If you had the chance, would you go back and retry your first relationship?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I say yes because my first relationship ended on good terms , we were young and it was a mutual decision to part ways , so if her and I ever reconnected and wanted to date again I would because her and I never had any harsh feelings between each other , sadly she is married with kids now , I did talk to her after a long time and reconnected. , and I can tell she still has feelings for me , but I was happy for her having a family so I told her it’s best just to remain friends and focus on her family, she cried and said her and I should be together but she is happy with her husband , and I was happy for her , even though I still have feelings for her as well , but I didn’t want to be a homewrecker , so I left her alone and moved on. But if things were different she would be in my arms for sure

Drew-1990 · Accepted Answer

It wasn't really a relationship but the first girl I really loved, only girl in fact. All we were, were friends but I did love her. Maybe I would hang with her again but I would never try a relationship with her again. She did something's I have forgiven at this point but lost any trust for a relationship. I heard years after losing contact that she thought of trying to reconnect for possible relationship and I was "no" I'm glad she didn't because I wouldn't have wanted to hurt her feelings by turning her down.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

For kicks and giggles, I can see myself giving him ANOTHER try. I put emphasis on ANOTHER because I gave him a million chances over the course of 9 years. He was my first and only and I did not want to move on although all he did was cheat.

Fast forward- I'm with someone else and am happy. However, sometimes I feel like if this doesn't work out- I might be dumb enough to see if the 1 year of me being done with my EX was enough for him to get his act togetrhr. Then again- why would I start back over with someone who didn't care for me the entire 9 years... This post is really for people to see how easy it is to waste your life for someone and then still question if it good to let go just to go back. Don't!!!

AviatorTom · Answer

I wouldn't want to go back and change my timeline, but if I had known then what I know now, I might have done things differently. As we all know, hindsight is 20-10.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Experience has taught me that the past should be left in the past. Experience is a horribly cruel but efficient teacher.

Avicenna · Answer

LOL, no. She was a good girlfriend for a 15-year-old guy (which is what I was at the time), but obviously that was long time ago. I'm friends with a girlfriend I had almost 30 years ago, but I wouldn't try to get back together with her.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Nope. I’ve heard 2nd love is far better than the 1st one. Looking forward to the 2nd love.  1st love is not supposed to be the last love.

smne35 · Answer

I would have to go back in the same frame of mind with the same young eyes and not mature eyes that I have now because she would look totally different and I might just go. Yikes! Was looking at your life. Do a kid's eyes compared to a grown up eyes is two different things. You go back and look at your life when you was a kid through your grown-up eyes everything will be different. So for the sake of argument no I'm good unless you give me the kids eyes to see her through, I'm straight

aceleon · Answer

Well i never had a relationship i Just had sex, if you talk about my first fb which was like my girlfriend to be honest, then sure, why not i basically had half of my body count thank to her and knowing her our relationship would be full of womans.

Somoneelse · Answer

No. In the beginning it looked like we were compatible. But soon enough we both found out we weren't compatible at all. We both had our struggles and a lot to learn before we could love eachother. We had a nice time. but we both have gone our separate ways and it should stay that way.

RebelinSteel · Answer

The girl in my first relationship is married with kids, she married another guy in our class. Lovely girl but was your typical teen relationship.

Quogha · Answer

Yes, I was very timid and shy when I was younger. My first few relationships were with girls I had huge crushes on. But I never got to show my true self, and they ended fast because I was unable to progress the relationships.

Anonymous · Answer

Actually I have we first met in elementary and then she left the school without telling me she told the baseball kid who was crushing for her and he never told me. Years later during high school cooking during the laundry never ending homework she knocks on my door one day. the best ball pounding sex so far.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

Nope I'd rather stay in the moment, and be able to look back and remember.

HawkPerception · Answer

Not a chance. I see all the things I don't want in a partner in her. It's the reason why we didn't work. I've been through that part of my life already. Don't need to go through it again.

