She wants me to stop talking to my ex

[Flyingwhitey182]

SO my current girl has told me that she wants me to stop talking to my ex. To get her out of my life. Or else she's leaving. Is that entirely fair?

[amberview]

Well, did she know about the ex being your friend before you started the relationship? If she knew, then it's not fair to expect you to change. Now if one day you told her out of the blue that you talk to your ex then that is a different story. Although, it is natural for her to feel jealousy. That's what happens when we really like a guy. It's almost impossible to love someone without feeling it. That doesn't mean that she can't control her emotions about it. However, more than likely she feels insecure and feels it is a red flag that you are talking to your ex.

[jaycee777]

I actually disagree.. your current girlfriend is obviously insecure. If you are genuinely just friends with your ex, then it shouldn't be an issue. Who will she tell you not to see next? Any girl you know? You have every right to still talk to your ex... but you don't have a right to cheat on your current gf.. really if I was you I would be stating to her, that you are friends with this girl, and that she needs to learn to trust you rather than tell you what to do. That threatening if you don't do what she wants, is not appropriate.

[shadowcat517]

No, but it depends on how much time you talk to her. If it's like more than once a day, or more than an hour a day, then she would obviously be jealous, especially if you talk with the girl more than you do with her, or still flirt with her.

However, if you don't, then she has no right to say you two shouldn't hang out, especially if you were friends before the relationship. Convince her that she has nothing to be worried about, unless she has any actual, concrete reason for not wanting your ex in your life.

[MaxPrime]

basically stop calling the ex dude, she may be hot, she may be fun, but the more you talk to your ex the more you aren't talking to your current gf...If your girlfriend is giving you the love then stop wasting time talking to the ex. MAYBE once a month if a must but that's it.

[asdg12]

It's fair. You have to move on and realize that because you and this ex aren't going out your with this probably amazing girl and should realize that you're lucky to have a new Girlfriend and should respect her wishes.

[Ellex89]

I think it's fair. You had a relationship with her and it's okay to check up with her every now and then, because no matte what you'll have some sort of connection with her. Having an ex as a friend..as someone you text every day or hang out with would bother me. It's just not appropriate.

[coolguy93939]

if you talk to her like once a

week like HEY SUP I dont

think its fair

but if you think to her as much

as you talk to your girlfriend or

more, then it might be fair

[AJtogo]

That's totally fair. Switch the situation; what would you want her to do with her ex that she's still talking to?

[Whoknows87]

so stop talking to your EX. Have some respect. She's your EX for a reason.