Would you date an ex again?

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OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

It would depend on whether we broke up because the relationship wasn't working, or we broke up for reasons unrelated to the quality of the relationship (e. g., I was in a good relationship in 2008 but she moved 240 miles away and we didn't want to try maintaining a long distance relationship.

loveslongnails · Accepted Answer

Only one - the first woman I ever loved.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

No. I do think about it often though, I wonder how they’re doing and if they have matured, but I don’t think my personality now would be compatible with theirs now. We all seemed to have changed a lot.

ManOnFire · Answer

Not without a very serious, heartfelt apology, and a true effort to want to get back with me.

JustNotherHuman34 · Answer

I have four exes. Personally, I wouldn’t. That’s because in those situations, the reasons we broke up haven’t changed, even though it’s been almost 10 years since it’s the last ex.

Two of them cheated on me, so I’d never be able to trust them again. One of them only dated me to get her dad’s attention, and she only liked the idea of me and didn’t really care about me as a person. The last one was nice, but she was a tad controlling. For example, I wasn’t allowed to masturbate unless she watched me 😳 plus, she had a family that was threatening to disown her if she kept dating me.

Yea, I’m sure they’ve all changed in the last decade. But first of them is married, though her and husband are at the point of divorce but have agreed to stay roommates at this point neither is financially stable enough to stand on their own. The second one had two kids with her fiancé and then called off their engagement and ended things, so now she’s hustling taking care of the little ones. The third is happily engaged, and the fourth is (hopefully) happily married…to someone the family accepts.

I was 19 when I broke up with my last girlfriend, and I decided that I’m better off just doing me. If the right person comes along, awesome! If not, that’s cool too. But I won’t be going back to anyone 🙅‍♂️🤣

TruthBringer · Answer

No. Because both my exes have traits that I know will never go away. One happens to be a serial dater, with just a bad personality and with a ton of emotional baggage. The other has chronic depression, has a habit, is extremely self-centered and has racist family. I don't need those kind of toxicities in my life. Especially since I can get with a woman (like I am now) who doesn't bring me those kind dramas.

So instead of me having to worry that if they carry certain bad traits (which i know for some to be 100% guarantee), I can divert that energy in finding better women. So why should I be looking for old cracks in a pot if I can find me a pot with no cracks at all?

WhereIsMyMind · Answer

No, not my ex's. My first was a very cruel, selfish person, and not to mention a compulsive liar.
My second was jealous and controlling. Constant accusations and on one occasion he tried to strangle me when he got in to one of his fits of rage.
My third was just like a big child, immature with a lot of growing up to do.

My current relationship is by far the healthiest I've been in. If we did part ways (amicably), he would be the person I'd consider getting back with in the future.

As for the others, they're all out of my life for a reason... and good riddance!

claudia32 · Answer

No, my ex was very manipulative (always blamed me for his mistakes -- for example: yes I have guy friends and continously blamed me for cheating on him with them -- which I never did.) He cheated on me and blamed me and has said "its not that bad as you did." and I simply told him I never cheated though and he just made that lie up. He wanted to redo the relationship and I agreed and things were perfect for the first month and then it all went down hill (he ghosted me), never reached out--I always needed to do that and when I did he never seemed to care about me, cared about himself. It was always what he wanted and lied to me too. I have tried it twice but I ain't never gonna date him again.

Anonymous · Answer

I did, and fool me once, a? The first time we broke up, there was nothing traumatic about it. We took some time off, and then months later, we were at a party together and the spark was still there, so we did get back together, but the same issues that caused up to break up the first time, were still there, so we ended it for good. I would never tell anyone you should never, because every couple/relationship is different and sometimes time/maturity/growth can happen in between break-ups that do lead to healthy long lasting ones despite the initial break-up, but it just depends on circumstances.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. Well, maybe my first girlfriend, though. She was also my first interracial relationship with a white female (I’m a Mexican guy by the way). Which opened up my eyes to dating other girls from other ethnicities. We met in high school, and we had so much in common. She taught me so much on how to be a better person, and a better partner. I couldn’t ask for a better first girlfriend. She was also the cutest girl I’ve dated too over the years. We stopped talking to each other because we got into an argument that we found out we were both unfaithful, unfortunately. I think it was just lack of communication and the fact we dated long distance. Haven’t seen her since we broke up, and don’t know how she’s doing nowadays. But I wish her the best, and would want to see her happy even if she has a new man. So I think if we met each other again, and we were both single. Also, if she matured as well, I would date her again with no hesitation.

