My girlfriend cheated on me but she doesn't know I know she cheated. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

So I've gone out with this girl for about 2/3 weeks and I thought everything was going well until our last date, she seems a little bit spaced and nervous. So this past night, I had plans to go to a movie with her, her friend, and her friend's boyfriend. But I had to cancel because I had an unexpected visit from my god-parents, who I was then forced to eat dinner with, boring. So once I got home I went online and started talking to friends. Suddenly I got an IM from one of her friend's who she was sleeping over at her house, saying: Hi, umm please don't tell ---- that I told you, that she hooked up with this guy last night.

Her friend then asked if I still had feelings for her, I did, but after that how could I still like someone who cheated. And you know what's funny, some of her good friends that day were asking me if I was gonna get her something for V-Day sure it is more then a few weeks away but they were curious. I was to, I wanted to get her the most romantic, beautiful, amazing gift ever for I girl I was really falling for. I had a feeling something was wrong because the past few days she has been ignoring me, and not answering my texts or IMs, we usually talk everyday just making sure you know I'm not a stalker. Well back to the point. So what should I do? I still really like her, but I feel betrayed beyond imaginable, and how could I look into her eyes again and tell her I really like her? How!? It's funy because because once we started dating, her friends kept telling me to treat her right and do anything I needed for her to be happy, and I believed I did, because they told me she had a string of very horrible relationships in the past year, and she really liked me and hoped that our's could be amazing and go far. Now I am depressed and angry that I let this happen to myself. I am really dissapointed in her, especially when we first started dating, the first thing she asked me was:

If I was only pretending to like her to get a** and I was honest, No I really liked her and she liked me. I Need Help! What should I do?

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+1 y

so we just got into a fight. it's funny she said that if anyone ever asked about us we were gonna say we are going out...so now she starts telling me we were never an item and that nothing ever happened. so that's it she's out of my life, and I feel good

[voodoochild]

It sounds to me as if her friend is making up stuff...the way she told you just sounds suspcious to me...

GirlFriends don't rat each other out to GUYS like that...They wouldn't risk losing a friendship with a girl over some random guy that is suddenly also going out with them.

I mean, a question to all the girls: would you tell your BEST friends Boyfriend that YOUR best friend cheated on him? While their only dating for 3 weeks? Friends don't do that. so there's obviously something wrong.

So I have a few theories:

1- Your Girlfriend and her friends have problems within their group and want mess eachothers lives up

2- Your GF's friends want to get rid of you (very likely)

3- Your Girlfriend made your friends send you that...a very cowardly way of braking up, which depending on her age and maturity level can be likely or just me being paranoid :P but it's totally normal for a 14 year old to pull stuff like that off lol.

Check out the rumor before you let one text message ruin your life...get the detials, confront her with them.

To me it sounds like the relationship should end anyway...since their's already so much drama and confunsion in the first few weeks...I can only imagine how a relantionship of 2 months would be hahah.,.you guys would end up on Jerry Springer show lol.

[jbone79]

dude, get out of this, stay out of this and run for your life to find someone who is better to date. leave while it's early and you have nothing to lose! - good luck. - j

[julialindsay]

so, I find cheating to be the on e unforgiveable sin in a realtionship, but depending on your lifestyle, if she was wild when you got together, that sort of thing is half expected, not acceptable, but expected. also, note I've been with my man for over 4 years and we have a wonderful relationship, but at the beginning, he had slept with his ex 2-4 weeks in to the relationship one time. I didn't find out for approximately a year. however, after that one time, it never happened again. I think this has a lot to do with the contrition and conviction the person feels for what theyve done. She obviously was not sorry and defended herself by deflecting and saying you two weren't exclusive. therefore I think your in a better place without her as you are now. someone will come one day and treat you the way they should and be fair and honest. plenty of fish in the sea eh? good luck.

[monabme]

I think you listen to her friends too much. You should really try to create a relationship where the two of you can talk about this kind of thing. It sounds like she has had some shady relationships that still effect her. If you can get her to be open with you, and you with her, you may find the root of the problem. which does not justify her cheating on you, of course, but she may need your forgiveness and support more then you realize. Or she might just be a looser. You sound like a decent guy, you deserve better. Best of luck

[champ]

honestly if she is cheating 2/3 weeks of you two being together forget about her... That's the easiest time in a relationship.. The stress free zone. where everything is new..

Tell her, don't tell her you know but break up with the whore,.. because it won't be the last time she does it.

[arsenal25]

personally if someone cheated on me I would just break up with them, you never know if its going to happen again. and the trust between you two is broken it will always be in the back of your mind if you stay together, doubt everything she says

[Asker]

I know....its just that I can't get her out of my mind...like I was really starting really like her..its jsut I don't want it 2 end even though your right

[arsenal25]

Well you should have a convo with her about and then take it from there, see what she says and why she did it, and how far she went with this guy..then make your decision.

[Asker]

Yea but she doesn't want 2 talk....shes hiding behind 1 of her frends whos not letting me talk 2 her

[arsenal25]

Then let her go.. you don't wan to be with someone who doesn't like you as much as you like them. If she is hiding then she is guilty and she knows it, she can't hide for long so give her couple of days leave a voicemail telling her you need to talk. DONT be all needy you been going out for couple of week so its not like its been that long. and try not to jump in to relationships until you get to know the girl better, date around a little I read you just got out of the relationship

[AJtogo]

First of all, you need to find out if it's true. If it is, then it's a no-brainer; break up with her. How hurt are you going to be aftre 2-3 weeks?

[Asker]

I know but like I just got out of another relationship again where the girl cheated so its so getting on my nerves

[AJtogo]

Just dump the beyatch!! Hey, you're under 18; relationships are picked up and laid down like loose change. Go find another one.

[darkscorpio]

Ok first off you didn't hear it from her that she cheated so you need to speak to her and find out for sure.

If she has cheated get rid, once a cheat always a cheat. She will do it again and you won't be able to trust her.

[misslady16]

once a cheater always a cheater,you don't deserve to be treated that way.especially now you are gonna have doubts about your relationship with her,its not gonna be the same for awhile.& and she would have to earn your trust back ,you need to find someone who is truly gonna be there for you and only you and who is gonna make you happy.

[ctinaditty4]

Dude, it's only been 2 to 3 weeks. That is not very long at all. If she cheats on you that early, why are you wasting your time?

[Anonymous]

aw good :) she def. did not deserve you! for someone who has been in horrible relationships she learned nothing , unless she made them horrible herlself

[Asker]

No..ive been told that the guys were jerks/assholes to her

[Opinion Owner]

Well that's what I mean she learned nothing from it! if guys are assholes to you y you asshole to others..you find a good guy and you f*** it up..

[Anonymous]

Okay, this doesn't have to be a bad situation. Don't stay with her. Ignore her. She'll want it, and then you can use her for sex. She is obviously not relationship material.

[Anonymous]

Be like I did like you but I'm not going to be anyones left overs

[mpalmer7]

Dude, this girl sounds like a total bitch. Dump her now and save yourself the trouble.

[TheSuperlobo]

Good! now go get a Rebound