Long Distance Relationship: When is it the right time to talk about having a future together?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy through a mutual friend, we hooked up twice and had a crazy connection. 2 weeks later he moved to a different country which he had been planning for years. We stayed in contact, talked every day, and then declared it a relationship about 1.5 months after we met. 1 month later I got on a plane and visited him in his country. I was supposed to be there for three days but I missed my flight back home and stayed for another four days. We spent 7 amazing days together. Now I'm back home. It's been 3 months since we started talking. We talk every day, tell each other about our day, and talk about any and every topic. We told each other our flaws and kept each other honest on who we are as people. How long do you think I should wait before we talk about having a future together? I feel like it's too early to decide and it's hard to determine whether it would be the right choice because we don't have options to see each other often (he can't take days off because he just started a new job) and I don't think texting is enough to really know whether we're truly right for each other (even though I already feel like he's right for me - but can't tell if that's because of the honeymoon phase or because it's the truth). Any advice and tips you can give on this situation will be appreciated! Thank you!

[nspencer]

It sounds like you guys have a great connection but I would take it slow, just because everything in the beginning is always new and fresh and even with a great connection it takes a bit to truly know a person. Realistically also because of the situation it doesn’t sound like you guys can really plan much of a future at this point, since even seeing each other is hard. Also when he does get time off in the future he would have to make an effort to see you as well it goes both ways, which is not something you can judge he would do right now. Just don’t fall victim to a love- bomber, not saying he is that just saying be cautious, don’t give too much and match his energy. Long term relationships take a lot of work on both involved but eventually you guys would need to figure out something I just wouldn’t do that just yet.

[Asker]

Thank you, this is really helpful!

[Guy13]

Long distance is not for me. I would say cut ties after the encounter and two weeks ended. It's like a fantasy relationship and you will likely only be pissed at time you wasted...