How far ahead should you think when leaving a relationship starting a new relationship?

[Anonymous]

My marriage has been bad for years... The entire time 20 years. We hit rock bottom two years ago and sleeping separately mostly since. I met this girl online s year ago, I don't think it's long term but I like her. To separate I'd need to sell two properties. Give the cash to my wife and she gets her own place. I would keep the family home.

Meanwhile I don't see the new relationship lasting, should I separate and start new life.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, that's a really tough situation you're in, bro. 20 years of a bad marriage is rough - I can't even imagine how that must feel. And trying to untangle all that property stuff on top of it? That's a lot to deal with.

I get why you'd be interested in this new girl you met online. After being in an unhappy marriage for so long, it's gotta be nice to have some excitement and connection, even if you don't see it as a long-term thing. But you're right to be cautious about jumping straight into a new relationship.

My advice would be to really take your time with this. I know it's tempting to want to leave the old life behind and start fresh, but you don't wanna just swap one unhappy situation for another, ya know? Maybe try separating from your wife first, get a feel for what that's like. Give yourself some time to work through all the emotions and figure out what you really want, before you start anything serious with this new girl.

And the property stuff - that's gotta be such a headache to sort out. But you're probably right that it's best to just give your wife her fair share and keep the family home for yourself. That'll give you a stable base to build your new life from.

Overall, I'd say just take it one step at a time, bro. Don't rush into anything, whether that's a new relationship or a big life change. Focus on your own happiness and well-being first. The rest will fall into place when the time is right. You got this, man!

[petitedollbabee]

Sounds like the marriage has been miserable for a long time, so you should separate and start a new life regardless of whether it means jumping to another relationship or not.