Did my boyfriend’s two-week ghosting mean we were already broken up?

[Anonymous]

I stopped hearing from my boyfriend for two weeks and he never told me anything or broke up with me. I assumed we were broken up because there was times he even denied my calls which shows he was purposely ignoring me. Around the two week mark I made friends with a guy friend and for some reason me being friends with this guy made him come back and put in effort yet he never explained why he disappeared. All he can say was he is busy. He is a big manager but he didn’t once tell me he was going to be busy. The thing is I dumped him and he’s so heartbroken about the break up which makes no sense because he ghosted me for two weeks.

[DishLady]

Sometimes a guy "is busy" bc he needs to make space between you. Possibly his feelings are too intense OR this is the point in some past relationship where he screwed up and he's trying not to do that to you or himself (again) so he steps back.

Possibly he's jealous/upset by your need to have this other fellow in your life for whatever reason. Even "just friends" tends to really bug some guys. It's a reason that guys who are interested in me end up a bit snarky if I have to work with a group of all guys. (Not my fault, it's just the industry I'm in.)

But if you actually DUMPED him then he's not talking to you bc you dumped him... duh. What do you want from the guy? He's probably licking his wounds and not trying to keep you on his priority list.

[HollyK21]

There’s no way you should even want to claim a relationship with a man who can go days without talking to you, let alone weeks. Truth is, no matter how high-level of management someone holds, no body is too busy to send a five second text, as you can see from how he’s crying and reaching out to you now, not too busy for that, right? Exactly. His sudden return when you made a new guy friend had nothing to do with love and everything to do with ego and control. As long as you were waiting for him, he felt secure, but the moment another man threatened his sense of ownership, he came back to protect his pride. In any case, I hope you have ended it and if you did, you made the right choice.

[Anonymous]

going through something similar , ghosted by this girl i had been friends with for unexplained reasons although it appeared she was upset at me for something likely talking to one of her close girlfriend's at there work which did happen but really wasn't serious in nature. i saw her once at her work around start of September then she disappeared whole month , reappeared briefly to say hi to me at her work and gym a week or so then disappeared again. all i can say is very confused and wish i had the oppurtunity to speak to her inperson to make sense of any of this

[Anonymous]

Let me actually answer your question unlike the person who just responded pointlessly to feed her xper addiction “smh”

You’re broken up. The when is irrelevant, so just don’t worry about something that makes no difference to the fact that it’s over now.

[WhitneySnow]

He found another girl during those weeks (or at least was pursuing one) and only came back because he thought you found another guy

[NoDecision]

Maybe he is on vacation? Two weeks is not long enough to jump to conclusions.

[Abbycado]

You posted this

[Iron_Man]

it depends how you look at it