Thank you so much for your help! >.< *bows*
Ex doesn't want to burn bridges?? Should I do the deed?
Thank you so much for your help! >.< *bows*
I'd say you should cut all ties with him, at least for a while. You have to give yourself time to get over him. Once you give yourself sometime, maybe you can rekindle a friendship. I honestly think cutting him off completely would be ideal, and since it's long distance it might not be too hard to achieve. But I was in a similar situation, and my ex and I are still friends (although our relationship is complicated...and I don't know if I'd recommend it). But part of the reason we're still friends is because I see him fairly regularly and he's friends with my friends, it would be hard to get rid of him. And I think it's not completely healthy for me to continue to talk to him and I continue to have feelings for him although they have dulled somewhat, but not without a lot of pain. So if you can cut him off completely it'll be better for you in the long run, but I know that's easier said than done. So if you can't help yourself, at least give yourself a month or two without him.
my suggestion is you should cut off all your ties and forget him.as he said he could not see a futrure on you so I think he will never come back.so why do you waste your time on such a person who is not really worthy?
so just go ahead.
I guess what makes it harder is we were best friends prior to our previous boyfriend/girlfriend relationship so maybe he wants to go back to that again? Thank you for your input! I'll keep it in mind as I struggle to make a decision...wow that sounds more dramatic than intended. -__-;
Ah and while he did say that he couldn't see a future with me, he went on to say that maybe in the future we just might get together again, who knows? Like I said, contradicting words. >.<
I cannot answer this for you..are you usually aware of when you are being used? "Should I do the deed?" You are referring to having sex? Then your relationship has devolved into FWB...if you are OK with the two of you using each other...but I don't see any future in that...just in case you merely meant "being friends" then it does not sound as though you are ready for that...unless there is something I am not seeing here...you need to sever the ties..for now anyway...o.O
Ah my apologies for being unclear. By "doing the deed", I meant breaking all ties with him. Basically erasing him out of my life. Thank you for your feedback, much appreciated! ^^
OK..I am glad you are not thinking of allowing a relationship to devolve into FWB! (:(:(:...But it does not sound as though you are ready to be friends? I am on amiable terms with most of my exes.I just talked some to my last ex (prior to my marriage) from 24 years ago...and I told her she could FB me..I honestly don't think I could rekindle with any of my exes...they are good women and good people...I rekindled for awhile with one ex (she is the one I talk about who was 6'1") eh..it is tough
Should you do the deed? If you want, then go ahead.
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