Would you rather be loved more, or be the one who loves more?

[7Phoenix7]

So.. I feel like people always say love should be 50/50, (and I agree…) but I don’t think it always works out that perfectly lol.

Sometimes one person is just a little more attached, expressive, or invested than the other.

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So if you had to choose, would you rather be the one who loves more, or the one who is loved more?

❤️ I’d rather be loved more

🩷I’d rather love more

⚖️ It HAS to be equal!

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode love stuff so you don’t go crazy overthinking it 😏

I’d rather have it *slightly* balanced in my favor: be loved just a bit more. Being the one who loves way more can feel like emotional begging, walking on eggshells, and chasing breadcrumbs.

But only being adored without truly loving back feels hollow, almost like unintentional lovebombing.

Best case: both people are obsessed… just not in a red flag way 😌

[HawkPerception]

Loved more. It's not a great feeling giving and not receiving. Reciprocation is key for any relationship. I love to give, but I'd also want them to be a giver. I guess I can kinda relate this to sex. Let's say I go down on a girl for an hour because I like it. While it's true I like knowing I'm making my partner feel really good for a long period of time, I'd want them to feel the same and also want to give me that same kind of pleasure, ya know?

If I had to choose between always being the giver (which I generally seem to be in my relationships) and being given to, I think I'd prefer being given to. But then I'd feel kinda crappy in another way in that I'm not a great partner. So obviously the best dynamic is a good balance and as close to equal as possible.

[ohsheeT]

It's never 50/50 its more like 100/100 because sometimes if someone can't give you there 50 you have to give it to yourself

So for me i would rather give love because I know i will be ok and know sometimes people. can't give you the love you would like to receive from them

[ChiTown33]

Well i'd like to say "equal" but nothing in relationship is ever really equal. But ideally both partners give what they can. Not 50/50, it's 100/100.

I have no problem giving 100% to the person i know is in the foxhole with me. What's hard is getting to the point where you can believe they're that person. So many people in life want TRUST, well trust is EARNED, not given.

I do think when you truly love someone loving them is just a decision you make. Because regardless of how long you're with someone, be it 5 days or 50 years, you'll always be two different people. And loving someone while disliking them is fairly normal.🤣 Because while there are things about them that exasperate you at times. There is still no one you'd rather face the world with. You still think the sun shines out their ass. And you know and trust that person will be there to help pick you up in your lowest moment.

Unfortunately that level of intimacy and trust is still rare in this world.

[FreyaRed]

I don't think love can be estimated exactly enough, because love is volatile. It comes sometimes, it disappears sometimes for a while until a trigger activates it again, love isn't a constant like speed of light that can be described with 'c =1'

Of course being love feels good but what for can you buy with something that is like love. In one moment a person wants to sacrifice their life for you, 2 hours later you're just a competitor like everyone else.
But maybe I'm wrong. it's just the love I experienced in my life.

[ElenaLena]

I’d rather be the one who loves more…I feel women are naturally nurturing, and I genuinely enjoy caring for the person I love. I want to give them comfort, affection, loyalty, and support.. to love them like a best friend, and a partner all at once. For me, loving deeply isn’t aburden; it’s something that makes me happy…

[OneViewpoint]

As you indicated, knowing who loves who more is a blurred line on a fog covered field. I don't worry much about that. As long as I'm getting the respect I require and feel loved, I'm good. It's not a contest. It's about the effort. The moment she starts taking me for granted, she gets a wakeup call. The second time she's gone. No exceptions. And I wish her the best of luck trying to manipulate me. I'll choose my self respect first every time.

[Nikki1989]

I prefer to be the one that loves more. Being the one who loves more means you left nothing on the table. If the relationship ends, you carry the peace of knowing you gave your absolute best.

[thegreenyogi]

Love more because it comes naturally to me to give without necessarily expecting anything in return. Many say it's wrong because you always give more than you are given but for that one person it's worth it.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

... Unless there's a blatant disproportion, I don't see how to quantify something as personal as feelings. And when one of us tries to quantify it anyway it's probably not a good sign right? 😂

[Staximus]

I think if one person loves the other more to the point that’s it’s noticeable, the relationship is fucked up for the more loving person. They will feel like they aren’t good enough for the less loving person

[loveyouoak]

I'd rather to be loved, but if the man I love doesn't love me back, it doesn't matter—as long as he lets me love him.

[TonyMetal___1986]

Depends sometimes a woman might love more and sometimes a man, i prefer equal...
Where's your naughty elephant miss phoenix 🐘 🤣🤣

[dragoblack]

One sided love is pointless and honestly leads to an unstable relationship in the long run, as one side feels like there's less love, affection, which also leads to feeling used.

[diamond84]

Be loved because I feel need more love and affection from Prather than he wants

[MasterKS]

@diamond84 make sense.

[Paige2006]

It has to be equal

[Sunshinelips]

Loved more.

[Faith777]

Be loved

[RareBreedOfMan]

It has to be equal

[Enginus]

loved more