when I started having contact with this other guy jake, I had been feeling very insecure for a long time, because though I am a pretty attractive girl I need lots of reassurance, and its not enough for me to get it from one guy over time apparently. then I met jake and to shorten the story we started talking to each other on the phone several times a day. and he would ask a lot of questions about my relationship with my boyfriend Fred. he would dig for problems and negatives and soon he started saying things like "you deserve much better, " you cane have anyone you want", "Fred is obsessive and too jealous" etc. he started off saying he respected the fact that I had a boyfriend but kept asking me to meet up with him. after a while I did meet him at his place and we had sex. we have been having sex on 7 - 8 events now and hanging out.
he keeps asking me to come over every single day and calls me several times every day. when I tell him I can't see him because I am meeting up with my boyfriend fred, jake seens bothered and asks "what are you gonna be with him for?" etc.
jake seems to be very much of a playboy, and he has told me he thinks all guys cheat, and that he could never be in a monogamous relationship. but now suddenly he has been trying to convince me I didn't mean those things and bla bla. and when I laugh and say "I could NEVER be in a serious relationship with a guy like you" he seems offended.
what the hell does he want? is he getting feelings for me and is too afraid to say it cus a have a boyfriend already, or does he just want me to fall for him and leave my boyfriend (which he keeps nagging me to do all the time!), so that he has succeeded at "playing me" and get what ever ego boost guys like that get from that?
sorry for long and complicated story. jake is in his early 20's so I think he is to old for this "player" bullsh*t if you ask me, but you never know. he has given me signs in the beginning that he is that kind of guy.
PS. I know that I am a cold-hearted skanky bitch for cheating om my boyfriend and I know I don't deserve him at all. so please you don't need to tell me, and please just answer my questions! thanks!
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