Letting Go or Holding On? What is your opinion on the Gray Area After love?

Question

Moving on from a lover is tough, and it’s normal to grieve and reflect on what went wrong for closure. Self-care, support from loved ones, and focusing on other joys can help. However, some might argue that cutting ties too quickly could close the door on future growth or reconciliation. Staying in touch might offer a chance for healing or even a future friendship, suggesting that moving on isn't always the best or only option.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

To me there is no gray area. I don't know how to stop loving and caring about someone. I'll never understand the people that say they can. To me all of this comes down to one or two things. 1. Did we part on good terms. If we did they are still my friend. Why would that change? I'm never going to stop wanting the best for them. 2. What are the perils of staying connected as friends? I knew a woman for the better part of 10 years. But my stupid ass did not see how manipulative she was for the majority of that time. She would only have anything to do with me when it was convenient for her. When I finally woke up and ended it all of a sudden I became the most important thing. She stalked me. But one thing she would never do is say she needed me or wanted me. Because it wasn't about me. She didn't need or want me. She needed my attention, always. She would use others to try to get me back. I don't hate her. But I do hate that I'll always have feelings for her. But as I said, I can not turn that off with anyone I've ever cared about. So, I had to cut her out of my life completely. It's for my protection and peace of mind. I still wish the best for her. As I would anyone. Mainly because I know she'll never find healthy love. I don't think she knows how. And to me, that's unfortunate.

Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

Friendship after they have been a lover …nah , too messy. When it’s over it’s over and you’re dead to me because if it’s over to me that means there is no future. Hanging on to some lesser friendship that couldn’t be close isn’t healthy for their next relationship or mine and above all wouldn’t feel right. I get that it can work for some and I would never say a person was wrong in their choice but I know what’s for me.
I bumped into an extra not so long ago , recognised her before it happened and before she even looked at me but told her she must have me confused with someone else. That’s an example of the lengths I go to. We are done , your a stranger

Alwayreckles93 · Accepted Answer

Interesting how your post pop up just now after I came across my ex Jessy. Interesting He broke it off with me turn away from me left my crying as Iwat h Jessy slamming his breaks on his dodge Ram truck decade ago. Now he is married to another Hispanic woman.

Abbycado · Accepted Answer

I moved on from my first boyfriend. He was a year older and graduated before me and went off to college. It was tough but amicable and necessary.

Now, if it were to be @Circushowcowboy I could just put him in my pocket. Problem solved. Never have to let go XD

Summeroflove · Answer

Between that is grieving a lot of people don’t allow them that time. They want to move on immediately right away. Not taking time to heal and start to genuinely like someone again. They may get themselves into a relationship worse then the last. They may go back to their ex or even stalk them if they can’t. They may cheat on future partners with their exes because they still feel connected to them.

Allow that grief… If you feel that you are a good person. Someone you loved and cared for isn't with you like they used to be. Even if they did something to hurt you or maybe you just grew apart it hurts. If it didn’t hurt I sure wouldn’t to be in a relationship with you because people who move on without grief many times fall into those dark personality traits.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I don't believe open doors ever linger in the past, I always believe they linger in the future, there might be some open doors in the past that youve never crossed that might remain open but I believe all the ones best for your future are in your future, just how I believe in open doors I also believe in closed doors and sometimes we have to close them to better ourselves for our future, I believe something like keeping touch can eventually damage what you have in your future, mostly if for some reason your ex decides to not respect your current relationship, just your new partner getting the wrong idea plants a seed that will most likely blossom to a poison, it's best to close doors as we walk out of them as we walk forward seeking for new open doors, that's my opinion tho

Equality_Destroyer · Answer

When a relationship ends, a strong man like me doesn't linger in the shadows, wallowing in self-pity or seeking solace in the ambiguous.

No, I move on, unphased, knowing that my worth doesn't depend on the affection of a woman.

I'll find someone else to submit to being smacked in the face with my meat stick. My cock, hard and unrelenting will leave no doubt about who's in charge.

If she's lucky enough to experience the full force of Big Rick, she'll understand that submission is the only option.

When it's over, it's over, time to move on to a tighter girl.

ManOnFire · Answer

If somebody really cared about you and was meant to be in your life, then they would stay in your life. I am not a believer in breaking up and then "getting your ex back." I used to be, but I learned that this really does not work most of the time.

Holding on to someone who isn't holding on to you, or hoping and fighting for them to return isn't beneficial to you or your mental and emotional health.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

To me if a guy breaks my heart he is cut off 100%. I don't want a reconciliation even if I love him so deeply and kind of deeply wish we could. I could never be friends with a guy I still loved.. no way.

Jay-_- · Answer

MY OPINION, if you let go, let go, holding on could ruin future opportunities and current opportunities as well, but I do believe in if it comes back there was love as long as it's not overlapping on anyone's life. For example none of you are in a relationship and after some time both had the same feeling to come back to each other. Now clinging on when no one said they would come back is probably not the best idea.

Anonymous · Answer

No contact. Sometimes, separation makes us realize what we had and what we treasure. I think, after separation, when one does reach out and the other still have feelings, give it a second chance, the relationship might be better. Sometimes we need separation to heal first.

Caroline91 · Answer

If you can't fix it but can't leave each other alone... move on no matter how painful.

1920s_Vamp · Answer

Oh, the grey area, when one can't live without the other but the other can live without them. Let go, heal.

GlowUpGirly5 · Answer

Move on, I don't get this " I need to heal, self care, I need support " stuff. The person doesn't like you they don't like you. You don't have a choice move om

SleepingHazard · Answer

It can be difficult to move on, but once I decide to move forward, there's no looking back. If things ended, it ended for a reason.

IWILLPLEASEYOU · Answer

Best to let go for both of you if you're honest with yourself you know that it's already time for letting go !

NathanDavis · Answer

not sure... but I never had a bad breakup like that

Staximus · Answer

I guess that depends on the reason of the breakup and if the two can let bygones be bygones, forgive and move forward.

Agape93 · Answer

I don't have one. It's like a light switch for me.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Nah when I'm done I'm done. I don't go backwards

KrakenAttackin · Answer

You mean a fuck buddy.

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