aquamarine321 · Answer

When you truly loved your ex and had that connection and then see them again you may feel tempted to go back into that relationship again, but because of how the relationship ended and we will try to move on, speaking from experience, when I saw my high school ex my heart leap and almost froze and moved on because I don’t want to go back into a relationship with her years after school especially when she had her son, but maybe if she didn’t get a child after we broke up I might have fallen back to her

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

If you used to date someone and break up, you call them an (ex) and then go back dating them! You are using the term (ex) all wrong.  Aka (deleted)

Diodoro · Answer

None. The last two that I would have considered both recently got pregnant. One has a child actually as of early last year and the other is pregnant like three months along. I'm pretty hard line about not taking care of another man's child

Happy for both of them. Goes well man, that's why I dated them obviously long-term. But yeah having a kid with another guy is the last straw for me.

Lliam · Answer

There are girls I left (broke up with) when I was young who I would have gone back to.
I liked all my former girlfriends. But when I was young, I always moved on eventually and found new ones. I never cheated, though. It's just that, back then, I didn't want to settle down or start a family.

On the other hand, if she cheated or left me for another guy, I doubt if I would take her back.

Fayeleo · Answer

Most likely not.
If we break up, we break up for a reason.
Unless that "reason" is cleared, I guess we are set for a 2nd breakup.
I will not fall back into a relationship purely based on emotional dependency when there is a valid reason for parting ways.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Well, let's see. The first one nearly raped me the last time I saw her. Had she not stopped herself, I might've got back with her. The second one I gave a shot to but then, she decided she didn't want me back.. The third, I wouldn't waste my time on her! What we had was great but, I'm not interested in re-hashing with someone that cheated on me for the sake of money!!

Anonymous · Answer

Zero chance in hell. He was an emotionally abusive jerk whom I could never be good enough for and blamed everything bad in his life on me (and was often sexist towards me).
I don't regret the relationship because if it wasn't for it I wouldn't have my daughter. He is a pretty great father too (he's just an awful husband). However, I've been so much happier since I got divorced. Moreover, I'm now with a guy who is above and beyond better then he ever was even close to.

Anonymous · Answer

One of my exes that I dated for 3 years, I hurt him very badly at the end of our relationship and I wish I could make amends. I still feel guilty for what I did to him years later even though I’ve apologised to him. Back when my mental health was at its worst, I had a bad habit of self sabotaging relationships. If I wasn’t with my current partner, then I would want to give it another try with my ex.

AncientWisdom · Answer

No it didn’t work out the first time probably won’t work out a second time. People change very little the act as if far more often to get what they want not because anything changed internally for them. In my experience

hannny · Answer

A friend told me once would you buy your old used car that you sold before and had different owners again?

Drumlin2001 · Answer

No. Started late in life, only really consider one person an ex. Things ended badly and showed some fundamental differences in beliefs.
I would meet up with her to talk (about what went wrong), but nothing else

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Normally not. Although there is one ex who I would consider dating again if she was still single. But she is married now, so that is off the table... LOL

Petermorgan34 · Answer

If the circumstances arose I would give it a try with my first ex, im over her but the thought of what couldve been does linger sometimes but that might also be becuase she was my first

jshm2 · Answer

For most it would be like shoving a shit back up their ass after they've let it go into the toilet bowl.  But I've always let ex's go amicably. I still talk with most of them today.

DCooper · Answer

Oh hell no. All my exes have aged like milk... not into drinking milk when you start finding chunks in it and shit !

Mango-man · Answer

Depends why she is my ex. If it was something serious like cheating then not. If distance or time separated us then maybe.

