Is it okay to fall in love within eight months of breakup?

[Anonymous]

For context, it was a long distance relationship. We met each other online, the relationship was entirely online (except two short meetings) and we eventually broke up. He had horrible mood swings, he treated me very bad at one point. He'd never do anything that would make him look like a 'simp', while I was his girlfriend. It was always me apologizing, crying, resolving fights. I was at my lowest emotionally, I thought I didn't deserve anything better and it was my first relationship.

After the breakup 8 months have passed and my ex still talks to me from time to time. I was still kinda holding on the memories of the relationship. But I met a guy recently (not dating app but everyday life) and he's extremely nice, especially nice to me. I have a feeling that he likes me and my friends also think that. I was surprised by the way he treated me, he's much kinder, gentler to me than towards anyone else. Besides, he had been there for me even when everyone else chose to not be. I can't help but like him. The thought of my ex never crosses my mind these days. Is it okay to move forward in this relationship?

[Noredcarpet]

Yes!!! You so should. You wasted enough time and feelings on your ex already You would not fall in love with someone else if you were not ready. I was in a bad relationship once when I later fell in love with someone who was too so kind. I think had it not been that I had been treated so badly before many things this new kind guy did would have passed me by. He too noticed something nice I did I did not think off. He had been treated badly before in his life, unfortunately still by few familymembers but he didn't recognize it for what it was, the damage it was doing to us, me, we didn't last. I am much appreciative he came around when he did. It was a kind of rebirth. I wish you two all the best. Keeping my fingers crossed.

[Nikki1989]

Why would anyone wait 8 months? 8 weeks, maybe at a stretch.

[Anonymous]

Wow that's a lie "The thought of my ex never crosses my mind these days." If he didn't cross your mind you wouldn't be on here asking us this question and you wouldn't of brought him up in this question.

"he's much kinder, gentler to me than towards anyone else" that's a red flag in case you're to blind to see it.. he holds back to his anger he might have anger issues and he avoid fights and confrontations and conflicts with you

It was always me apologizing, crying, resolving fights. I was at my lowest emotionally, I thought I didn't deserve anything better--- this was me when dealing with Danielle

[jtg13]

I was told a month for every year you were with someone is needed.

Which is a fair rule of thumb to follow. Keeps someone from jumping one relationship to another. Time is needed to reflect, heal, and let go.

If you've learned what went wrong and what your part in it was with taking responsibility for those parts. You're probably good. You'll apply lessons learned to the next. Gratitude for the prior isn't important as well

[AviatorTom]

You don't need to wait 8 months. Eros/Cupid can fire the love arrow at you at any time.

[Bitter_Sweet94]

Yes, it’s okay.

Healing isn’t measured by a calendar.

8 months is enough time for some people to grow, reflect, and genuinely move on and not nearly enough for others.

Both are normal.

What matters isn’t the timing,
but the intention.

Are you choosing love because you’re ready, or because you’re lonely?

Are you building forward, or trying to fill a void?

If your heart feels clear, grounded, and steady there’s nothing wrong with letting something new in.

[Alex-Snow]

I would move forward. It is always better to meet some IRL. You only met ur ex 2 times? wow. Did you have sex with him? At any rate move on and have fun with the new guy. Block ur ex.

[serious]

Yes it is okay. It is a question of feelings so I suppose anything can happen

[BCRanger10]

Yes. Eight months is plenty of time. More than enough in fact, if you ask me.

[gottogames313gotag]

it takes me couple years to fully heal from a heart break

[gottogames313gotag]

i only had 2 real girlfriends online the first one gave me a heart break and im sensetive

[Asker]

I understand. My ex also cheated on me in the past but I decided to forgive him. He didn't cheat again but his behavior was horrible.

[elizamichale1]

Ofcourse honey... u can't really control feelings of love

[Iron_Man]

That’s way too soon. That means you weren’t in love with your former boyfriend to fall in love that Fast again

[Anonymous]

Yes we're only here for 80 or 90 years, only 40 years of youth.

[Anonymous]

Not if tmyou decision making was just as bad as the first time.

[MasterKS]

8 hours is enough if you feel it, 8 mnths is way more than enough.

[slatyb]

Absolutely, or within eight days.

[dudeinohio]

Yes, absolutely. Pursue the new relationship.

[WhitneySnow]

Yes!!!

[beenherebefore]

That's okay.