'm all ears. I may not be able to be there physically, but I'll do my best to be a supportive friend from afar.

Just know that you're not alone, even if it feels that way right now. I care about what you're going through, and I'm in your corner. Reach out anytime, girl. We'll get through this together.

[Asker]

thanks really. but i can't send a message, you should send me a message first

[Asker]

can you send me a message?

[Asker]

or you gave up on talk and help me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey I just sent a message to you now sorry about that

[Oliverlogan263]

No, I just didn’t see your message til now sorry

[Staximus]

Some guy you just talked to online is not your boyfriend, he's just some guy you talk to. You actually have to spend some time with him in person or real life for him to be your boyfriend.

[Asker]

he was my boyfriend so people talk about online relationships

[Staximus]

He was not your boyfriend if you never saw him in person. Welcome to real life.

[Asker]

i see your point

[lightfate]

i think its time to make a choice

[katiesmuff]

You need your fucking head examined, not worry about a message you idiot. You almost have to be a 100% TROLL to even ask such a stupid question, especially at 26 years old (which I am sure is fake, just like you are)

[Asker]

your fucking head need to be examined. im not a troll, i could prove if you asked gently. i could even send my photo with proofs and all. you are idiot not me. stupid

[Asker]

whore

[Asker]

stop insult people leave me be

[Asker]

stop insult me

[midnightmoon05]

In what ways was he your “boyfriend”?
You asked 3 questions about some stranger whom you have been wasting 4 years of time …
One day you will have to wake up…. For now… no one can help you if you are not going to listen…
Hope you find a real man to love you… but you have to love yourself first….
You are allowing a stranger to disrespect you… work in your self esteem.

[Sunrising]

My message to send to him is ' Goodbye ' !