If a ex avoids eye contact and goes out of his way to avoid me can I assume he's over me?

[XRabbitHeartX]

Straight forward question. My ex has started acting like this around me now. He used to be neutral, now all of a sudden I'm getting the no eye contact and he avoids me all the time. Does this mean he's over me or does it mean he is thinking other things. I'm just curious because it is slightly upsetting to be ignored like that. I'm not asking for a friendship but geez, you don't have to be rude to me either seeing as we are not supposed to be enemies. Our break up was fine and gentle-ish. We had our arguments but last time I checked we were good.

[dodgypirate]

I don't think he is.

I think he's trying to get the message across to you that he is, but he, himself, isn't.

I've done this before.. I guess I'm trying to get attention and it works. Sounds like it has worked for him too.

Now it's up to you, if you aren't over him and you want to get back with him, then give him CLEAR signs - don't beat around the bush.

If on the other hand you are over him (which seems to me you aren't), simply ignore him yourself.

This is why it's so difficult to be friends with exes. This is why I chose to stay away from them.

[jrmitchell2629]

This normally means he still is attracted to you and its painful for him at least to make eye contact with you iff you can get his attention try to make him with out him noticing keep that eye contact with you for a few minutes if you see his eyes tear up or make a sad frown or honestly the eyes do not lie try and read his thoughts through his eyes or plain out ask him to be honest

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

Just because he's going out of his way to ignore you doesn't mean he considers you an enemy.

Maybe he still has feelings for you but he knows that you two can't be together so the best way to deal with it is to keep you out of sight and out of mind, literally.

[cavmanier]

I don't think there is a way to know. My guess would be that he doesn't want you to be around him. Yes it's possible that that's a game but I think that's very unlikely. Consider how he acts to help you figure it out.

[Anonymous]

I have done this because:

- I don't want to bother anyone

- I don't like the feeling to be around someone who rejected / broke up with me.

[Nino880]

I think it means he's actually not over you. Talking to you would be difficult for him, so he finds it easier to ignore you.