After a break up who moves on faster, women or men?

[Anonymous]

I would say women because there is always a guy waiting in line just to be with her.

[AllThatSweetJazz]

It's true that women seem to have an easy time finding another partner, but even without that women naturally get over the pain much easier. Some studies suggests it's more than ten times as fast. Suggesting that it takes years to properly recover. Whereas some women cry it out and are completely ready to bond with someone new the next month or next week or next day.

Guys seem less emotional, but that's a symptom of their pain. A typical guy reaction to a break up is to feel numb, the pain slowly grows intense over time but spreads out over a long period. It takes time for it all to really hit a guy. You can find an explanation for this in a certain brain structure, it's an evolved response to difficult situations, the point is to be able to handle things themselves as they happen. So the emotional trauma is delayed. Women's response tends to get it all out quickly and also helps draw people in to help.

But it depends on how invested the parties were and individual attitudes toward relationships.

Just saying that as a general rule, it's going to be women. Biology suggests it and statistics confirm it.

[Bobbyhill1]

thats funny, considering a lot of males dont even fit the male brain model and females dont fit the female version of a brain either. How exactly will you even come up with such a conclusion? Gender studies are mainly based on sociology. Sociology isn't a real science. There are no ways to generate formal theory without a multitude of exceptions; greatly skewing the legitimacy of any study or argument based on sociology. Not only that but the definition of a social dysfunction is entirely subjective from person to person. It's impossible to perform a social experiment and expect it to be entirely empirical. The idea of gender as a social construct is heavily flawed. 

[AllThatSweetJazz]

@Bobbyhill1 Did you post in the wrong question or something? I'm not sure exactly what you're taking issue with here?

Never said their was *only* completely male and completely female brains. Most aren't in either extreme, it's not a binary. That doesn't invalidate anything I said.

I feel that sociology is pretty silly often times. You can't get a clear picture of the world from it because the things it deals with a messy a highly interconnected. But just because it's messy and vague doesn't mean it can't be useful. The alternative is to throw our hands up and say we can't know anything at all. That said most of sociology at present seems retarded, mostly because of methodological errors -- often as a consequence of ideological bias.

And after all this undermining of the biological basis and scientific reliability you're saying the idea of gender as a social construct is flawed? Well duh, did I say it was?

[Bobbyhill1]

you said biology suggests it, therefor my reply seemed warranted. Biology is an actual science, unlike sociology

[Anonymous]

You have to factor in "who ended it"? The one that ended it typically moves on faster as they used the tail end of the relationship to figure out if it was over or not. The one that is dumped is left not understanding why it is over and tries to patch things up. Often they will want "closure" as an excuse to open a dialog that they hope will lead to getting their foot in the door again.

So, if women tend to do most of the breaking up as men drag things out, I guess by nature women will be the ones automatically "ready" to move on faster. But this is not always the case.

[Opinion Owner]

PS- Both sexes also have the tendency to line up possible replacements when they know the end is near. If one side lines up possible replacements, they not only recognized the end is near, but the preparations made as they approached the end also give the appearance of moving on faster. The reality is, they simply began the process earlier than the other side.

[RachelBrigs]

I see just as many guys with girls waiting for the rebound as girls do.. so your theory isn't really accurate. And even if you do have someone who wants to date you right after your break up it doesn't mean you want them, and it doesn't even mean that youve moved on if you do date them.

It seems like guys get "over" it immediately most of the time but after weeks, months, sometimes even more they start to want the girl back, whereas it takes girls longer to get over someone but once they do, they're done for real.

[ettabrown33e]

I think its equal. Men will definitely have sex within days of a breakup if they can but they suppress their emotions but if they really loved u it cud be years for them to truly be over it. Women outwardly mourn the relationship and may be texting several guys to help her cope but i also think once a guy shows that he's chasing her for more than sex and is making her laugh away her pain she becomes open to love again. Whereas a guy mourning but hiding it will not even be that open to even seeing love where it might be.

[Jamesol1]

''he's chasing her for more than sex and is making her laugh away her pain she becomes open to love again'
What bullshit lol. Keep telling yourself that. Men get over it the same way women do.

[Jxpxtxr]

I feel like this is just so accurate lmao:

en.bcdn.biz/.../...9a76-4f83-a46b-6d61185c7abc.jpg

I witness it a lot in my male and female friends, like right after the break up she will stalk him on social media and keep wondering if he already got someone else and he'll just be like "f*ck my ex" and then after a certain period of time the roles reverse and he'll start stalking her social media to find out whether she already found someone else and she'll be like "f*ck my ex" lol

[OlderAndWiser]

Why does it matter? If I break up, all I care about is how I move forward. It doesn't matter if most guys move forward quicker, or most girls move forward quicker, or they all move like frozen molasses.

