If you could relive your first relationship, what would you change now?

[Veronika_p]

Most first relationship are weird experience because you’re basically learning everything as you go. You don’t always know how to communicate, when to speak up, when to give someone space, or even what a healthy relationship is supposed to feel like. ❤️

Sometimes I wonder what would happen if we could go back with the understanding we have now. Would we notice the little things we completely missed? Would we handle certain arguments differently? Would we appreciate the person more instead of taking certain moments for granted? 🥺

Maybe some of us were too young. Maybe we were scared to say what we really felt. Maybe pride got in the way. Maybe we expected the other person to just know what we needed.

And then there are probably people who would go back and realize, “Nope… I still would’ve left.” 😂💔 Some relationships simply weren't meant to survive, even if there was love.

Personally, I think the hardest part is knowing that you can become a much better partner because of lessons you learned from someone you couldn't keep. That's a strange kind of sadness. 😔❤️

So I'm curious...

If you could relive your first relationship knowing everything you know today, would you try to make it work differently, or would you still let it end the way it did? And is there something you wish you had understood back then? 💭💕

[ohsheeT]

Good question I think everything turned out the way it was supposed to

I mean sometimes I had to go from for 2 weeks and I didn't know what to do LOL I moved out when I was 16 and a half moved in with two of my friends because their mom went to San Diego to open up a business they were left in the house so they can finish school and we had keg parties

Always had the opportunities to pick up on girls but I wouldn't do it because I didn't know what lovely even was

And then the one time that I do do it because I really like this girl but we are laying in my bed and she started crying and she told me what happened to her the week before at another party and I had to get up and I had to go out of my room and go find this guy and I embarrassed him in front of everybody and I beat him up because he took advantage of this girl and then after that I didn't know what to do with her I mean we remain friends but I don't know life was crazy back then

And I think the crazy part was Not having any girlfriend well even 17 and 18 But I lost my virginity at 16 and a half too And that was crazy but the best part is I got to have it four times with the same girl first three times totally sucked

I thought for sure I was going to go to hell because I wasn't married and then the sex sucked totally sucked she said no it was great I said no there's more to it on the fourth time I change everything up because I there was Miss something missing I knew it and this time I saw what I was looking for fireworks and then she understood what I was telling her when I said it was no good she said oh my God that was good but I learned something in that moment that is been with me from that day to this day and I've done nothing but make it better better and that's all I cared about was back then was understanding that because there was something did everybody was missing about sex sex was a sin sex was this sex was that no there's much more to it

And I had to figure it out I didn't have too many girlfriends in high school and everything I had girls that I went out with

But I didn't have a girlfriend because I didn't want to be like other guys and have a girlfriend for a couple days a week or whatever they get what they wanted and then they break the girl's heart I did not want to do that I've been that way all my life I mean I've had my fair share good moments Good Times but I had to be honest and say look I really do like you but I don't want to hurt you by breaking your heart or you break my heart so I had good friends and I'm that way to this day believe me I want a girlfriend now LOL but I don't apply myself yet because of whatever reasons but yeah you're right if we could turn back time I don't want to everything happened whether it was good or bad it happened and it's made me who I am today so I have to look at it and say I have to say good job Steve I raised a boy a son
And I've raised him so he was better than me and that's all I really care about if I was going to change anything and I wouldn't it would have to have something to do with me or him or maybe a dog that I had the once

no I saved two fireman's lives I wouldn't change that I can't think of anything I've been in trouble and I wouldn't change that even it happened for a reason and when it all died out it was for the best reason

I mean I would love to just sit here and dream about it and say I wonder what or how it would be but that's the past so now

I'm sitting here and I'm thinking good question I wonder what I wonder what it would be wonder how oh my gosh LOL I could say so many things but I'm not going to

[Laws-Of-Existence]

I don't know. I surely try to keep in mind how not to copy my parents. But philosophically: what the hell even is "communicate", just don't be a childish walking toxin and live together. Even without toxicity there will be incompatibility detected after a few dates and that's not something to "walk away" from as if there is a villain.ㅤ

[sage2021]

I was 16 in high school and he was 19 in college getting his degree in psychology.

He smoked marijuana constantly during our entire 3 years together.

He was constantly argumentative.

But when he started getting physically abusive that's when I finally broke up with him in 1974.


I spoke to him on the phone in 1992 and he had become a millionaire because the price of his house increased so much.

He was an executive for a computer company.

He was married for 14 years and no kids.

Maybe if I had met him later on in my life instead of when I was 16 things might have worked out.🤷🏼‍♀️

[sage2021]

Thank you for the MHO 🙂💕

[7Phoenix7]

I honestly wouldn’t go back and try to make it work. I think I’d still let it end… I just would’ve understood myself a lot better along the way. I would’ve spoken up sooner, set stronger boundaries, and stopped thinking that loving someone meant I had to keep accepting things that were hurting me.

I was a lot younger and didn’t always know what a healthy relationship was supposed to look or feel like. Looking back, I think the biggest thing I’d change is how long I ignored my own feelings trying to keep everything together.

So yeah… I’d still let it end. I’d just choose myself a little sooner. A lot sooner actually lol

[7Phoenix7]

Thanks

[Iron_Man]

Bo I won’t change because then she’ll dominate me and I’ll be known as an ass kisser. Women know your weakness and they come back and they use it against you every single time and they can wrap you around their finger. If you’re not careful this has happened to me before twice. And you have to take a stand. You can’t put up with it any longer

[msc545]

My first relationship was with somebody who was a rather extraordinary individual and I should have made more of an effort to preserve it, but I was young and very impetuous and frankly very promiscuous and there was no saving this at that time given who and what I was.

[Taranis_Thunor]

Well does this include when I was catfished as a kid? I'd track down and leave a broken body afterwards.

Then my 2nd online relationship was with a crazy bitch who I didn't even like, because I thought I would at first but then she suddenly changed into a psycho.

So I don't even want to consider myself even ever had a relationship.

[Nik1hil]

I don't know..

I have never been in a Romantic committed Relationship

[Veronika_p]

Wow..

[Nik1hil]

What is With Wow..

I have never been in relationship or been intimate... It's just me Stating a Fact.. not something that is WOW

[Xdressertiff]

My 1st relationship was with a girl i adored. The way she dressed and wore heavy makeup etc. I would have changed my attitude towards her as I was more interested on what she was wearing

[lilBigPotato]

Just skip it. Nothing that can be saved from that one.

[Nikki1989]

I wouldn't have dated him at all. I trusted him; that was my first mistake.

[NathanDavis]

NO THING

the best of it was its genuineness... for good, and bad

[Bklynbadboy12]

I wouldn't change anything my first relationship was great

[Shiprex]

I would change nit being so selfish and immature

[TonyMetal___1986]

It was an LDR, i'd make it work...

[Guyneedsfeedback]

Would not have dated her

[queenofcardio]

I would have chosen someone else

[dudeinohio]

Dump her earlier than i did.