Is he cheating? What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I (21F) and my boyfriend (26M) have been dating for a couple months. LDR, see each other twice/month. He’s the one who asked me out despite my initial hesitation for “moving to fast”. But he just claimed he loved me too much and he just knew he wants as much of me as possible.

I looked through his Instagram posts and see there’s a girl recently commenting daddy on his photos and then he deletes it. However, on his last post he replied flirty to her and they had some banter. Seems like this would only happen between them if they were close.

It made me super paranoid all day and obviously I start texting different. So I decide to confront him that afternoon through a text… he doesn’t open it for hours (until 2AM). I then call him 5 times with no reply.

Should I call him again? Is it reasonable to call him at 3am for this? think he just broke our trust. how should I approach this? And could he be cheating?

[Circlesgames]

No, you have done enough already, he will see it, one it's a ldr am in one now for over 1+years, instead I hope you took screenshots OK, don't question him now as he would have time to cook up lies, question him when he is on the call with you.

LDR is crazy trust me, you need a large mindset to deal with things you can't touch, am driving and might reply again later how to do this

[Asker]

The last thing the girl replied was “you’re mine only”. I want to just comment back “no he’s mine” and play it off cool

[Circlesgames]

OK Do that let's see

[Circlesgames]

He might be double dating, so if he gets angry at u for that, yes he is cheating, reply with updates to me

[Asker]

Or should I just wait for him to call me back and ask him straight up what’s going on

[Circlesgames]

No reply, sorry not active

[Circlesgames]

Reply the girl first, unless you guys are not public if your private then u don't have to but, if u highly want to do that, you can, with this he will call u faster, and then wait for his explanation or anger

[Circlesgames]

And sis, do you guys have different time zones

[AviatorTom]

I don't know if he's cheating but you are invading his privacy by checking his Instagram. Since you seem paranoid about it, why not tell him what you did and ask him if he's cheating.

[Circlesgames]

Stop that talk, she has all rights, all damn right to investigate whatever concerns her partner.

[HelloImGoodThanks]

Don't waste your time or money on your phone bill trying to call him. If some random girl is commenting daddy on his post it is huge red flag. You could maybe message the girl and tell her you are his girlfriend and you were wondering who she was and why she is calling him daddy but I strongly feel it's best just to move on. LDR rarely ever work unfortunately

[Circlesgames]

U can do that, cause a guy would, but it's rather getting into a fight you don't need to, save yourself the trouble, if you fight for it now, that doesn't mean he is staying at will and this could make things more traumatic for you

[HelloImGoodThanks]

@Circlesgames that's why I was saying don't waste your time or money on your bill phone. I would just walk away. Save yourself the heartache.

[Circlesgames]

That's the point, why walk away do you think the next relationship won't have issues too, relationship is for the mature tho (not referring to you but to the readers), we have to be able to find other options than the easy way out, maybe for you, quiting is better but for her she might not be able to quit that easy as you think, and ldr don't rearly ever work, they work, am one, it's all about knowing what your getting yourself into, they are also known to last longer when reunited and romantic life is strong too, than normal usual way of relationship, not trying to say anyone should go into that, am just encouraging those who have started it already and sees your post, they shouldn't be scared and start overthinking things and for those that don't feel loved in their country, please feel free to go online and find a love one in the neighbouring countries or far away, you will always find that one.

[HelloImGoodThanks]

@Circlesgames If a girl is calling him daddy and he is being flirty with her best believe something is going on between them. I wouldn't bother wasting my time staying with them because they should have the respect not to flirt with others. I've dealt with a cheater before so I wouldn't bother wasting my time with any man who feels it is appropriate to flirt with other girls while in a relationship

[Circlesgames]

Understood your opinion... ans why you say so.

[Idkwtfimdoing96]

find another guy

[Idkwtfimdoing96]

you'll find plenty of good ones. This loser ain't the only one

[Asker]

I can’t sleep tho and it’s 3am would it be immature I call him 1 more time? I want to figure out what’s goin on

[Idkwtfimdoing96]

you deserve better <3

[Idkwtfimdoing96]

no don't call him. fuck him and go to sleep. He isn't worth your time and energy

[Idkwtfimdoing96]

istg men can be so pathetic like if he doesn't want anything to do with you anymore then why tf didn't he say so fuckin' asshole but dw tho try to divert your attention and chill. Everything's going to be alright <3

[Asker]

thanks queen. What if he isn’t cheating?

[Idkwtfimdoing96]

np if you ever want someone to talk to I'm here :) well if he isn't cheating then it's still unacceptable to ghost you like that. I'd break up with him and find someone else

[Asker]

Ya im worried he didn’t open it bc he was with that girl!

[Idkwtfimdoing96]

yeah probably but don't think too much about it. gn <3

[Asker]

Would it be petty to reply on their Instagram thread? She last said “you’re mine” and I want to say “no he’s mine”

[Idkwtfimdoing96]

I don't know honestly it's up to you but personally I wouldn't say anything

[Anonymous]

most of the time i'm usually up at 3am not able to sleep from to much stress in my life