Why do girls cheat on the nice guys with bad boys?

[bytesbull]

I am the so called "nice" guy. I treat my girlfriend (when I had one) very good. I give her whatever she asks and try to be understanding and talk to her when there are problems in her life. I guess I go out of my way being TOO NICE to her. Every girlfriend I have behaved this way with has cheated on me. The one girlfriend I tried to not be this way with and even went to the extreme of being mean sometimes did not cheat on me and I eventually broke up with her because she was so boring. So why do girls risk a good relationship with a nice guy and cheat with the so called "bad boys"?

[ash2424]

the things about "bad boys" is scientific.like an addiction.someone talks to u, then ignores u, makes you curious, makes you wonder aboutm.the push you away then bring you back.its the excitement of not knowing what theyre going to do.how theyre going to act.when you have a "nice guy" its just not as exciting knowing that theyre always going to be there, and always knowing where they are and what theyre doing.its screwed up but that's they way it is.u might have to tweak what you do and how you act.not be mean but be less available, or don't always do what the girl wants.most girls don't know why they pick the bad boys, but once you figure out why its easier to stay away from them.the type of girl you pick has a lot to do with weither they'll cheat on u.some girls do want to be able to "fix" a guy, which never works out by the way, because women want the guy to need them, and they think that's how you keep them.but they usually leave that girl and are "fixed" for the next girl who comes along.i would look for a girl who knows what she wants and is mature.one who has figured out that a "bad boy"isnt what she wants.girls don't wanna be smothered and they don't want to be ignored, its a fine line.u just have to figure out what works with different girls.

[swiftsaver602]

Here's the deal...in a situation where a girl cheats on a "nice guy," odds are it has nothing to do with him, and everything to do with her and her morals.

Otherwise, every "nice guy" would get cheated on and never have a girlfriend. Which, unlike what most guys on GAG like to think, is not the case.

[HaggardDiva]

Agreed!

[Bbahr990]

We want someone we "can fix"

[bytesbull]

Why is that? Explain please.

[bytesbull]

why get with a guy that will abuse you, not be there for you, when you can get with a guy that is already FIXED. He's what you want to mold the bad into and he's already there. So why not just be with him? I don't understand at all...

[Bbahr990]

Well coming from someone with personal experience...I have no f***ing clue why we do that to ourselves. I dated a drug addict for a year and a half and he ended up breaking my heart. But there's something about a bad boy that keeps you coming back. If he were to ask me out again tomorrow...I'd go back to him. Why? Because girls are stupid. Fixed people are too predictable...we set ourselves up for failure and then go into depression mode when they disappoint us. We like a challenge.

[bytesbull]

but you don't learn from it? I tried to be the bad guy once with a girl. It was great I was cussed her and felt bad afterward. But she seemed to be committed to me and I couldn't figure it out.. I was like WTF? I know I shouldn't have done that but it was a relationship experiment for me. the worse I treated her the more she wanted me... are girls just programmed that way?

I can't be that guy just to get laid or have a relationship. I love being nice. I am destined to being cheated on huh?

[Bbahr990]

There are girls out there who will appreciate that though...unfortunately the nice people are always the ones who get f***ed over in the end. We like the chase...after my ex and I broke up for the millionth time...I started seeing this guy who was super super nice to me and treated me like a princess. He did everything for me...it kind of creeped me out and I was turned off. When my ex and I started dating it was like a competition between me and 2 other girls...like a game...and I won.

[Blamethegame]

That is really the issue CHALLENGE, she said it's a challenge to change him. You said the girl you treated like sh*** wasn't a challenge and dumped her. Go figure lol!

[bytesbull]

@ blamethegame Didn't see it t hat way but now with your comment I have to think about that... psychology is a bitch huh?

[Bbahr990]

I don't get it...

[bytesbull]

well what he said is right. I treated that girl badly to see if I could be the BAD BOY and she just submitted to me and didn't cheat and eventually did whatever I said and I broke up with her. I guess the psychology is the same for both sexes...we want a challenge. but at my age I really don't want that anymore. I just want a woman that loves the beach, surfing and outdoors and is honest with me. I could even stay with a woman that cheated every now an then to have someone in my life. really.

[ladsin]

that is another reason yes XP girls typically want to get the bad boy to turn good for them, like guys want the good girl to turn "bad" for them lol

[Littletad]

I cannot stress enough how perfect this answer is.

[quantumdefender]

have you tried "fixing" a 40 year old virgin...or is that too broken for ya?

[Blamethegame]

Because at some point you where not a challenge to keep their interest, you can be nice and still be a challenge. I use this method, it kinda of player move but have never lost a girlfriend this way. I keep telling myself she is seeing 2 other guys to keep my focus on her and my game fresh. I am never overly available, I don't always text back real fast. Basically I show my Girlfriend if she left I have another life and she won't be in the one I created with her. Sucks to say but the most indifferent usually has the power in the relationship :(

Hope that helps!

[bytesbull]

Yea I guess I'll never understand. Girls get with bad guys and they slap them cuss them treat them poorly but the girl stays but complains how horrible her relationship is. The same girl gets a good guy that treats her nice and spends money on her and cares genuinely about her and she cheats with some a**hole that she will hate. wtf girls?

[Blamethegame]

If you are attracting girls like that, you might want to look at your self? If you ever have a girl that likes to be hit or beat RUN as fast as you can! you don't want that karma in your life! Woman run on their emotions not all but most,\. Find a one that has more positive emotions then negative. They are out there and if you are positive you will attract that kind of woman! Good luck

[kholland65]

Simply put, they're succumbing to your the sexual urges. The bad boy appeals to her subconscious sexual triggers. The bad boy is more exiting, mysterious, sexual, masculine, or so he appears. As a result, her vagina is more drawn to the bad boy type. If her vagina wins out over her brain, then that is when she cheats.

[ladsin]

get ready to hear how over-asked this question is... but yeah happens sometimes, these are the reasons I think why

1.) being to nice is associated with weakness and girls don't want a p**** for a bf

2.) "bad boys" are typically good looking and know how to talk to girls (or else they couldn't be "bad boys")

3.) Girls get bored of someone who always caves in to what they want. they like a little disagreement. one might ask why? well I have no god damned clue, I've heard this more times than Id care to remember but id love to not ever have to fight with a girl but girls for some reason do want to

[HaggardDiva]

Some girls cheat on the nice guy with a nice guy. And, the bad boy with a nice guy, or a bad boy. And, a lot of girls don't cheat on a nice guy or a bad boy. AND, all of those scenarios happen vice versa as well. Guys do the cheating, too.

[dreamer40]

Because just as there are bad guys,there are bad ladies.if you want to call them that.im so sorry,im going through the same thing,looking back now red flags all over the place.WOW!still crying though.i keep telling myself,its for the better,remind yourself they werent worth your time or attention ,someone else is out there for you,count it as a blessing.

[moviedude714]

heck, weird, most of the time, nice guys don't even end up with a girlfriend in the first place, don't get a first date or just don't make it past the first date

[mike5150]

They like a challenge and the excitment of what may happen

[Belgie]

Boredome versus excitement.

[ZenQueen]

we we're idiots, there's no excuse for cheating..