It's displacement. It's easier to transfer your negative feelings towards the person who isn't close to you. That way you can feel the anger but keep the relationship with your cheating partner intact. When you place the blame on the absent party - you make them responsible for the pain you feel. Basically, it's an excuse to stay with a cheater without questioning the reasons behind their behavior.
Denial is another good word as well.
Those other explanations are pretty good haha, but I still don't really get it.
I always wondered the same thing when I would see that happen. I mean there's no reason to hate the other person, unless of course they knew. But if they didn't, they can't really be blamed.
But yeah, I guess it's just that people don't really want to blame the one they love, no matter how obviously guilty they are. Love is irrational. :]
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When we like a person we assume we have chosen the best person on earth.
But when the same cheats, we get an emotional shock not ready to accept that we got cheated by the one who we trusted more than us.
No matter how hard we try we can't totally hate our beloved so we hate the one who took our mate away.
Just like we hate disease not our body for being ill !
because the other person hurt you by sleeping with ur significant other, even if it was unknowingly...it still hurts to imagine them being intimate with ur man/woman. and so you wanna hurt them back.
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