Will we ever speak again?

[Anonymous]

It's been almost three months since my ex and I broke up and I haven't heard from him since then. Things ended badly, and I said a lot of things that I shouldn't have. I left him voice mails and texts and he was ignoring all of it so I told him if he wanted it to be over to just say yes. He never responded. I apologized for everything a couple days later and told him that I didn't want to lose him over something so trivial(He went to a party and never even mentioned it to me, we got into an argument over it). A couple days later, he's single on Facebook and no word from him. Again I tried talking to him. I sent him a text telling him I knew it was over but I just wanted to know why. No reply. A week or so later he told someone that I'm too much handle, b!tchy, absolutely insane, and that he would never ever date me again. I haven't heard from him since the night we got into the argument almost 3 months ago.

We have a class together in school this year and he won't even look in my direction, I try acting like he's not there but it's hard. I still miss him after everything and I want him back in my life. Do you think we'll ever talk again and he'll always feel this way towards me? Should I try talking to him?

**He posted a status online saying he'd rather feel the pain than nothing at all. Could this be about me? Or am I overthinking this?

[laurami]

the status could be about you, but from his remark about you being too much to handle, it's really hard to say.

you're not going to like this next part, but take it from a girl whose lived it:

this is where it's stupid: the argument you had was really trivial, and totally unnecessary. you're not his mom, so he doesn't need to check in with you and tell you everything he does or is going to do at night. YES, it would be kind and considerate of him, but NO he's NOT required to do it. Now...if you made him or asked him to tell you before he went out again...it makes him feel like you're less of his girlfriend and more of his mom. it sucks, I know. been there, done that, and was actually told "you're not my mom"

point number 2: you shouldn't have contacted him in excess like you did. a couple of calls spread out is OK (let's just say 5 max including texting). HE is a COMPLETE jerk who instead of talking it out with you, not only trashed you behind your back but REFUSED to even tell you that you were broken up...he let Facebook do the dirty work for him. THAT'S MESSED UP. DO NOT GET BACK WITH THAT.

point 3: the thing he said about you being too much to handle (at least going off of what you wrote here) probably comes from 1. him feeling like he has to "check in" and is on a tight leash and 2. you calling/texting/etc. excessively.

4. he made it clear in the CRAPPIEST way possible that it's over between you two...and I'm going to guess that the entire reason wasn't just him going out that night it could have been the "straw that broke the camel's back" for him. he didn't even have the ability to text you to say it's over. so sweetie, I hate to tell you, it's over. STOP ALL CONTACT WITH HIM NOW.

5. you two have a class together, which totally sucks. just ignore him. it's going to be a distraction, you're going to over hear things, his voice, it's going to make getting over him worse. if you CAN'T transfer to a different class, then you're going to have to do the hardest thing possible and see him every day.

but here's the silver lining. he gets to see you every day. girl, you BETTER dress up, look FAB, and ACT like nothing's bothering you and he's not even in the room (even if it's tearing you up). Laugh in that class and have fun with your friends (or make new ones) around you. Smile. show him that you're amazing and he's an a$$.

Lastly,

i don't think he's going to try to talk to you again (I hope I'm wrong) and even if he did it would be on his own time and it's already been 3 months so chances are you won't talk again unless you have to. and that doesn't mean intentionally do a group assignment with him. and DO NOT TRY TALKING TO HIM!

[Anonymous]

that is a line from a song... are you sure he is not a fan of 3 days grace?

https://www.YouTube.com/watch?v=fksp8J73GUw

[Middleman]

The problem with your relationship is that you had been coming on too strong, and you never showed a sense of VALUE to the guy - that you somehow made a difference to his life by being supportive. Instead of being a source of his inspiration, your constant nagging and wanting to get him to reply you became a source of pain and annoyance for him. And guys DO NOT like this.

When in an argument guys do not like to be constantly pestered (which is what you did, in order to try to illicit a response from him). But worse, you told him you didn't want to lose him. This was the crux…because it showed him that you were incredibly possessive and weak….

The answer to all this? There's not much you can do, except apologize and through your circle of friends somehow let him know how sorry you feel about what happened and own up to the fact you were a little possessive. Because you're the one seen as possessive, you'll have to wait for his response to get back to you in order for things to work out once more. Try not to have any physical contact with him for the next few months - but if he sees you, do maintain your eye contact in class when you see him. And if you look at him, try to show a 'remorseful' kind of look, and just concentrate on doing your own thing. Over time, this may help him to develop his feelings for you once again…

[Exaliftin]

No. No no no no no no no.

Absolutely not.

It's done. You're reading far too much into the recent events. Him "staring" at you in class could mean one of many things. His Facebook status is probably reflective of the past events, saying that even though it was a rough patch he was glad he went through it instead of not going through it at all. Who knows, maybe he grew from this and learned something.

So can you. You're already on a good path by acknowledging the fact that you made a mistake. Most people aren't willing to admit that they did something wrong, but you did. Accept the fact that he is choosing to react this way and move on with your life.

You're in High School, you still have WAAAY more time to figure things out and find someone else, I guarantee it.