Should I feel bad for my ex?

[Simslover92]

Karma has sort of reached him while I'm on cloud nine looking forward to a date, he's suffering and it's making me feel bad for him.

I guess the girl he was with who was married with a kid has ended things with him. And he's taking it hard.

Now he's feeling the hurt and pain I felt for months.

And while many might say why should I care, he's still my good friend and when a friend is hurting, I'm hurting.

[Purpleronnie]

Just sounds like your a decent person , that regardless of all you “could” feel , you still sympathize , maybe even empathize what he is going through in spite or through it all.


Why shouldn’t you , it’s human isn’t it?

[Simslover92]

You're right it is. But I know some people might feel like I shouldn't because of how he did me.

[Purpleronnie]

But they are them , and you are you. You could choose to see it like a sign that you have turned a corner , that you don’t feel that he might deserve it?

[Simslover92]

That's true. And he definitely doesn't deserve to be hurt like I was hurt. No one does. I wouldn't wish what I felt on my worst enemy.

[Xawyx-2]

I think it's normal, he is still your friend after all.

[Xawyx-2]

Thanks for the MHO

[ohsheeT]

That might be understandable. You feeling that way.

But what did you feel when he left you to be with this married women wonder if he was feel you then

Well you can definitely do a few things but the best thing you can do is remember balance be neutral.

Because anything that you say or do is going to affect you one way or the other, if it's not the day that you say it, it'll be 1 month, 2 months, 5 months, one year somewhere down the road, that's why it's better just to be neutral, not even bring it up.

Just remember whatever you do. Do it's your choice

And you will learn either that you did already learn something or you have to relive it again. You have to ask yourself how much pain did you go through?

[AviatorTom]

It's okay to feel bad for your ex, and current friend. But remember... he made choices that turned out to be less than ideal. Dating a married woman? Not the best choice, and choices some with consequences.

[Simslover92]

Indeed it does.

[OlderAndWiser]

Why are you trying to remain friends with an ex. . . especially one who hurt you so badly?

[Simslover92]

Because we were friends well before we got together and a friendship like that shouldn't end because of a failed relationship.

[aaron13547]

Yea you should feel bad for him that makes you good person. However its important to know the difference of where you start and where the relationship ends. If that makes any sense...

I had a really hard time learning this and still do i have someone that I tried to teach how to love themselves and they used it to attach themselves to me. Now their being around is making me not love myself because I want them gone. Funny how that works. I wish I would have seen before now where I start and they end. Because they do not... and I've got to set boundaries... we all get ourselves in situations sometimes thou we put ourselves there... have the feelings without doing that. Like I wish I would have now

[Screenwriter]

How you feel about his loss of his current SO is completely up to you. If you have remained friends you can lend an ear or send him a sympathy card. I wouldn't get overly sorry for him as you were in his position BECAUSE he broke up with you.

However, if you're totally over him and you can be friendly with him over his suffering, do so. You're a better person than he is.

[Simslover92]

Thank you. And I definitely am over him and only see him as a friend that's hurting right now.

[WhitneySnow]

That’s sweet of you but I’m glad you’re not thinking of going back to him. It sounds like even if he didn’t hurt you intentionally, he at least acted with callous disregard for your feelings when he broke up with you. He definitely left you with a lot of pain and then strung you along by hooking up with you and making you think maybe he wanted to get back together.

[Simslover92]

Right. You're so right and I see that now.

[YTuber417]

I'm not sure why you're asking a question like this at 33 years old? If that's the dynamic you and your ex chose, then it's only natural for you to still care for him - even if you're not on speaking terms or you cut each other off, it doesn't always mean you don't care for that person.

I had to cut off my best friend of 10 years because I caught him stealing and cut off my ex girlfriend because the way she was treating me after our breakup - I have zero regrets doing so, but I still care for them deeply and this was a few years ago.

[Bitter_Sweet94]

You can feel compassion without carrying their pain.

Feeling bad for an ex is natural, but it doesn’t mean you owe them guilt, responsibility, or a second chance.

Your job isn’t to fix their feelings.

Your job is to protect your peace.

Care from a distance if you want, but don’t let it pull you backwards.

[exitseven]

okay, life is tough. he is really better offf.

[Simslover92]

Right he is indeed.

[exitseven]

you think you will get him back, dont you.

[Simslover92]

No I don't actually. I've really moved on this time. I only see him as a friend now. There's no going back for me.

[exitseven]

@Simslover92 😊😊😊

[snermcger]

So he dumped you for a married chick with a kid?
Either she was smokin hot or you're a big boned broad.

[Simslover92]

Nope. We actually look the same which is funny though she might be a bit taller than me. I'm on the smaller side. And he didn't dump me for her. He dumped me well before he got with her for other reasons.

