My ex is engaged and I still love him, should I contact him?

[Anonymous]

We broke up almost three years ago now because I left him for my ex boyfriend. I now have a child with that boyfriend and we are no longer together. I really miss the guy I left, but he's engaged now! They got engaged really quick, so I have to wonder if part of him did that to help get over me. He tried for a year to get back with me when I was with the father of my child and he told me I was the love of his life, that we were soul mates. If that is true, then why is he marrying someone else? I left him, yes, but if his feelings for me were so strong why is he with some other woman. They've been together for almost two years now and I tried to get a hold of him last Christmas (2011) and he did not respond, he was probably still really upset with me at that time :( Should I try again? I want him back so bad :(

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+1 y

I know I messed up, but isn't it at least better to try than to just let him go? Sometimes people do rekindle old relationships and I feel like our connection was strong enough that we could do that. I just don't see how another woman could fill my shoes after how he's said he felt about me before. I quit chasing me because I told him too . . . So it would have to be me to make the first move.

[Ashley8282]

you don't really want him.

you only want him because you are lonely..

---> you only want him because he is taken

---> you only want him because you have nobody

if you really wanted him you would of

A) Never left him for another man and would of worked on your problems

B) Would of taken up one of his offers in the year he spend chasing you

You need a reality check...---> "he told me I was the love of his life, that we were soul mates. If that is true, then why is he marrying someone else? I left him, yes, but if his feelings for me were so strong why is he with some other woman. "

you sound very selfish and you need to let him go

[Anonymous]

SOunds to me like you're a little full of yourself... You left him for some toher guy. If someone did that to me then I owuld never go back to them no matter what they said. I HIGHLY doubt he got engaged to this other girl because he is or was trying to get over you. For all you know this other girl is perfect for him and he found another soul mate ;) You can't expect him to keep waiting around for... 3 years for a girl who left him for some other guy? I know I wouldn't! That's crazy. and do you only want him back now that he is engaged and happy with someone else> Sorry if I am jumping to conclusions but that's the way you portray yourself.

[Asker]

I guess part of me felt like he would just always be there, because he stuck with me through so much and fought so hard for so long to get me back. I just feel like no one else could make him as happy as I could and the thought of another girl with him drives me crazy. There was a chance the baby was his, and now I really wish he had been. As hard as I tried things will not work out between me and my son's Dad, guess I'm just not good enough again. I chose the wrong guy, wish I could tell him

[Beetledove]

Don't do that lady. If he hasn't contacted you- doesn't miss you. He is very happy with someone else which is why he is getting married. It's time to move on and find someone for yourself.

[Beetledove]

You're just going to get it thrown in your face

[Anonymous]

If he ignored your attempt at contact, sorry but he's not mad, he's fully moved on or he would have broke down & eventually got back in contact, that you could have banked on. Leave the guy alone so he can marry the girl who does love him, not one who is all of a sudden single & lonely. Contact him only if you don't mind looking like a complete fool.

You blew it, he now has a new soul mate & he's going to marry her.

He's sounds like a smart man.

[Erwin]

He simply moved on. Why would you find him again anyway? is it just because you're alone now?

That's very selfish, I hope he's smart enough to leave his current fiance.

[Erwin]

oops I didn't notice my mistake, I meant "I hope he's smart enough NOT to leave his current fiance". As for the update, who are you to judge how happy he is? somewhere along the way he probably realized that he made the wrong choice by sticking with you. He THOUGHT you were the love of his life but chances are he no longer feels that way.

You feel this way only because he's getting married and you just got dumped. If he comes back to you (God forbid), you'd most likely leave him again anyway.

[raineydaygurl]

i think you should let him be. maybe he's happy and you'll ruin what he has.

[Asker]

I just don't think he could be as happy with her as he could with me, but I'm probably too late.

[Anonymous]

Don't ruin his happiness. You left him for your ex and things didn't work out, you hurt him once don't do it again. You made your bed and now you have to lay in it.

[Opinion Owner]

@update: if you are that conceited then just go ahead and do it. You will ruin his happiness, chances are he won't feel the same about you. If he did he wouldn't have quit chasing you when you told him to. You are just upset because he wasn't just waiting for you. Get over yourself. But if you must contact him then go ahead and do it. If you didn't you would be one of those crazies to just crash the wedding or something.

[Anonymous]

He's moved on

Don't be the pathetic loser ex that can't move on. He'll pity you but never will want you

It's over

[Anonymous]

He wouldn't marry someone to get over you. I'm sure his fiance would also notice if he wasn't fully committed to their relationship and still pining for you. Move on, concentrate on your kid not winning back someone who is happy without you.

[TouchTheSky]

You're a bitch, and still complaining.