Men, what really happens in your mind after a breakup—do you even care?

[Anonymous]

How do men process breakups? When does it hit you? Do you even think about the girl and for how long or did you spend all your time trying to forget her?

My boyfriend and I broke up Sunday and i’ve been in shambles, crying my eyes out, haven't slept in days and feel like my life is falling apart… i haven't talked to him since and he hasn't reached out which i doubt he would but do men even care

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2 mo

He broke up with me because i suspected that he relapsed which i have proof he did but i didn't want to show him the pictures i took of his pipe and baggies i found in a hiding spot in his car.. but i wasn’t expecting him to end it with me i was planning on talking to him about rehab not breaking up.. we share a 3 year old and he hasn't even reached out to check on our son its like he’s disappeared and doesn't care anymore all in a span of 4 days

[CriminallyInsane]

Who broke up with who would be extremely helpful in answering. Usually whoever does it has already been thinking about it. They're naturally further along in the process.

[Asker]

He broke up with me because i suspected that he relapsed which i have proof he did but i didn't want to show him the pictures i took of his pipe and baggies i found in a hiding spot in his car.. but i wasn’t expecting him to end it with me i was planning on talking to him about rehab not breaking up.. we share a 3 year old and he hasn't even reached out to check on our son its like he’s disappeared and doesn't care anymore all in a span of 4 days

[dudeinohio]

Depends. When my last marriage collapsed, it crushed me. It didn't keep me from looking for a new relationship, however.

Girlfriends before and after, i just moved on immediately and started looking for someone new. I have the mindset, that once it's over, it's over and move on.

[DryGermanGuy]

https://youtu.be/ZpUYjpKg9KY?si=ienY8QGIWLRxsZUn

[WhitneySnow]

Sometimes guys care. But if he was the one who broke up with you, there’s a very good chance he’s just relieved.

[WhitneySnow]

Your boyfriend is a narcissist and a drug addict. He doesn’t care about you or your son. You’re better off without him, except now you need to go to court and sue for child support.

[majd90000]

It depends on the girl and also on the reason for the breakup.

[Anonymous]

It depends on if the person really loved you , took you for granted or was using you for sex

[In_Trance]

I don't think you know what it means to break up