Ladies, how do you truly feel when a close male friend confesses love?

[Anonymous]

Well I fell in love with my student accommodation flatmate, bother from different parts of the world.
Well when I told her, it began apparent, she just wanted to use me for my attention.
She left for her country, I stayed in the same location.
And without a good bye.
We, at least I know that I enjoyed a lot of time with her, going out for walks , shopping, and bars ( I was willing to sacrifice everything for her)
It was like a date.
Now it's like she that person doesn't exist.
This is my perspective.
But what might be her.
I did everything I could, but I guess looks and body matters.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I don't think you should automatically blame your looks or body. Sometimes two people can spend a lot of time together, have amazing chemistry as friends, and still not feel the same romantically.

From her side, she may have genuinely cared about you but only saw you as a friend. Once you confessed, she might have felt awkward and decided that distance was easier. That doesn't mean all those walks, shopping trips and nights out were fake.

I know it hurts when you were willing to give everything and the other person doesn't feel the same. But rejection doesn't mean you weren't good enough. ❤️

[Asker]

I know but it feels like that, it's just my ego can't accept that.

I just got in an relationship with someone else. It's going really well. But the question is still there, why she didn't choose me, where someone else started liking with half of the effort put in..
I do enjoy my time with my girlfriend. But that question gets stuck in my mind "what if",
Why this but not that.
Type of question and I love my girlfriend more then she can handle sometimes. She feels cute around me, but now I question why wasn't my flatmate like that, I know I comparing 2 different people and there view of me.
But it's just like that.
Questions

[NathanDavis]

sometimes happy AF...

other times... terrified, stressed and devastated, lol

but, most of the time... confused

[queenofcardio]

It's extremely awkward especially when I don't feel the same

[Asker]

Well ❤️‍🩹.
I wish there was some way that people control there emotions.
I am sorry that you had to feel like that