It's not uncommon when we're frightened to act impulsively, and not generally in our best interest. The trust has been shattered, and he's not sure if he can trust that he will be a priority and feel safe in this relationship. If we want people to reconsider, it tends to be helpful to identify what we did that was dysfunctional and what made it so. Also share how the results of your choices have impacted you and what you plan on doing differently if you encounter a similar situation.
Picture this. You go to the beach and grab a handful of sand. The sand starts flowing out from between your fingers. You squeeze tighter. The sand comes out faster. Don't smother a relationship out of fear of losing it.
Once the trust has been shattered, you'll never get blind trust back. That isn't necessarily a bad thing, as it leads us to stay observant and, hopefully, address things when they are still small. No one can say whether he'll return to you, but, if you write him a letter, explaining the specifics of your behaviors you regret doing and what you've learned from the experience, there is possible hope.
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He sounds confused/conflicted. I think he definitely needs space along with adequate amount of time to sort through his own internal feelings and sort of hit the reset button and hopefully get a fresh perspective on everything.
From what you described, I think it's clear he still has strong feelings for you but until he can process all the other "noise" it's creating too much pressure or stress or whatever he's feeling.
I know it's tough but you need to give him that space. Maybe just let him know that although you want to be there and talking with him and supporting him directly, you understand that it's important for him to have space and let him know you won't contact him until he's ready. I think it's worth it for you to take that leap of faith.
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