What are the chances we'll get back together?

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend and I met in our senior year of high school. we've been together for a little over 3 years as of now, but he just broke up with me a few days ago. i realize I still refer to him as my boyfriend, but it's hard to say ex.

anyways. he told me the reason why he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore was because he curious about other things, which I get. we've only had each other since high school, we haven't been with anyone else sexually. so i understand completely that maybe "the grass is greener on the other side" and I get that there's lots to explore since we're barely 20. I've had those thoughts a few times tho, where i question if i really wanna spend the rest of my life with him, but i honestly do, I've always felt so much comfort knowing it'd be him and I at the end of the road... until it wasn't.

he said he still loves me and he said this isn't the end for us and he said he hopes he gets over this feeling so maybe it can really be us at the end of it all. it's just hard imagining him doing things with another girl. honestly, if he had just told me he fell out of love with me, it would be 10x easier since I'm not knowing that he wants to experience things with another girl.

I don't know, guess I'm just curious about your guys' input and if there's a possibility we could get back together. i wish i knew exactly what he was thinking. it's so hard, even he never thought it would come to this, but here we are :(

[Leonharted]

I mean, its possible that he doesn't find anything better than you and comes back, but there's no guarantee. If he doesn't want to stay committed to you, then that's fine, but the relationship is over until both of you decide that you want to commit to each other again.

So I wouldn't sit at home, wondering if he's coming back. If it happens, great. If it doesn't, then sitting at home is a waste of time which could be better spent finding someone who is happy to stay committed with you.

[nachosaresexy]

Try to be patient. It's probably a difficult situation for him, with mixed emotions. Give him space and see how he responds.

Are y'all staying in contact at all, or a complete break for right now?

[Asker]

it's been a few days and I haven't talked to him for just one. trying to completely avoid him so I don't get my hopes up, ya know?

[nachosaresexy]

I think it might be best if you 'avoid' him so that he's forced to have space and not feel like you're just a convenient option available for him to go back to whenever he might feel like it.

I had a similar situation with my first long-term relationship. I started feeling internal pressure that I wasn't sure if we should be together long term, and i kept telling myself the longer i waited to break up, the more difficult it would be. So I ended up breaking up with her, but then after a few weeks apart I had a totally different perspective and realized I still wanted to be with her. Having that time & space to sorta clear my head totally changed my perspective.

[Asker]

that's what others have told me and i have this part of me that has so much hope but then the rest of me is telling me that this is really the end and i can't hold out for it and i just really want this next month to fly by so I can see what happens

[nachosaresexy]

... but I also get what you're saying about not getting your hopes up too much. Like I said, try to be patient and use this time to focus on YOU and taking care of yourself. And then when the timing feels right, and depending on he responds, you can figure out if you want to put yourself out there a little more by initiating more communication, getting together for coffee or whatever just to catch up, stuff like that.

[nachosaresexy]

I have a question on a little bit different topic that I"m curious to get your opinion on. If you don't mind can I message you to try to explain?

[Asker]

haha yeah go ahead

[nachosaresexy]

if you give me a follow on my profile page then i'll be able to message you 👍

also, let me know if there's anything else with your situation i can try to help with from a guy's point of view.

[Asker]

okok I just did :)