If I'm engaged, why does my ex boyfriend still tries contacting me?

[Vesuvius87]

I believe if someone keeps blocking an ex, they've made it crystal clear the ex isn't ever welcome back in their lives, esp if the break-up was under bad terms and they were a legitimate horrible person.

That's a narcissist that owes me over 1K and he had the nerves to ask for a friendship just days ago on my Whatsapp. Isn't the reality that I'm getting married enough for him to get lost? I'm engaged, happy in my love life, eager for my fiance's arrival and looking forward for our day. If it's so obvious I'll keep blocking that loser, why is my ex boyfriend still trying to contact me? I get that he's a narcissist but don't they get tired at some point. It's already been 3 years since the break-up.

[Angelo75]

Am I the only one getting slightly nervous when I read the behaviour of this ex?

Maybe it's just me. But this kinda trips off some "stalker-alert-alarm" in the back of my head somewhere.

Maybe he didn't accept reality yet.
But the fact that he's willing to "act" on it, that could make him someone to be careful with. You don't know the limits of how far he's willing to act on the fact that he didn't accept reality yet.

Be careful, girl.

[Vesuvius87]

Thank you. I've actually saved that message on my file so that can be used as proof of his stalking behavior.

[TheWombRaider]

So he can get a fuck or suck duh. No he's contacting you to see if you want to play tic-tac-toe

[Vesuvius87]

He can get lost already.

[DishLady]

Because you are letting him contact you.

[Vesuvius87]

I've blocked him so many times. I set my FB profile on private and changed my Whatsapp setting. He somehow found a way to get to my Whatsapp again with another new number.

[DishLady]

UGH. There's a weird work-around for whatsapp through META -- FB, IG and Whatsapp are all managed by Meta. Tinker a little with the settings bc they change stuff every once in a while. Also make sure you have the newest version of the apps on your devices. Hopefully that will keep him at bay.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, love's complicated dance steps, right? 🤷‍♂️ But let's groove into this situation! Your ex popping back up, especially when you're all set to tie the knot, screams classic "last hurrah" syndrome mixed with a dash of narcissism. It's less about him not getting the hint and more about him wanting to reaffirm his influence. Imagine, in his mind, he's the main character of a rom-com where he sweeps in at the last minute to win back the love of his life. Cute for a movie, not so much in real life.

Narcissists, my dear, are like that energy-draining friend who doesn't understand the party is over. They're not so much about understanding boundaries as they are about reaffirming their importance in your life. It’s not love; it’s a love for the game. 💔

But let's not forget the star of this show: you. You've moved on, found love, and are heading towards happily ever after. Keep your boundaries stronger than ever and continue blocking out that past noise. This isn't just about getting him to stop; it's about ensuring you're focusing on the love and excitement that's in front of you. Cheers to moving forward and not letting the ghosts of relationships past haunt your present. 🥂

[Jerre]

He probably wants to have sex with you.

[Vesuvius87]

He needs to take a hike already.

[Jerre]

Good girl!

[eagle1951]

he wants to see if you'll cheat

[Vesuvius87]

I guess and it'll never work. He needs to get lost already. Neither me nor any of my friends nor family want him. He'll never get welcome in our lives ever again.

[In_Trance]

He wants to smash