Do you think my ex will come back?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been in no contact with him for past 5 days which I will be continuing and I miss him as hell. He left me because I didn’t look good as I used to look , I wasn’t having any personal growth in terms of my career especially then according to him I was never really that much into him even though I was but he just didn’t realise that and he got busy in his work life but all I wanted from him was his time. Which he didn’t give me enough as he was doing his startup and his love for me had declined too.

So if I get myself a job which he wanted me to do and I work on myself and become good looking again and lose weight ans he liked me being thin and stop giving any fucks to him.
Do u think he’ll want me in his life back?

also I apologise for my incorrect grammar please don’t lash out on me for it.

[HollyK21]

This is devastating and not because of why he left but because of what you’re willing to do to get him back. You must not have any women around who uplift you so let me just say — you are fine just how you are! No you are not perfect but none of us ever will be, which is why we are supposed to find the partner who will love us as we are! Push each other for greatness not leave because something changes that we don’t like! Communicate with that person, give them a chance to correct something if it’s feasible or work with them together on it!


Your ex did not do that because it was an excuse, just like his laundry list of other ”problems” he kept to himself to use as justification for such a breakup. He deflected any and all guilt, truly narcissistic behavior! Feeling pain over a breakup is normal, but you should also feel anger when you think about how he handled this. You should not want any man back who doesn’t love you in ALL your phases.

[Asker]

Okayy. I miss him every day so much and it’s only becz I recall our past memories nd how they were all so good. It’s so hard to not text or call him.

[HollyK21]

How you’re feeling is 100% valid and anyone who’s gone through a breakup where they were still in love understands you too. But your moments of weakness don’t mean you should cave, so be proud of yourself for staying strong. These past few days and days to come are going to be hard but we both know that comes with the territory. You just have to find distractions and give yourself little opportunity to focus on thinking about him the way you can when you’re just sitting around. I know the main question is if he will come back, and of course there’s always a possibility. However I think that hanging onto hope will make it harder to heal because there will still be part of you hanging on. What you need to do instead is start correcting how you think and instead of asking yourself “will he come back, when will it happen”, ask “why would he not even talk to me about these issues first?” “How long has he felt this way?” “Is this the sort of love I want for myself?”. That last question is the biggest one because I think if you went back to him you would never be yourself again. You would constantly adjust yourself to be who he wants out of fear he will leave again and that’s miserable. He’s not perfect either in fact he has his own issues that you just make peace with not leave him over.

[Asker]

Okay I get it. Thankyou for helping me out.

[HollyK21]

No worries hun! If you have a support system around you then reach out to them, stay busy. This will pass🤍

[Asker]

Honestly I don’t have. I don’t have frndz in my city and the ones that I do have r out of my city as for family I’ve my sis’s who help me out. But it’s just difficult sometime to share certain things with my sis.

[HollyK21]

Oh gosh, I’m sorry to hear that. If you ever need to vent about this or support you’re totally welcome to either return to this comment or DM me. I’d also suggest picking up a class or something that gets you out of the house, it can be painting, Zumba, etc., but then you’ll have the exposure to meet more women and gain friends. It is probably out of your comfort zone especially the idea of going alone but you’d be so proud of yourself. That’s assuming you don’t do that already, of course!

[Asker]

Right now my exams are approaching so I don’t have the time for hobbies and making frndz rn. But once exams finish I’ll def be doing some course or joining. Football or enrolling in a makeup class.

[HollyK21]

Sounds great! Hoping you’re able to free up some of your time sooner rather than later. Until then, hang in there girl. These first few weeks will be the hardest and if he reaches out you may want to cave. Just keep things in perspective and stay strong, this will pass💛

[Asker]

Okay I will stay strong. Everyday I get this urge to text or call him but I won’t.

[PessicaJeter]

It's a bit saddening to hear how much work you might be willing to do in order to win this guy back. From the sound of it,. you are still in school, so unless you are in need of money, it seems perfectly reasonable that that would be your focus instead of finding work in order to meet this person's approval. You should try take some time to think about what YOU really want from life, and listen less to those around you telling you what THEY want you to do.

I know it's difficult right now, but if you're able to find some distractions, it will get easier for your thoughts to stop being consumed by this person. Everything is painful right now, but eventually the pain will start to fade as you're able to let go and let yourself move on from this. You're welcome to DM if you ever need/want to vent about things, or need someone to talk to.

[kraegon]

Why do you miss someone who's dedication to you is as shallow as that? We all grow less attractive sooner or later as we age. Do you really want to live with that fear? Find someone who loves you for you

[Asker]

Okay yeah ur correct but I miss him as hell every single day and expect for him to miss me nd contact me but he just doesn’t message or call. Only on the first day of no contact he called me 4 times and I didn’t pick up nor did I call back.

[Jeff51]

I dont know. If you have tried contacting him and nothing them maybe not.

[Asker]

I haven’t contacted him past 5 days and I won’t contact further also unless he contacts me.

[Jeff51]

It sounds like to me that it is over.

[Asker]

Okay but then y do all
Love gurus say that they all come back especially men?

[Jeff51]

Don't know. Can't believe half of the stuff on gag. I guess you will find out in time.

[Asker]

Okay

[biraileeşkadını]

When someone leaves, it's over the day they leave; they don't come back.

[In_Trance]

Hopefully not