Do you think what I did with the moving guy was slutty or just an innocent incident?

[Anonymous]

Okay I don't want to be considered a slut because I am absolutely not one. My understanding of a slut is someone who sleeps around a lot with different guys. I'm finishing up my last year of med school and I am moving to a bigger place. I hired a guy to help me move my stuff to my new house. I have had a few boyfriends through high school and junior college but when I started med school I decided it would be best to not have a boyfriend and focus on school. Monday morning the moving guy showed up to my house he was by himself I asked him if he had any help and he said no it was just him. He was a very attractive guy and I was almost a little bit nervous around him because he was so good looking, Monday we spent most of the day packing my stuff talking and having a good time later in the day we began to get very flirtatious with each other. I was packing boxes in my room and just happened to be packing my underwear drawer up when he came in and started talking/flirting with me, I thought it was kind of funny because he was checking out some of my thong underwear and my bras in the box. He was coming back the next day to help me finish up I was pretty attracted to this guy and I wanted to tease him a little bit just for fun. When he came over the next morning I was wearing a pretty revealing shirt with a lot of cleavage, my boobs are a bit on the larger side and I haven't had much attention lately so I was hoping he would enjoy looking at my cleavage, we were being very flirtatious again poking around at each other like young high school kids again, I leaned over to pick up a box and he smacked my butt I started laughing and told him he was a bad boy and I returned by smacking his butt. We were in the kitchen and he got very close to me like he was going to make a move before I could think twice I put my arms around him and we started making out, he started rubbing his hands all over my hips and stomach and then after a few minutes moved up over my boobs. I took his shirt off and he unbuttoned my shirt and removed my bra, he started kissing and sucking on my boobs. he pulled my shorts down pick me up and set me on the table, he pulled himself out of his pants moved my thongs to the side and we started having sex together. I was in complete ecstasy it was like something that happens in a romantic movie. Shortly I got on top of him on the kitchen floor and I rode for about 30 minutes until I finished on him and then I let him finish on my boobs and face. afterward I wiped myself off with my shirt we got dressed finished packing my house he gave me his number and left. I don't want to be considered a slut but I kind of felt like I was. Do You think that I was really being slutty or is it okay for people to just enjoy each other in the moment? Now it's Thursday I have not called him back because I left to go stay with my parents for the weekend. I would be interested in seeing him again. Slutty or innocent act?

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That day was a bit more romantic then I may have made it seem but I was just running out of room to write. Also when he laid me down on my table he went down on me for a few minutes and then I went down on him for a few more. It was very hot and steamy sex I just ran out of room to write all the details

[Meedo]

This post might not really answer your question. But I just wrote my theory about slut shaming. So you can skip it if you want.

Women in general are conscious about their reputation. This reputation is judged by :

1- Men : Men are competitive, possessive.. like to feel special. Since on this earth they still feel they are the powerful gender, they feel they can afford to have choices. Some men have better chances with women due to attractiveness , power , confidence, intelligence etc.. this makes them more confident due to their '' conquests'' with women. These men , having had their own conquests , wouldn't judge a woman on her sexual past much. Because basically, they feel they were part of this sexual past themselves . They were seducers , bad ass attractive guys etc.. . Since they feel they had '' more '' than their share with women , they don't mind her sexual past and can easily get past that . Also they are confident that they can get another woman if their relationship with you doesn't last. The second type of men , are men who weren't that fortunate with women. They will regard your attractive moving guy ( who belongs to the first group) as a threat . They will regard you as a women that can bring them conflict and threat. A threat they can't conquer or match . These guys are insecure due to their lack of '' conquests'' . They will probably exclude you from their serious relationship plans if they get to know about this incident. You are of course free to engage in any sexual behavior you like. And most probably you are better without the 2nd group . But if you want them to include you in their plans then this incident should be kept in the dark. If you are a sexually liberated woman and proud of it, then the first group would be the best bet.

2- Other women : Women are trying to catch the best men out there. Women look for confidence , status , influence, wealth. Basically, someone higher up on the social scale . In order to match up to this target, they need to show that they are better than other women who are in competition with them. Thus these women might try to tarnish another woman's reputation in order to lift their own value . Slut shaming in this sense is not a monopoly of men. It is a mechanism used by women to push each other down the social ranks and make less women available to their target male. This is specially the case if the competition is near. You could find a woman all for sexual liberation in general. However , when an attractive female moves next door. They could start gossiping about her to their husbands. Making sure he sees her as '' low value'' . But how do they do that ? They try to convince their husbands that this woman is ''easy'' . Notice that they are playing on the primitive instinct of males. Being competitive. So these women themselves are actually partially a reason why slut shaming is going on ...to be cont

[Meedo]

These women label their attractive female neighbour as easy.. in order to indirectly give a message to their husbands ( whom they wanna keep ) that if they try to approach this woman .. they wil have to deal with ''male competition'' ( remember point one above about men being possessive?) and they are trying to give the message that she is of a lower social rank. Because she isn't picky.

[Meedo]

A woman sexual past is usually judged by the above groups on two factors a) How many partners did she have b) how did these interactions go . If we say that a lady has slept with 10 men... it does make a difference if she is 30 year old or if she is 16 . Even though factor a) is constant .. basically the number of partners .. factor b) comes into effect... is she someone who is easily seduced? Were these relations a one night stand ?were they after months of dating , serious relationships?

[Meedo]

To sum this up.. if you don't take into consideration what people say or think about you .. then you have nothing to worry about.. if you fear your social value might be be down graded by a segment of potential suitors and a section of the female society then don't bring this story up... but I feel you are trying to sooth yourself here. You are worried and want people to tell you something you want to hear. The word slut is meaningless.

