How do you adapt to single life again, after a 21 year relationship?

[Shy-boy53]

Just recently been kinda dumped after a pretty fulfilling 21 year relationship. It wasn’t perfect but what relationship is? I’m now just kinda lost and trying to get used to life alone I guess. Being of a mature age it’s just kinda daunting

[SueShe]

That is indeed daunting to suddenly find yourself alone after all that time. It is like when your partner or spouse of so many years passes away. First you are speechless, you deny the fact and don't want to admit it happens to you.

First things first. Clean your place and get rid of all those trinkets, souvenirs and memories that bind you to that person including pictures, social media and other memorabilia.

Change your looks, your clothing, get yourself a new hairstyle. Leave the old you behind and if need be, change your neighborhood and downsize because you will not need all that empty space just for yourself.

[Shy-boy53]

Thanks for replying, the things you suggest are great ideas , just taking that leap of faith I guess

[SueShe]

That leap of faith can be daunting and sometimes one hesitates to make that jump. Good luck.

[Nikki1989]

"It wasn’t perfect, but what relationship is?"

That attitude wouldn't have helped you, dude. Some relationships ARE perfect.

[Shy-boy53]

I didn’t mean it in a disrespectful way, I just meant that with any relationship there are times when health etc can cause issues.

[capriVib]

In your situation, there are many mature women. Look for someone you get along with, someone you can be friends with. Or if you have children, close the relationship chapter and find other things to focus on. A life without a relationship isn’t impossible.

[Shy-boy53]

Oh I totally get that a life without a relationship is possible, I guess I’m just not used to it

[beefcakebradybatson]

Get a buxom blonde !!!

[Shy-boy53]

😂 short term fix then

[Anonymous]

Just join groups and make a lot of new friends and the dating thing will eventually make itself known. Don't push it or try to do too much too fast. A 50 year old man is a catch for a 30 or 40 year old woman.

[Shy-boy53]

I like your optimism but can’t see an old ma being anyone’s catch 😂

[MereAnarchy]

Get a dog.

[Shy-boy53]

That’s one option definitely