It would depend on whether we broke up because the relationship wasn't working, or we broke up for reasons unrelated to the quality of the relationship (e. g., I was in a good relationship in 2008 but she moved 240 miles away and we didn't want to try maintaining a long distance relationship.
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No. I do think about it often though, I wonder how they’re doing and if they have matured, but I don’t think my personality now would be compatible with theirs now. We all seemed to have changed a lot.
Not without a very serious, heartfelt apology, and a true effort to want to get back with me.
I have four exes. Personally, I wouldn’t. That’s because in those situations, the reasons we broke up haven’t changed, even though it’s been almost 10 years since it’s the last ex.
Two of them cheated on me, so I’d never be able to trust them again. One of them only dated me to get her dad’s attention, and she only liked the idea of me and didn’t really care about me as a person. The last one was nice, but she was a tad controlling. For example, I wasn’t allowed to masturbate unless she watched me 😳 plus, she had a family that was threatening to disown her if she kept dating me.
Yea, I’m sure they’ve all changed in the last decade. But first of them is married, though her and husband are at the point of divorce but have agreed to stay roommates at this point neither is financially stable enough to stand on their own. The second one had two kids with her fiancé and then called off their engagement and ended things, so now she’s hustling taking care of the little ones. The third is happily engaged, and the fourth is (hopefully) happily married…to someone the family accepts.
I was 19 when I broke up with my last girlfriend, and I decided that I’m better off just doing me. If the right person comes along, awesome! If not, that’s cool too. But I won’t be going back to anyone 🙅♂️🤣No. Because both my exes have traits that I know will never go away. One happens to be a serial dater, with just a bad personality and with a ton of emotional baggage. The other has chronic depression, has a habit, is extremely self-centered and has racist family. I don't need those kind of toxicities in my life. Especially since I can get with a woman (like I am now) who doesn't bring me those kind dramas.
So instead of me having to worry that if they carry certain bad traits (which i know for some to be 100% guarantee), I can divert that energy in finding better women. So why should I be looking for old cracks in a pot if I can find me a pot with no cracks at all?No, not my ex's. My first was a very cruel, selfish person, and not to mention a compulsive liar.
My second was jealous and controlling. Constant accusations and on one occasion he tried to strangle me when he got in to one of his fits of rage.
My third was just like a big child, immature with a lot of growing up to do.
My current relationship is by far the healthiest I've been in. If we did part ways (amicably), he would be the person I'd consider getting back with in the future.
As for the others, they're all out of my life for a reason... and good riddance!No, my ex was very manipulative (always blamed me for his mistakes -- for example: yes I have guy friends and continously blamed me for cheating on him with them -- which I never did.) He cheated on me and blamed me and has said "its not that bad as you did." and I simply told him I never cheated though and he just made that lie up. He wanted to redo the relationship and I agreed and things were perfect for the first month and then it all went down hill (he ghosted me), never reached out--I always needed to do that and when I did he never seemed to care about me, cared about himself. It was always what he wanted and lied to me too. I have tried it twice but I ain't never gonna date him again.
I did, and fool me once, a? The first time we broke up, there was nothing traumatic about it. We took some time off, and then months later, we were at a party together and the spark was still there, so we did get back together, but the same issues that caused up to break up the first time, were still there, so we ended it for good. I would never tell anyone you should never, because every couple/relationship is different and sometimes time/maturity/growth can happen in between break-ups that do lead to healthy long lasting ones despite the initial break-up, but it just depends on circumstances.
Nope. Well, maybe my first girlfriend, though. She was also my first interracial relationship with a white female (I’m a Mexican guy by the way). Which opened up my eyes to dating other girls from other ethnicities. We met in high school, and we had so much in common. She taught me so much on how to be a better person, and a better partner. I couldn’t ask for a better first girlfriend. She was also the cutest girl I’ve dated too over the years. We stopped talking to each other because we got into an argument that we found out we were both unfaithful, unfortunately. I think it was just lack of communication and the fact we dated long distance. Haven’t seen her since we broke up, and don’t know how she’s doing nowadays. But I wish her the best, and would want to see her happy even if she has a new man. So I think if we met each other again, and we were both single. Also, if she matured as well, I would date her again with no hesitation.
When you truly loved your ex and had that connection and then see them again you may feel tempted to go back into that relationship again, but because of how the relationship ended and we will try to move on, speaking from experience, when I saw my high school ex my heart leap and almost froze and moved on because I don’t want to go back into a relationship with her years after school especially when she had her son, but maybe if she didn’t get a child after we broke up I might have fallen back to her
If you used to date someone and break up, you call them an (ex) and then go back dating them! You are using the term (ex) all wrong.
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None. The last two that I would have considered both recently got pregnant. One has a child actually as of early last year and the other is pregnant like three months along. I'm pretty hard line about not taking care of another man's child
Happy for both of them. Goes well man, that's why I dated them obviously long-term. But yeah having a kid with another guy is the last straw for me.There are girls I left (broke up with) when I was young who I would have gone back to.
I liked all my former girlfriends. But when I was young, I always moved on eventually and found new ones. I never cheated, though. It's just that, back then, I didn't want to settle down or start a family.
On the other hand, if she cheated or left me for another guy, I doubt if I would take her back.Most likely not.
If we break up, we break up for a reason.
Unless that "reason" is cleared, I guess we are set for a 2nd breakup.
I will not fall back into a relationship purely based on emotional dependency when there is a valid reason for parting ways.Well, let's see. The first one nearly raped me the last time I saw her. Had she not stopped herself, I might've got back with her. The second one I gave a shot to but then, she decided she didn't want me back.. The third, I wouldn't waste my time on her! What we had was great but, I'm not interested in re-hashing with someone that cheated on me for the sake of money!!
Zero chance in hell. He was an emotionally abusive jerk whom I could never be good enough for and blamed everything bad in his life on me (and was often sexist towards me).
I don't regret the relationship because if it wasn't for it I wouldn't have my daughter. He is a pretty great father too (he's just an awful husband). However, I've been so much happier since I got divorced. Moreover, I'm now with a guy who is above and beyond better then he ever was even close to.One of my exes that I dated for 3 years, I hurt him very badly at the end of our relationship and I wish I could make amends. I still feel guilty for what I did to him years later even though I’ve apologised to him. Back when my mental health was at its worst, I had a bad habit of self sabotaging relationships. If I wasn’t with my current partner, then I would want to give it another try with my ex.
No it didn’t work out the first time probably won’t work out a second time. People change very little the act as if far more often to get what they want not because anything changed internally for them. In my experience
A friend told me once would you buy your old used car that you sold before and had different owners again?
No. Started late in life, only really consider one person an ex. Things ended badly and showed some fundamental differences in beliefs.
I would meet up with her to talk (about what went wrong), but nothing elseNormally not. Although there is one ex who I would consider dating again if she was still single. But she is married now, so that is off the table... LOL
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