ManOnFire · Answer

I wouldn't retry it, because she was not the right person to be with anyway. Although if I didn't have that experience I wouldn't have learned anything.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Nope. If anything I'd do the opposite and skip out on it entirely. I was younger and very dumb. Ignored everything in my head and just followed what little was good.

JacobJordan · Answer

I succeeded my first relationship. I married her and we have 3 kids now I don't need to redo

bolverk · Answer

No, she was completely untrustworthy, she decided to cheat - once a cheater, always a cheater.

Juxtapose · Answer

You mean that bitch that didn't want to swim with me because I'm autistic and she didn't want to be seen with me? Naaaaah haha I wish I had seen her true colors sooner and dipped.

tremendousfern · Answer

Of course not, previous relationships ended for a reason. No point in living in the past like that.

LiamJHayden · Answer

No. I was 14 and she was 18. I thought it was important, but to her I was just someone to have while she spent the summer in California before returning home to Spain. I desire and deserve far more than that.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

No :) I don't think I would like to change anything in my previous relationships.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

For sure my first real relationship was with my wife and I miss her very much.

BCA6010 · Answer

No. She wasn't really good for me in retrospect.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, I was too afraid to tell her how I felt about her.

Biya123 · Answer

Never. There is reason it is past, we shouldnot repeat past.

CozyCoffin · Answer

Hmm. Does a mere word that would have started one count? I'd love to have said yes, instead of no. It has haunted me for ten years.

Slapmynuts · Answer

Good question! I believe I would! I think your first is always most memorable, lots of feelings/emotions, and a longing that somehow never goes away!😁

Jupiter1 · Answer

I adore the woman I married. My exes don’t come close by comparison. I also know my first girlfriend often told mutual friends that she wished I was the one she married.

Maneuquiverharder · Answer

No I would not she red hair and green eyes and that has the curse of my love life ain't nothing like red head to get you going bring you down and break your heart but dang they are fun

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I'd rather spend a month being tried as a terrorist.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Emmm: no. Because it would erase a few other relationships that followed later.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No, I'd avoid it entirely since I know it wouldn't work out.

sheikalana · Answer

Nah. What's in the past is the the past we move forward.

laly520 · Answer

no never some things gotta stay in past

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

No whatever is in the past is not meant for me. If it was meant for me we would’ve been together still.

jamesgoldman · Answer

It was the best of times so sure, only this time I'll propose

douride2 · Answer

Not a chance my first relationship ended very badly for me.

SoJust · Answer

Nope I dont relationship, if realitionship is finish , she dont be couldnt

noohair · Answer

NEVER, I don't live in the past. I can't grow while living in the past

msc545 · Answer

Yes, I would. She was brilliant, fascinating, and beautiful. Also crazy unfortunately.

Mediterraneansoul · Answer

Everything we go through is set to help us grow not. Once a lesson is learnt, no need to repeat it

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

No I wouldn't cause knowing what I know now she wasn't the right person for me.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, I probably would. We got along really well. It was a great first love.

Linda7451 · Answer

No, my first relationship was with a man. I didn't know I was a lesbian then.

riverrat3 · Answer

I tried to learn from what happened, but i would not want a redo

rachel776 · Answer

no doesn't matter to me

AaronKrieger · Answer

Maybe, but I would be hesitant.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Not in a million years.

LostandFound__x · Answer

No..

Zoi99 · Answer

No not going through that again she was toxic.

Account · Answer

Absolutely not.

jjj101010 · Answer

Yeah definitely, she was super hot!

darkforcebooty · Answer

no water under the bridge

vicphilips · Answer

Damn!!! You can't be 16 yo 🫨

abc3643 · Answer

No, not at all.

Anonymous · Answer

Omg NO.. She was a Narcissistt bitch

hafinjun · Answer

Yes absolutely

12karen · Answer

Yes and no

Usersarepoo · Answer

Fuck to no.

serious_miss419 · Answer

Absolutly

JayBones · Answer

Nope.

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