Should I give my ex another chance or just block him?

[lover01__]

So, my ex randomly reached out to me recently. We dated about 6 years ago for only 4 months. Back then, he broke up with me because his family thought he was too young for anything serious, and he felt pressured to end it. I didn’t think much of it—we were young and still figuring life out, so I just moved on and haven’t thought about him since.

Fast forward to now: he reached out, but at this point, he’s married with a baby. He said he wanted to talk. I was hesitant but eventually agreed. When the time came for us to talk, he ghosted me. I blocked him, and the next day he messaged me on Instagram asking if I had blocked him. I told him yes, because I don’t play about my time being wasted. He begged me to give him another chance to explain, and I eventually agreed.

He explained he went ghost bc just got out of jail after she accused him of hitting her (he says it wasn’t true). He explained his marriage went bad after a year—claims his wife was abusive, they haven’t had sex in 2 years, and she admitted she only married him because she felt pressured. And refused to provide him with any loving affection.

He admitted he thought about me during his marriage and regrets how things ended. Now he wants another chance, but he’s already moving too fast—love-bombing, constantly saying he misses me, wanting to be on the phone all day, and talking about a future together. I’ve told him I only want to take it slow as friends, but he keeps pushing.

He also admitted to emotionally cheating on his wife (texting another woman), bc he just wanted to feel some sort of affection from someone. He recently later found out she is actively cheating on him and is now openly dating the guy when they aren’t divorced yet. She’s also trying to keep his baby from him.

I feel bad for him, but I can’t tell if he’s being genuine or if something feels off. I did explain he has to slow down but he claims he’s just excited to possibly have a chance with me What do you think?

[ChicoFromThe305]

If you don't see all the red flags then I don't know what to tell you but he's shows signs of disloyalty, desperateness, selfishness, and carelessness and that's something you should really ask yourself if that's something you really want to involve yourself in, meaning that it's built in his character to behave like this like it's normal, meaning that if you did give him a chance the signs that he could do the same to you is there, you also have the situation with the other woman and the child that will also be in your life, there's plenty of men out there and personally I don't think investing your time into this specific person is the best use of your time, mostly if you are a single, childless woman that has a lot to offer to a man, find a man that has a lot to offer to you as well, this is basically sloppy seconds activity here.

[lover01__]

Noted thank you for the advice

[ChicoFromThe305]

Best of luck

[AvaRay]

I can really relate to the tension between empathy and self preservation..

It’s natural to feel for someone who re enters your life with so much history n emotion, yet the wisest choice is always to honor your own boundaries..

True clarity, peace, n growth come from observing actions over words n protecting your well being first cause that is the deepest form of care u can give, both to yourself n to others.. 😊🙏🏻

[lover01__]

Ty this perfect advice

[AvaRay]

Your welcome.. hope it's helps u in a good way, God bless u 😊🙏🏻

[WhitneySnow]

Liste mn to your instincts. But don’t just ghost him. If you’re going to block him, tell him exactly why before you do it.

[WhitneySnow]

Listen

[itsannalee]

Ex is ex, they become an ex for a reason