Do ya care about if your in laws like you or not?

[Anonymous]

Yes

Nope

[Finchie40]

In most cases yes , because unfortunately parents’ can have a strict control over their children and if I am dating a girl that’s controlled by her parents’ then the chances of her and I lasting the long haul could be a slim chance if her parents’ didn’t like me , why I prefer dating a girl that’s isn’t controlled by her parents’ that allow her to make her own decisions and choices in life , without trying to determine her life for her. I dated girls’ that were controlled by their parents’ and it was sad to witness that her parents’ had that much control over her. It’s like she was there puppet and that she had to do whatever her parents’ told her to do. Lucky for me I wasn’t raised that way by my parents’ my parents supported me and gave me advice and let me make my own choices and decisions in life and I didn’t same thing for my kids’ as well and my kids’ are happy as can be because I didn’t try to control them in any way

[nastyb]

From my experience, if a girl's parents and family does not like you, it likely means they're right about you. Often times the girls you date are blinded by love to see you for who you truly are. So if you have a pattern of where most of these girl's families just don't like you, they see a problem in you.

[nastyb]

I've seen a lot of relationships end in violence or very badly because the girl / guy ignored their family's opinion.

[Finchie40]

I agree with that as well , lucky for me I never really met a girls’ parents’ that didn’t like me , especially once they got to know me. But I have met parents’ that were skeptical of me in the beginning, until they got to know me , especially when I was younger and I had long hair in my headbanger days 😂 they assumed I was a misfit when really I wasn’t , thinking why is our perfect daughter liking this misfit 😂 which goes to show girls like bad boys even though I wasn’t really a bad boy 😂 Why people should never judge a book by its cover , why assumptions are stupid to do . Even some of the girls’ I dated when I had long hair assumed I was this misfit bad guy that said I looked intimidating to them in the beginning , until they got to know me and told me they didn’t realize I had a good heart while they were making out with me , I would just laugh and be a little shocked that she assumed that about me , just based off of my long hair and appearance. I just loved music and I enjoyed playing bass , and I played n some local bands , mainly rock and metal bands , when I was younger , Now that I am older and cut my hair I don’t get judged as much. Plus I am not really a judgmental person , I am cool with anyone that is cool with me

[HawkPerception]

I'm not married or anything, but I do think I'm a bit of a people pleaser and would feel better knowing they do like me. But if we have conflicting personalities and don't get along, I'm not gonna dwell on it much. As long as my partner loves me, that's enough.

[browsingthroughthe]

I've heard that a few times lately. Is that a phrase or term common in America or North America? Nowadays?

[HawkPerception]

It is a common term in Canada and the US.

[Anonymous]

From my experience, most of the time when the in laws don't like you... it means there is something wrong with you. A major flaw they cannot overlook. Often times, people in love are so blinded by love that they fail to see your flaws. Take it seriously when your friends / family say they don't like your significant other

[7Phoenix7]

I do actually.. I don’t need them to absolutely love me or anything lol, but I’d at least want us to genuinely like and respect each other. If I’m building a life with someone, their family is probably gonna be around too, so constantly feeling disliked or uncomfortable with them would definitely bother me.

[OlderAndWiser]

In general, you should care, because your partner’s life is much easier if you have a good relationship with them.


In my case, my father in law is 96 years old, lives in China, doesn’t speak English, and doesn’t know his daughter divorced her first husband 15 years ago.

[DishLady]

You have to (to some extent) bc the goal is to build a family…. Plus how can you love the son without appreciating the source? Hmm.

[AviatorTom]

It's good if in-laws like you, but it's not a necessity. It's much more important that your spouse likes you. 😉

[Laulenke]

Most of my in laws like me and I like most of my in laws but one
My wife’s youngest sister thinks the world rotates around her and I said the one word that she absolutely hates (NO) and she hasn’t said one word to me since 2013 because of thst word and I’m so heartbroken NOT lmao

[aceleon]

yes and no. i like being liked, don't care if i am not liked.

this is pretty much my life motto too, if it makes me happy it is important, if it doesn't make me happy forget about it doesn't worth bothering with.

[bobalife]

Single, but if married.. ideally it would be lovely, but we can’t control who likes or dislikes us. As long as my partner is by my side and protects us is enough❤️

[Rob1892]

When you marry the S/O you’re also marrying the family seeing how they will be in your life for the whole marriage. Also makes holidays and family events a lot nicer. The don’t have to adore you but I think getting along is important.
Now if you have a family that doesn’t like anyone then that may be a different story lol.

[Anonymous]

I'm single but I would want my in laws to like me. It would make my relationship or marriage easier.

However, I'm pretty sure that if I ever have a boyfriend or husband my in laws won't like me...

[Twalli]

I mean, I'm marrying into her family. If they don't like me, then her relationship with her family won't be good. My sister was dating guys who weren't good for her and my mom was almost ready to write her out of the will.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

As much as I care, they're not who I'm in a relationship with. And my patience has limits.

[NathanDavis]

I would, yes... but at the end of the day, no... not really

[LiamJHayden]

Not married and no intention of getting married, but yes, it can matter if her family likes me. I've had a relationship torpedoed by the family because I was "too young" for her.

[Agape93]

Not even a bit. They usually do, but its hardly needed.

[gasman70]

yes, because a relationship is hard enough on its own without having to deal with in laws that hate you on top of it.

[Kingofkings1992]

Frankly, I don't really care about anyone liking me. A lot of people do for some reason. But I'm not gonna put in extra effort towards someone liking me. Either they do naturally or they don't. Either way is fine with me

[FunkyMonkee]

I love my wife and she loves me! That's all that matters!!

[jamesgoldman]

Yes, managed that with both girlfriends, still friendly with my second one's dad

[robocop666]

On the show statute of limitations where people confess to committing crimes that the statute is up. One guy said he broke into one of their houses as they hated him.

[Thecuriousmind1]

If I was married sure. I would like to have a good relationship

[Erica8]

It’ll be nice if my partner's family would at least get to know me before they judge me.

[RepleteAura]

Yes to an extent, but I also can't do all of the work in the relationship so there it is lol

[queenofcardio]

I'd want them to, if I ever have in laws.

[molonski2]

If they are decent people for sure.

[browsingthroughthe]

Duh 😋 it sure matters to me.

[Drumlin2001]

They're both dead so hasn't been an issue.

[exitseven]

I had a good relationship with my in laws.

[canamlusciouslad73]

Lifelong bachelor.

[Nikki1989]

Nope

[loveyouoak]

Yes, I do.

[Anonymous]

Nope