Will we ever be on good terms again and if so how?

[Anonymous]

I told a woman I liked her. She's a friend but she had been showing signs of interest and even asked me out. When I told I liked her as more than a friend she rejected me and then things got awkward between us. She has even unfollowed me on social media. What should I do?

[Bellona]

If she was a real friend she would not unfollow you on social media because she has not justified reason. If you were friends with her and she enjoyed the friendship why would she want to through it away if you did not do anything wrong. Bare in mind from a girls perspective it can be hurtful if a guy ends up having feelings for their girl friend because girls are constantly but not always used by a guy as a friend just so they can be more and this can be hurtful as the girl may think that your motives of the friendship from the beginning were only to benefit yourself. I know this doesn’t make sense as you need to know each other usually as friends to have a romantic relationship but the girl may think your motive was to sleep with her as soon as you are in a relationship with her. I think the best thing you could say to her that you did not know that you liked her straight away because you cannot like someone based off their looks and personality straight away which seems to be true in this case, let her know that you enjoyed the friendship and you had no alternative motives, maybe you should say why you like her as that might make you get a girlfriend or friend back as anyone likes someone telling them how good they are.

[Asker]

Thanks for your answer but we have been friends for more than a year and it was only since a couple of months she started taking interest on another level, flirting, being jealous when other women talked with me and other stuff. From that moment on I started seeing her differently, so it was not me who started this. So I still wonder why she unfollows me because I only told her I like her. When she rejected me I was a bit down, but in the end I talked normal again. So why the unfollowing then?

[Bellona]

yes, you should ask her why she unfollowed you and /or ask/tell her what I recommended previously.

[Asker]

Thanks, but not right now. Her unfollowing me is clearly a sign my online presence is annoying her. So I will disappear online so as not to bother her. If she has had time to think I hope we can still be on speaking terms.

[Bellona]

Yes you a probably right, leave her alone for a while

[LoveAyla]

Im not sure, she must've not wanted to interact with you any more after the rejection if she went as far as unfollowing you. You might want to give her some time to think. Maybe Try to start fresh with her after a while 💛

[Asker]

Thanks, I will try. I care for her but this treatment is not what I expected, but if she feels the need to do so, so be it.

[Gent207]

Leave her alone

Don't contact her and let her figure herself out