[snermcger]

Women are strange. I have been in many relationships. I could not tell you one day after breaking one off what that person was doing in their life.
Breakup, and it's zero fks given. You should try it, it's probably healthier.

[Simslover92]

We are just friends now. I'm about to start seeing someone else now. He's in basic training but once he's out, we will go on a date. So I'm well over my ex.

[TonyMetal___86]

I don't know what to say miss sims, because personally i'd never be friends with someone who had dumped and hurt me!

[Simslover92]

I know but we were friends for many years before getting together and I didn't want our friendship to end because of a failed relationship.

[TonyMetal___86]

But people move forward and not backward, wether it's friendship or a relationship, this person had hurt you deep, how come you're able accepting him as a friend after all what he did to you 🤔

You're keeping your wounds open just by seeing him and being with him and knowing things about his life, you're like living in a trap for no reason, he's moving on with his life without you, while you still care about him, that's what keeping you moving in circles over and over again, you're just wasting your time and your life for nothing...

[Simslover92]

I've moved on. I am moving on to someone else and hopefully it works out. He can still be my friend and I be with someone else. I'm not hung up over him anymore.

[TonyMetal___86]

I hope so miss sims, for your own mentality and health!
I hope that your new relationship can bring you some comfort and real happiness because it's time for you to receive what you deserve!

[Simslover92]

Thank you. I hope so too.

[TonyMetal___86]

You're welcome

[RavVid]

Well getting off with a married woman with a kid was a bad decision. It was immoral.

I, and think you too, should feel he is getting a well deserved life lesson.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope I wouldn't all of his pain is self inflicted. What wad he doing with a married woman when he could've been with you. Not only would I not care i wouldn't even talk to him

[Simslover92]

He's still my friend. I can't help but feel bad for him. He's taking it really bad.

[douride2]

So let me get this right. He left you for a married woman? If so. The short answer is NO.

[Simslover92]

No he left me way before he got with the married woman.

[douride2]

Still I wouldn't bother getting back with him.

[Simslover92]

Oh no I'm definitely not.

[sage2021]

Well, you really don't need us to tell you how to feel about him. You already answered your own question. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Still-alive]

You gotta just let him be. He’ll be fine eventually. Just keep living your best life

[Simslover92]

Thanks. I will.

[Still-alive]

He doesn’t sound very bright tbh going after a married woman. Js

[Simslover92]

He is actually very smart just not with that decision he made.

[Still-alive]

If you say so. You know him better than we do.

I mean what did he think was gonna happen there? Lol 🤷

[Simslover92]

I dunno but I feel bad that things didn't work in his favor. I really do.

[Still-alive]

@Simslover92 i guess he’s the type that has to learn things the hard way

[Simslover92]

Yes I guess so

[Iron_Man]

You can talk to him as a friend, but I wouldn’t get involved in dating him again

[Simslover92]

Yeah I definitely won't

[Iron_Man]

Good smart girl

[slatyb]

You can feel sad for him. That doesn't mean you should try to save him. You can't. You will just ruin your own life.

[trumpetplayerforlife]

It means you are a good person ans you have grown pass them it's okay to feel bad but it's also okay to enjoy it

[WonderingManII]

That is thing people seem to take for granted or pretend it doesn't exist. People form bonds with other. Why you need to be careful of who you form bonds with.

[ABC1x1x]

If you are an empath feeling bad for others is natural. Thays why people thay like empathetic peoe like you. People that are smart or sociopaths thinknyou are silly. This is why most people dont like sociopaths. But those people are wrong.

[MemeSupreme]

its okay to

just bc you're exes doesn't mean you have to stop caring about them

[Gagforlifetime]

You are human so it’s normal to feel bad. Off topic you should try to move on and find someone that will make you happy

[Simslover92]

I have and I am.

[beenherebefore]

Honestly, I wouldn't care or waste my time thinking about it.

[Jmmmfi4]

Yes you should feel terrible... but you won't

[Simslover92]

What do you mean I won't. I do.

[Shiprex]

It's life.

Consoling may be misinterpreted, ignoring may be harmful to the friendship

[soe11]

• My advice is follow your own desires freely.

[Jerre]

Keep looking forward to the date. He’ll get over the girl with the kid. Enjoy yourself to the fullest and you will survive the hurt.

[Jerre]

@Simslover92 Thank you for the Like Elaine!

[Staximus]

No, he's an idiot for fooling around with a married woman

[dudeinohio]

He made his bed. Now he must sleep in it. I wouldn't be upset.

[queenofcardio]

No. I wouldn't feel bad either

[spartan55]

'Good friends' with an ex? Bad idea.

[Anonymous]

Girl dont be such a pollyanna, you should be happy he's like this

[PeterLegg91]

Course you wouldn't be human otherwise

[Raydergman26]

Yes and block him