MannyFrs · Answer

probably not because the underlying issues that were present and the reason for the breakup are still there plus she's already been with probably 100 more dudes by then if its been longer than like a month lol skeet skeet skeet

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

If she was sorry from her heart and regrets what she had done in the past and wants truly to fix things up and i felt that she's honest than why not? Everyone deserves a second chance only if they are aware of their faults!

Heartache0405 · Answer

No. They are an EX for a reason. Why people continue to keep their ex around I have absolutely no idea

Neilbud · Answer

If I noticed a change in the person, yes. It would have to relate to the issue that separated us. But I tend to forgive and never forget. So my commitment level would be a little less at first. Not sure it would work out because of that reason.

RedBullRacingLemia · Answer

If she had logical reason why she ghosted me last time yes.

Anonymous · Answer

She and I would have to have a talk about how she ended up emotionally manipulating me because of her best friend always having a say in what happens in what was our relationship. We’d definitely have to talk in general. Lack of communication killed things

Starwitch23 · Answer

No. They are gone for good. I still love them but they should stay away from me.

AimeeKyle · Answer

It’s unlikely I would get back together with a girl that was an ex-girlfriend or wife. Never say never though. Maybe a girl I went on a few dates though.

taco_truck · Answer

Yes I would because I self sabotage it and didn’t everything to not make it work because I didn’t think I was good enough. Even though we dated for 7yrs

Avicenna · Answer

I had some nice exes years ago, but they no doubt have partners and kids by now, so that's out.

t-8900 · Answer

nope tried that with 2 different girls and ended badly. Now it's a 1 strike and out sort of deal.

mstbooblover · Answer

Not very wise in general, but who knows for sure in advance?

Agape93 · Answer

My last ex? No, I'd rather swallow nails. But other exes, probably.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Absolutely, we only broke up because long distance wouldn't work if that was removed then I would be more than willing

Moose304 · Answer

Under NO circumstances would I do so. This is why you call them an ex!

275153 · Answer

Date her? I’d marry her again. If I weren’t such a shitty husband, I’d still be with her. Oh well.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Never date an ex, as I say an ex is an ex for a reason.

Anonymous · Answer

No even though he wasn't a bad guy, I just didn't really like him and I couldn't picture a future with him.

jobego · Answer

no never date. i have an ex i'd be okay spending the night with tho lol

sheikalana · Answer

Never. They're my exes for a reason and I don't feel attracted to none of them anymore.

bgreek · Answer

WTF? Why there's a reason you broke up in the 1st place? Why would i date an ex again? I hate drama

Rizwan_khan · Answer

No, I will never read that book which I have already read. In fact I will prefer to read other books. Don't waste your time on ex

whosnumber1 · Answer

I all depends on why we broke up. the majority of my ex's no. but there are a couple that I would like to rekindle again just to see.

DizzyDesii · Answer

An ex? No. The one that got away, Yes.

Anonymous · Answer

No. I said it once and I’ll say it again, it is a HUGE mistake to bring people from your past into your life again. Don’t do it.

male_guy_the_dude · Answer

Over time, people tend to remember the good parts and tend to forget the bad parts... So nope... There are so many other reasons but raise the scenario and I can tell you Y I still would not do it...

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Probably not. They are an ex for a reason unless it was a stupid reason we broke up

syskerully · Answer

My first girlfriend. Only because I never got to fuck her in the ass.

dudeinohio · Answer

No way. Always move forward. The same issues would be there with them again.

donnny2367764 · Answer

It would certainly make sex interesting... but romance is out the door second time around

Mehzmeh · Answer

Nope!!! Because the reason you broke up will still be there.

boxxie2002 · Answer

Yes, sometimes you are in a better place and more suited for each other later in life

SorrowAdvisor25 · Answer

Nope, I may continue to be friends with them but i''m not going down that road again.

OddBeMe · Answer

I haven’t “re-dated” but I’m friends with all my exes. As I was before. So I would.

Southcoastradwolf · Answer

I would do anything for an evening with a couple of my ex’s. I fantasise about them all the time.

Better_off_here · Answer

not me there was a reason we broke up in the first place.

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