[Meedo]

Your question should be '' Did I loose some of my social value due to me being easy ? '' The answer is .. anything that is desired .. becomes more precious when it is scarce. If a man allows every female passer by to fondle his genitals as they please.. would he feel special for you ? Would he have high social value ? This concept doesn't apply just to women. It applies to everything. What makes this concept to negatively affect women more than men is the fact that women's attraction ...cont

[Meedo]

is mainly ( not entirely ) to confidence. Women feel vulnerable and they want someone to protect them. So they seek a man who is able to get the resources that is needed. Men with confidence are natural born leaders and are able to access these resources more than others. Thus even though women hate players and cheaters.. because these guys usually are confident .. women are aggravated to them.. now lets look at the primary attraction with men.. men primarily( not entirely )...cont

[Meedo]

are attracted to looks. Men don't need women to ''protect'' them... men need '' softness , beauty and comfort '' after a long hard day at work. Thus it is reasonable that they are attracted to looks.. and they are also attracted to things that are only their's ( possessiveness and competition with other males) Therefore they will judge primarily based on attractiveness and on how you can offer them ''exclusivity'' .

Now what I wrote here is an article really and not an answer !

[Meedo]

I think that this whole mechanism is not going to change. I admit it is not fair to women. But .. this is life as it is. The only way is to try to be smart about it. I know I am gonna get so much hate because of what I wrote. But it is the simple truth of the relationship dynamics. And I hope I benefited someone.

[fairtrade]

First of all, you have the wrong definition of the word "slut." That's the definition women would love to have you believe is what a "slut" is. It's also the definition butthurt resentful guys you "didn't" have sex with would like you have you believe is the accurate definition of the word. As the saying goes, "A whore sleeps with everyone, a slut sleeps with everyone except you."

The word slut originated in the 15th century in England. In Middle English, the word first appeared as "slutte," which simply meant a woman with no virtue (i.e., an "uninhibited" woman).

Around the 18th century, the British replaced the word "slutte" with a more formal version: "slovenly." When used to describe a person, slovenly simply meant "untidy, especially with respect to personal appearances." In other words, a sort of disheveled and messy look. When used to describe a young woman, however, slovenly mean "without regard to her image or reputation." In other words, this was a woman who acted without having a care in the world about how others would perceive her or think about her.

Compare and contrast the word "whore" or "prostitute" from "slut." A prostitute (or, "whore") is a woman who exchanges sex in return for things of value. By contrast, a slut is a woman who is sexually honest and uninhibited. Can a woman be a prostitute but not a slut? Yes, if she keeps her prostitution business on the down-low because she's concerned about people finding out. Can a woman be a slut, but not a prostitute? Yes. Think of yourself as a perfect example.

You were already paying this man money to help you move. You weren't getting anything extra of value from him in exchange for the sex you had with him. All you were getting was sex. But even then, notice how "sluts" are not necessarily "easy" or even "promiscuous." Neither of those things are within the definition of the word! It's not like you did this with just "any" guy who walked through that door. This was a hot and really good-looking guy, who also felt comfortable and confident enough to flirt back with you. The slut has a high bar in terms of what she wants sexually from a man. But, unlike inhibited women, as soon as she finds a man who satisfies her standards and has what she's looking for, she doesn't give having sex with him a second thought (hence, uninhibited). Lastly, she doesn't need to find 100 hot good-looking guys to have sex with in order to be a slut; she just needs to find one. What defines "slutiness" is "lack of inhibition regarding sexual activity," not "promiscuity."

So, yes, you were slutty. But, so what? Is that really such a bad thing?

[Asker]

Wow yeah I may be a slut but I'm pretty sure you need a life

[notsoserious]

Pretty sure he was saying that your actions were slutty and not you as a person..

[fairtrade]

That, plus I just went through the friggin' etimology and history of the word to show her that it's not a bad word, and how it's misused in America. Whatever.

[Anonymous]

Like you already said, I think a slut is someone who is sexually active with many partners with no commitment. This sounds like a one time deal for you, you both were attracted and took advantage and there is nothing wrong with that. Life is short, get your kicks while you can! Sexy story by the way, you'll never forget about that day lol.

[desidoll]

If both of you are single why would you think you are a slut? Just make sure you guys aren't in any serious relationship..I won't call you a slut but your act was quite inappropriate.At least don't make him think you are that easy.Anyway It happened so just have fun and enjoy your time!

[MikeK]

Hilarious!

[69MyWoody]

Did you give him your number or are you supposed to call him? You are not a slut for enjoying a hot f***. However, every time you call him, he will now know you are aroused and need to get laid. He'll come over and do the job, then go home. Eventually, you will be that slut you were fearing. Make good use of it. Clubforeplay.com needs single women, like you. It's mainly couples looking for women for threesomes.

[Anonymous]

How dare you actually enjoy sex :O Conservatives would be disappointed in you!

So sarcasm aside, your sex life should be your own personal business and there's no reason at all why you should be ashamed of it.

[Anonymous]

I'm not trying to be rude but it was kinda slutty. It seemed like you were real easy toward him and it was literally a one night stand.

[Anonymous]

Obviously. Stop with the med school and be a p*rn star already.

[desidoll]

I guess gag need to have some requirements before letting some primary school kids joining this site.

[Opinion Owner]

hardy har har. And you should become a comedian.

[MikeK]

Haha very funny!

[blondfrog]

Hey your pussy your choice lol what a lucky guy dammit. lol

[Anonymous]

Yes it is slutty, but that doesn't mean you're a slutty that just means your actions were slutty.

[Anonymous]

Another disgusting **** roaming around out there. Ew

[Anonymous]

you went to med school and you never learned how to use a paragraph? smh.

[JSmuve]

I think I just read a script to a p*rn movie.