Is it wrong to dump my girlfriend for being bi?

[Anonymous]

I'm not, and I feel like she sort of lied by not telling me this upfront.

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+1 y

Well I asked about her sexual past and she said she was a virgin (which she has since admitted was also a lie)

[BlahDeBlahBlah]

Yes, I think it is wrong. Admitting to being bisexual isn't easy if she doesn't feel comfortable or safe in her daily environment. If that is the case, then by telling you she is bi, she is trying to open up to you more and exposing her true self. She is showing how much she trusts you. Even if her community is more understanding, it can still be scary. She may even still be grappling with the self-realization behind her sexual interest and could use your support.

Now knowing that she is bisexual does not change her from before when you didn't know. She is still the same person with the same feelings. Bisexual people are just as monogamous as straights and gays. People are just people and she likes you.

Disclaimer: I am a bisexual male who has had relationships with both sexes, but they identified as either gay or straight, not bi. My sexuality had no impact on my relationships because when I am with someone, I am interested in her or him. Your girlfriend may not be like me, but if she likes you enough to open up about such personal subjects, she may just like you for more than your genitals. Be happy! And best of luck.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's wrong to dump her for being bi because that is something some might not admit until down the road, and it doesn't change who she is. The issue it would make sense to dump her for is the lying part. A better strategy for someone in her situation would have been to be honest about not being a virgin, just not go into details about her past relationships, maybe saying "I'll tell you more when we know each other better, it's kind of personal". But to me, a girl being straight or bi is a non-issue if I'm dating her, because either way she likes guys.

PS: Sometimes I feel like I'm the only guy who would date a bisexual but does not have threesome fantasies.

[kdizzleforizzle91]

I do think she should have told you about being bi and not being a virgin. If I were dating someone, I'd be honest about everything and expect the same in return. Because of her lying about so much, I think it was right for you to dump her, but if she hadn't lied but you already knew she was bi and dumped her solely for that reason, that would have been wrong.

[DebiPie]

It is not wrong to end a relationship with someone if it is not comfortable for you. It sounds like you are not comfortable with this because she is bi and because she lied to you.

I think you had your answer to begin with, right? Always go with your gut, it never fails you.

[Anonymous]

that's not the kind of thing you keep from someone. you should let them know, pretty early on. she sounds like a liar. Dump her. a year in you might find out she only likes girls--then it sux to be you.

[baliguy11]

no bi girls are hot. likely she did not tell you because she though you would react like this. relax a bit. you might find it very pleasant. message if ya want. I can tell you my experience. might not work for you but sorted it out for me. later.

[baliguy11]

what did you want her to do? wear a sign. get over it. Oh and not a virgin? why ever ask that. only insecure guys get into that. chill out. jeez...

[Prof_Don]

I would dump her for the "virgin" thing more than the "bi" thing.

The "bi" thing she could've discovered after she was dating you (not cheating on u, but looking at p*rn and being aroused by women, etc.).

The "virgin" thing is a BLATANT lie, and who knows what else she would've lied about?

[doestrueloveexist]

No it's not wrong. If you're against it, you have every right to be. And if she didn't tell you before hand, then I agree it's OK to break up with her.

[LexiNinja]

I think on her part, it was stupid not to tell you, and the fact that she even lied about being a VIRGIN? What, dump her ass!

[NOTaTranny]

Yes, you're a horrible person.

No sarcasm. You are scum. She deserves better than you.

[PoeticNinja]

Anything else that determined as a lie? Lets bring this to the Maury show.

[may04]

Lying is never an OK thing in a relationship so it's justified by that alone.

[Anonymous]

If you're not comfortable with it then that's that. It might not be the best reason in the world but that's your choice.

[freewill10]

too complicated, and she should have told you.

[NonchalantBro]

threesome.

[jay6994]

i know right? lol

[Anonymous]

I'll take her. 2 is always better than 1.