Has anyone done the whole "one more night" thing with an ex?

[147703]

Me and my ex have had a really complicated relationship/break up. we're both still 100% crazy for each other. but right now we just really don't work, just circumstantial/extrernal factors...

we've been talking a lot about how comfortable we are and how even though we've both been given many opportunities.. we haven't been able to.. do anything physically with anyone else. (broken up 2 months) .. so the idea of us.. having one more night.. together kinda came up.

just wondering everyones experience in this?

[cun7n1nja]

I've done that, but it didn't work so well for me. I still had [have] feelings and he didn't/doesn't, so it was too painful to only be getting ONE aspect of the things I was used to getting from him. I wanted the sex, yeah, I always did and half the time it was my idea, but afterward I'd always feel ten times worse because while I wanted the sex, what I was really craving was the intimacy and closeness and affection. Which I'd only get leading up to sex sometimes, and then after, I was right back where I was before; sad and upset that he didn't want me all of the same ways I wanted him anymore.

I had to cut off the sexual aspect of 'trying to be friends' because it wasn't healthy for me, wasn't conducive for healing, I couldn't handle being casual 'friends who f.uck' after such a serious relationship with him. If the breakup had been mutual, it could have been different, but I'm still working through my feelings, whereas the person who does the dumping has the luxury of already being at least half 'over it' when they end it, otherwise they wouldn't want to break up. That gives them kind of a big headstart, while the other person is often blindsided by it and needs a lot more healing time.

[martyfellow]

If you had a healthy relationswhip, you'll never totally get over each other. Just accept that. One more night...well, that depends on who you're with now of course, but I think you'll always your whole lives, be thinking of 'one more night'' together.

[Anonymous]

Like anonymous said, Just try to move on, it just gives false hope,

He either wants a relationship or he doesn't.

Tbh it's just a hook up excuse imho

[Anonymous]

And fall right back in. There is no "just one more time"

[Anonymous]

I've definitely had the idea but he moved...