Progressive or a slow-motion breakup?

[RachyRach]

Are open relationships actually progressive and honest, or just a slow-motion breakup with extra drama?

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

It just depends on the context. Generally if one person is needing to convince the other to "just try it" then it's just because they want justified cheating. That's gonna end in disaster.

Now if both partners come in not wanting anything serious or both partners are on board for an open relationship then it can work quite well. It usually requires better communication and check ins to ensure everyone is still on the same page, emotionally and mentally secure, and most of all, physically safe.

[Nikki1989]

The average person is far too insecure for open relationships. Only the most well-grounded people can make them work.

[MrChinaski]

I think the average person isn't willing to give up the qualities they value in monogamous relationships for the costs and benefits of open relationships. That's a choice, not a failing.

[EveryDayIsPretzelDay]

Umm... I personally think open relationships are bulls**t, but there might be a few people out there who can genuinely make that sort of thing work.

However, if two people are in a long-standing relationship, and one of them says they want it to be an open relationship, that's probably a sign that the relationship is going to end in the not-so-distant future.

[Bklynbadboy12]

What is the point to an open relationship the me that makes no sense. You commit to some just just so you can sleep with ehomever you want. You can do that without being in a relationship

[MrChinaski]

'Open' just means non-monogamous. It's not a very descriptive term. Sure you could describe a relationship as 'open' if people are free to have sex on the side. You could describe a relationship as 'open' if three people are life partners together. Huge difference.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Just listen to what you said open means non-monogamous and not being monogamous means your not exclusive sexual and if your not exclusive your not committed sexually. So your committing to someone just so you can not commit sexually. Here's a novel idea just stay single and do whatever you want

[RachyRach]

Fair point!

[Bklynbadboy12]

It just makes no sense its the exact opposite of being committed so why even be in a relationship if you dont want to be in a relationship!!! Smh

[MrChinaski]

Exclusivity and commitment are unrelated.

[MrChinaski]

Your argument is: A. Lots of balloons are red. B. If it isn't red it isn't a balloon.

Lots of committed relationships are monogamous. That doesn't imply that if it isn't monogamous it isn't committed.

[Bklynbadboy12]

So to be clear your saying you can commit to something without being committed 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[MrChinaski]

You can be 100% committed to a non-monogamous relationship.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes sure you can commit to being none committed 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Agape93]

Depends. It's not for most people. But for example, I've been in an open relationship most of my adult life. And I've been with the same girl for 7 years now, while also enjoying other men and women with her knowledge and blessing. she's done the same.

You have to communicate and have to not be jealous.

[TonyMetal___1986]

Haven't you ever thought of fixing your life by cutting all this nonsense jumping between men and women and wasting yourself for nothing?

How about you find a man who will truly loves you and you'll love him back, get married and have a family where you can find some real happiness and stability, plus living a normal life focusing on your man, yourself and kids if you want to have any 🤷🏻‍♂️

It's just a suggestion, in the end you're free with your life...

According to your story, you have lived the majority of your life in pain, being assaulted, beaten and threatened to be killed, maybe got raped too... etc

Don't you want to open a new chapter in your life where you can live the opposite of your miserable beginnings?

[Agape93]

This does make happy, as much as i can be. Monogamy feels suffocating.

And I told you this a while back, I can't have kids anymore via partial hysterectomy. I dont regret it, or my lifestyle.

[TonyMetal___1986]

I have to search for what hysterectomy means 🤔
You know that if a man really loves you, he might accept the fact that you can't have kids, plus a real marriage means a husand and wife together forever first than comes the children and evergthing else, you know that kids won't last forever with you, they will grow up to have their own lives, the only person who will stay with you forever is your man, the one who said yes to you, plus god makes a husband and a wife as one being, not your parents, not your kids, only you and your husband, that's what a real marriage is!

At least for me that's what i believe in...

[TonyMetal___1986]

Plus a woman is full human being, not only a baby popper, she has feelings, emotions and her own presence, i'll never be married to a woman just for the sake of giving me babies 🤦🏻‍♂️

[NathanDavis]

any kind of relationship can be both of the things you said...

and it depends on what kind of people they are

[ericJackson]

What's even the point of an open relationship? Committing to someone just to sleep around makes zero sense you can stay single and do that anyway.

[slatyb]

I know two happy couples in long-lasting open marriages.

[MrChinaski]

Drop the envy, drop the jealousy, drop the ego. Pickup complete honesty and a deep desire for your partner or partners to be happy. If you can be a better person, then they work.

[TonyMetal___1986]

This open relationship is a foolish thing to me, shouldn't even be called a relationship, because a relationship is when i'm having only one woman and focusing only on her!

[LiamJHayden]

No idea as I have zero interest in such an arrangement. If I am going to play the field so to speak I am not pretending to have a relationship.

[loveslongnails]

My SO would have her arm around me and be holding HER hand, and no one is breaking up! :-D

[DishLady]

Neither. Rip off the bandaid.

[Maria1986z]

To each their own. I don't judge because it’s not "conventional."

[exitseven]

I do not think open relationships are real relationships. A relationship suggests genuine committment.

[theskyrider]

Open relationship can never be Honest, neither Drama can be involved.
Are you planning for one?

[MasterKS]

Open relationship is the boldest one, some people can't handle it some make it best.

[canamlusciouslad73]

Is he a blond boy?

[RachyRach]

Yup. So?

[canamlusciouslad73]

Just wondering. Don't know if girls like blond boys, but...

[RachyRach]

I like them

[canamlusciouslad73]

To each their own. Exactly what about blond boys do you like?

[RachyRach]

The fact that their hair color isn't what determines attractiveness for me

[canamlusciouslad73]

Oh. Just their skin colour.

[RachyRach]

Nope not that either. I'm not that shallow.

[canamlusciouslad73]

So you don't scream "R*pe" or clutch your purse and/or walk on the other side of the street when you see a black man like half of white women, even the fugly ones?

[RachyRach]

Wtf no

[FrodoSkywalker007]

@RachyRach he's a racist. Dealt with him before on here.

[RachyRach]

I'll put him in his place if he fucks with me lol

[canamlusciouslad73]

@FrodoSkywalker007 I'm not a racist. I tell racists where to go, how to get there and what to do when they get there.

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Right. 😂

[msc545]

They usually turn out to be just a slow-motion breakup.

[Darthskywalker6969]

Best to avoid open relationships

[WhitneySnow]

The second one

[_Jenny_]

@RachyRach Good question

[RareBreedOfMan]

Slow motion break up.

[AgentG111]

Never had each one.

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Seems dangerous