[impossiblestrumpet]

I read about a study on this a while back and though I wish I could find the source to quote it directly, the gist was that while women experience more intense feelings directly after the breakup, they usually don't feel very strongly about it at all in a matter of months. Guys, on the other hand, don't feel such a loss at first but their stage of missing her overall tends to last longer.

[Fearless_banana]

I want to read that study.

[Alexious]

@Fearless_banana This sounds right

[Fearless_banana]

@Alexious It does, I just sort of want to confirm it.

[Bobbyhill1]

@Fearless_banana the studly is bullshit like most other psychology studies that deal with genders. I can easily find 10 women and 10 men, state the difference between this these two groups of people and state something about an entire gender and people will flock towards it. most males dont even fit the supposed male brain and most females dont fit the supposed female brain. Why? because the majority are in between one and another. So some men may have heartbreak the day after a breakup, some women may never feel a heartbreak until a few months later.

[FatherJack]

Depends on the personality more than the gender , I'm very detached by nature , so have just accepted it & moved on. Women have 3 key advantages over men

1 ) Close female friends , women form ultra close bonds with each other , that men never do , well developed support networks.

2 ) A woman can easily find another man , whereas most men find it quite difficult to meet another woman , women are in demand , whereas men are not.

3 ) On average a much lower sex drive than a man , many women actually prefer being celibate , they've told me that themselves.

[BuchitaBuchys]

Having men wanting to fuck me is not the same as having men wanting to love me for me.

I have gone over a year after breakups not kissing, touching, dating etc. Did my exes date? Yes, they had a new girlfriend within a month while I still was eating ice cream and crying.

[FingerDancer]

Which gender moves on faster all depends upon who got holding the bag. A final break in a relationship is rarely planned. Some are, but for the majority, most are not. So the one who was least expecting the break will take the longer to recover. That is human emotion and not gender specific.

[Genkirocket192]

Girls cling on to emotions I think men think more logically like moving on and reuniting with friends again and just going back to their usual routine but girls tend to see things in everything like their car suddenly always on roads or songs etc I think we read into things more and guys sorta just stop all emotions and act as if it didn't happen lol

[Glitz_Glamour]

It depends on the person

After a break up I could never get into another relationship.. not for a long time. If I did , it would be unfair to him and unfair to me. I'd just constantly wish the knew guy was my ex. It would just prolong my hurt. I'd need time to heal and move on.

[10dsw]

I would disagree. Before 28 I would say it's about equal, and perhaps even women move on faster. After 28 I would say it's men as men become extremely desirable after 28-29 and also tend to lose all those emotions associated with dating in the early 20s whereas a lot of women start to become serious about settling down.

[Bobbyhill1]

psychology studies that deal with genders are never accurate. I can easily find 10 women and 10 men, state the difference between these two groups of people and make a claim about an entire gender and people will flock towards it. most males dont even fit the supposed male brain and most females dont fit the supposed female brain. Why? because the majority are in between... So some men may have heartbreak the day after a breakup, some women may never feel a heartbreak until a few months later.

[Anonymous]

Whoever does the breaking up, usually. They thought it all through in their head already before making a move, so have s head start.

My ex ended up married to the girl he cheated on me with and I am single three years later, if you need an anecdotal example.

[Anonymous]

Women. There have been studies done on this...

www.medicaldaily.com/getting-over-breakup-may-be-harder-women-they-still-recover-faster-men-346816

[somebodysaycheese]

i think some women on the surface move on early on but internally they may have not moved on. doesn't mean she still has feelings for you but she is wondering what went wrong and did she do something wrong.

[WillowTree]

Just because a woman jumps into a relationship with another guy right after doesn't mean she's happy or content with him. It's just to make her ex jealous as fuck.

I think guys do. One or two rebound chicks later and they're mostly back to normal.

[legs_n_sheets]

Depends on who initiated the breakup. I don't think it's a gender thing.

Women have much better support systems, though.

[That0neGuy]

I think that it isn't so much a woman/man thing as a brake up-er/ brake up-ee. And the one that does the braking up is the one that usually recovers faster

[Barrabus_the_Free]

Women. They don't end one relationshit until they've got the next guy already lined up, and usually start things with the new guy before they end with the current one.

[Afrochick]

lol no dude come on

[houstongirl26]

Women take the breakup really hard at first while men aren't really affected. After a certain amount of time the woman will move on and the man senses it and comes crawling back

[Anonymous]

Women usually need time to recover after a break up. They don't just hop to the next guy in line.

This is a good example of how, not only are you wrong, but you don't know enough about women.

[Cmasterson]

I think guys physically do as women mentally do, because I feel women process it and accept it *sometimes. As men feel as if mingling and finding other females will heal them.

[raspberry0416]

Correction: there's a guy waiting in line to have casual sex with her